The same person on and off the golf course?

[AmandaJR]

I'm not defending them because being ignorant for 4 hours is just plain rude, but was it possible that they just weren't naturally chatty people?

I'm perfectly happy to talk and joke all the way round (except on shots obviously) but my own nature is not chatty and outgoing, and sometimes struggle for things to bring into the conversation.
I'm lucky that my regular partner never shuts up!!

Nope. Beforehand chatty - relatively, and afterwards too. She even said afterwards she deliberately ignored me and prefers her opponents to have a caddy so they can talk to them and she can ignore the pair of them! At least she was honest but to be frank if someone is rude to me for 3 hours and then expects a nice relaxed chat afterwards then they can forget it.

 

[garyinderry]

I would hate to think I am more of a wally off the course than on it. heaven forbid !

 

[Foxholer]

Nope. Beforehand chatty - relatively, and afterwards too. She even said afterwards she deliberately ignored me and prefers her opponents to have a caddy so they can talk to them and she can ignore the pair of them! At least she was honest but to be frank if someone is rude to me for 3 hours and then expects a nice relaxed chat afterwards then they can forget it.

That's a situation where the other person possibly owes it to you to explain their attitude - in a diplomatic way of course. It's not actually an unreasonable approach; just needs to be aired!

That way, you shouldn't take offence if you get 'barked at' if cross their boundary.

As I posted earlier, if you get used to playing with/against those sorts, it shouldn't penalise you. Just consider whether it's done as games(wo)manship/control!

 

[Wolfman]

Hi Amanda

My immediate suggestion is to stop what you are not enjoying before it ruins your golf

Its a hobby a pastime, a bit of fun keep it that way and you will play for many more years

Competitions are ok if you wish to heap that amount of pressure on yourself and risk spoiling your enjoyment

 

[AmandaJR]

Hi Amanda

My immediate suggestion is to stop what you are not enjoying before it ruins your golf

Its a hobby a pastime, a bit of fun keep it that way and you will play for many more years

Competitions are ok if you wish to heap that amount of pressure on yourself and risk spoiling your enjoyment

Thanks Wolfman and that's what I've decided. Said no to the next 2 scratch matches although a final "big" inter club competition I'd already committed to which I'll do. It's medal play, teams of 3, drawn and best nett aggregate wins. David is going to caddy for me so whoever I'm drawn with/against can ignore me as much as they like! It's not only the golfers I'm encountering but a pressure I impose on myself. Handicap keeps getting lower plus I'm at a new club and feel I need to perform especially as I've ruffled some feathers in getting picked for these events over more established players. So even my fun games aren't relaxed fun as I'm striving too hard to play well, work hard and keep my game in order so they have a pressure element. I don't know how to just trust my game and let it be somehow but played on Saturday and really enjoyed it despite not playing great - it didn't matter as I was having fun. Just needed to seriously re-evaluate and remember why I play this beautiful game - enjoyment...

 

[Deleted member 1418]

Well don't play.
There's no point playing golf if you cant have a giggle out there

Totally agree with you Bob.

 

[AmandaJR]

Totally agree with you Bob.

He always speaks sense and I (usually) listen

I feel so much more relaxed about the game in general which is rather refreshing...

 

[bobmac]

and I (usually) listen

A woman who listens?
IMPOSTER

 

[harpo_72]

I have played in scratch competitions in my time, may start again if my wife lets me. I have come across a few miserable sods as well and some really nice people. I think you can be competitive and polite. I have admitted previously that I am not a great talker sometimes (my wife was worrying about our marriage in the car last night when I did not say anything for 20-30 minutes) but I can listen and I will listen and you will get smiles and "really?" etc... its just sometimes I have little to contribute. However the other week I was in the bar and I think I surprised my playing partners when I referred to the F1 teams as a bunch monkeys and then proceeded to slag them off on a technical level, for a whole 5 minutes, without a break. Kind of killed that conversation . But my mother told me that I could be a bore at times with a conversation limited to golf and racing cars (I don't talk about other things with my mother better she doesn't know the half of it ... ) I never remember jokes either ... So if we have a forum meet up I will be the quiet polite bloke or the one groaning about the greens, fairways and tee boxes etc...

 

[Cityfanbrian]

I like a laugh when playing with people I know but I must say that my scores are better when I play with partners I don't know.