AmandaJR
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Nope - why? Am I being impersonated??!
The same person on and off the golf course?
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Nope - why? Am I being impersonated??!
bobmac
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I stopped playing pro events for the same reason.
Although the stakes are a touch higher than your average monthly medal, I still got fed up of the lonely walk
Although the stakes are a touch higher than your average monthly medal, I still got fed up of the lonely walk
AmandaJR
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I stopped playing pro events for the same reason.
Although the stakes are a touch higher than your average monthly medal, I still got fed up of the lonely walk
I hear you Bob and have just been asked to play the next 2 scratch matches and, whilst keen to help the club, I really don't want to play them
bobmac
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Well don't play.
There's no point playing golf if you cant have a giggle out there
FairwayDodger
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I still say don't close the door on these games just because you've met a few ignorant players. I love these scratch matches and think they really helped my golf progress. Plus I really haven't met anyone like you describe so I still think you've maybe just been unlucky so far!
AmandaJR
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Agreed and will say no...
I think for now my head and heart just not in them. It affects my game too and a tougher competitor than me (even off a higher handicap) would fare better for the team.
Edit - FD - perhaps it's just the English
chrisd
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I love a chat on the way round too, I'm never turning pro so why make it feel like a pro comp?
I turned up to play in the club championship and a 20 handicapper who was one of our three ball said in the pro shop as we were booking in that he didn't want to lose concentration by chatting through the round. I just said that where he hits the ball most of the time that it was unlikely that he would be within earshot of anything I was likely to say!
I turned up to play in the club championship and a 20 handicapper who was one of our three ball said in the pro shop as we were booking in that he didn't want to lose concentration by chatting through the round. I just said that where he hits the ball most of the time that it was unlikely that he would be within earshot of anything I was likely to say!
FairwayDodger
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Edit - FD - perhaps it's just the English
I thought about that but decided not to post it, even in jest! :lol:
AmandaJR
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Well it makes me wonder as so far it seems the majority here! Perhaps the standard is generally higher up there so they don't get all up themselves just coz they're single figures! I'm half Scot so don't quite fit!!!
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JustOne
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There's a lot of 'God's gift' golfers out there, especially once they start to press 3,2,1,scratch h/caps.
Watching a 'look at me' pro stalking the range is my favourite.
Watching a 'look at me' pro stalking the range is my favourite.
Foxholer
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In my experience, the Scots have a completely different (and better imo) attitude to Golf to that 'Darn Sarf'!
Does seem, to me, something of a 'Ladies' thing too - though could have changed in the nearly 7 or 8 years since I had much experience of that! Cliques seem to be much more common in Ladies sections - and not just Golf!
I'd suggest that rather than walking away from potential enjoyment - though with possible issues as well - you take it as a challenge to at least co-exist with those that have a different approach to yourself. It's one of the interesting things that playing Golf provides - and I believe should be embraced rather than avoided. But then I'm Male!
FairwayDodger
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Imurg
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Hmmm.... you never said you used to be a lady!
It answers a couple of nagging questions though.......:rofl::rofl::thup::cheers:
Foxholer
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Hmmm.... you never said you used to be a lady!
:rofl:
Maybe a 'girl' (or 'big girl's blouse'). Never a 'Lady'!
Rarely a Gent for that matter! 
Sid Rixon IV
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SGC001
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So here's something I'm really struggling with. I'm naturally quite out-going and gregarious and enjoy meeting new people and chit chatting. I'd sum it up by saying I'm a friendly person and this is the case whether I'm playing golf or not (apart from a secret trolley wheel kick when I'm really stuffing up)! Recently though I've played some higher level competitions to those I've experienced before and it seems the general attitude is to walk round in all but stony silence. Occasionally the barriers are briefly dropped only for them to be quickly raised again and usually very rudely...
It's making me re-evaluate the type and level of golf I want to play as quite simply I don't enjoy it. This past week it was our invitational and played in teams of 4 so I had 3 guests. There was a competitive element but also a load of chat, laughs and good natured banter. I loved it - every minute of it and that included the holes I managed to stuff up and the fact I was the only one not to get a birdie in the team
So perhaps I expect too much from fellow competitors and/or opponents and the re-evaluation has to be I keep away from such competitions?? Or make sure I have a caddy...
I wouldn't let it spoil your game, there's plenty to enjoy with your own golf, the course, the views, fresh air...
besides you could always try the Trevino approach who was purported to have said something along the lines of I don't want you to talk, I just want you to listen, when his opponent said they didn't want to talk.
We have several players at my club who are well known as "lonely" players and will barely talk to partners even on the tee between shots. I let out a little groan when I get drawn with them, but usually the other guy is charming and makes the round less arduous. I'm not sure if it's just me but a lot more younger players seem to think they have to be aloof and in the zone all the time because they think it is what Tiger and the other top pros do. For me, it is about having fun and being able to laugh at my mistakes and enjoy the good ones and being able to share that with my partners
Birchy
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You only need to be in the zone while actually playing a shot. Anybody trying to concentrate full on for 4 hours or whatever is going to fail.
You need to chat a bit as you go along imo to help keep you relaxed and to stop yourself overthinking the game. Its great to have a chat & a bit of banter too, its makes golf even more enjoyable than just the game itself.
You need to chat a bit as you go along imo to help keep you relaxed and to stop yourself overthinking the game. Its great to have a chat & a bit of banter too, its makes golf even more enjoyable than just the game itself.
Region3
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I'm not defending them because being ignorant for 4 hours is just plain rude, but was it possible that they just weren't naturally chatty people?
I'm perfectly happy to talk and joke all the way round (except on shots obviously) but my own nature is not chatty and outgoing, and sometimes struggle for things to bring into the conversation.
I'm lucky that my regular partner never shuts up!!
I'm perfectly happy to talk and joke all the way round (except on shots obviously) but my own nature is not chatty and outgoing, and sometimes struggle for things to bring into the conversation.
I'm lucky that my regular partner never shuts up!!
