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Neighbours and garden boundaries

In my old house I've told the neighbours I'm cutting my hedges (inherited not established by me) and can I come round to trim the hedge on their side too as they're my trees so my responsibility. I put down a tarp and collect the cuttings so as not to leave a mess on their side. That seems like the responsible way to do it. IMO he should be doing this for you. Fact he's not and you're having (or will be having) to cut his hedge seems wrong but little you can do legally.

Suck it up or poison his trees, our neighbour where we live now takes all my sons footballs despite never using the back garden they end up in, yes it's my lads fault for kicking them over and I could challenge it but I wont give her the satisfaction, she's a miserable old toad, sort of hate her for it though. Taken perhaps 15 balls over 3 years, nark the kid about it, dont speak to her next door at all. Had a burglary recently. Just want to move. Life sux sometimes, even the little things.:angry:

I’m probably not going to suck it up. You might think you’re being the bigger man by not challenging them and walking away etc. But in reality once people walk on you once they’ll keep doing it, as will others.

Iv no idea what the cooper nails thing means😂😂,
 
Bags of salt. I know a bloke who had a problem with a neighours tree. He bought a load on salt lifted his fence panel and dug down into the roots, tipped the salt and back filled. Dead tree.

We have a hedge between our stupid neighbours. Over 6 foot. I trim our side (1/2) down to 5.8ft (Head height for ease of cutting), to try and encourage them to do the same. They ignore it and trim their side to 6ft. So we have a hedge with a side mohican. LOL....well not actually.
 
Having good neighbours is very under-rated...

As is being a good neighbour:)
In about 10 days I am leaving my karaoke loving neighbours in the next door flat and have neighbours with the nicest front garden next to the new place. It's either going to be bliss for the advice we can receive, or hell for all the telling off we get. I am so bad in gardening, I killed a bonsai tree before.
 
In about 10 days I am leaving my karaoke loving neighbours in the next door flat and have neighbours with the nicest front garden next to the new place. It's either going to be bliss for the advice we can receive, or hell for all the telling off we get. I am so bad in gardening, I killed a bonsai tree before.

Top tip.

Be careful if your new neighbours come knocking with a random suggestion. Think first. You could use it in negotiations years later.

Because:-
If they were anything like ours when we moved in they (she Fat Jill) took the opportunity to ask if they could dig out the hedge and put up a 6ft wooden fence. My guess is that they didn't want the hassle of having to maintain it. My wife, as it was her Fat Jill spoke to, said no as she liked the hedge with the birds zooming in and out. Hence we now have this ongoing battle over the height of it. They also cut the bottom of a nice Mountain Ash tree growing out of the hedge that was blocking out the morning sun on to their patio the first time we went away.
We smile and have the odd, short, conversation with them but I dislike them. We cannot figure out if it's Fat Jill that stirs things up, or if it's just her that fires the bullets.
 
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I’m probably not going to suck it up. You might think you’re being the bigger man by not challenging them and walking away etc. But in reality once people walk on you once they’ll keep doing it, as will others.

Iv no idea what the cooper nails thing means😂😂,


It's not being walked on, it's trying to behave responsibly and maintain a manageable relationship with neighbours that can run for years or decades. There is little I can do re footballs going next door if she wont return them or allow me to get them so steamin round there would achieve nothing but to let her see I was annoyed. It clearly annoyed her the balls coming over and I get annoyed by my kid for kicking them over. I'm at fault, shes at fault. So everyone's annoyed. Hasn't happended for a good while now as my kid ages he's stopping garden football and she's just lost her bed-ridden husband with carers in 4x per day so best let things lie sometimes.
You can jump up and down all you like but your neighbour doesn't have to cut his hedge on your side unless you take him to court. What fun that's be over trimming of a few trees.
Life's too short.
 
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