How much does a new baby affect your golf?

[PPE]

I am soon to be a daddy for the first time in early May so I am now trying to get as many games as I can.

Obviously golf will take a back seat for a couple of months but my question is when I get back, due to sleep deprevation how much will I actually feel like playing golf? as I am going into this blind!

I did joke to my mates that a few minutes after he is born that I was going to hand him (as we know its going to be a boy) a set of plastic clubs and say "I'll see you on the first tee in 30mins son!!".

 

[NWJocko]

Firstly congratulations!

I wasn't a member back then but had been playing pretty regularly and it nosedived!

After a couple of months I started to go out for 9 holes on my own first thing on a Saturday or Sunday morning. That way I was only gone a couple of hours, and back about 9/10am to send the day with the family.

I'm going to be a dad second time round end of August so will definitely go on the back burner for a long time after that I expect.

Still, little sacrifice to spend time with them

Edit: On the sleep deprivation front..... Once you have your first day back at work after a night with an hour or 2 of sleep you'll be fine. I thought I wouldn't be able to cope as used to lie in a lot. It's getting through the first day and knowing you can do it, after that it doesn't seem so bad.

 

[PhilTheFragger]

Its quite simple mate

Forget anything to do with Golf, social life, sex, (this list isnt exhaustive)
for at least the next 3 years, by which time number 2 may be along

See you in about 10 years

Congratulations by the way, I wouldnt have missed it for the world

Fragger (Ex House Husband)

 

[G1BB0]

it wont affect it at all, get the missus told, men are the breadwinners and also need their man time(golf, pub etc).

On a sensible note I wouldnt know but my football & fishing took a back seat for a few years when my 3 were young

I am sure you can still have your golf time and the missus can have her girlie time (all couples need some space).

 

[moogie]

Firstly Congratulations
It was after the Birth of my son ( now 12 ) that I actually took up the game of golf
Around the time he was 2, I needed to get myself a hobby, some guys at work played golf, I started, and well and Truly got the 'Golf Bug'
Now 10 years Later, still playing, still loving it.

Nobody can prepare u for whats about to happen to you & your life
Take a seat, Buckle up, and enjoy the Ride
Highs & Lows along the way, but I really enjoyed the 1st 2 years of infancy more than anything

And as said in an earlier post.........Golf, going out, social life, sex, etc...... U will just be happy to get a good nights sleep
Happy Days :cheers:

 

[Billysboots]

Congratulations!

The amount of golf you will play depends on your relationship! I still managed a couple of times a week when mine were toddlers, and now they are both at school it is a lot easier still.

My wife was very fair - providing I did my bit with the kids and also around the house, she was always happy to allow me a couple of knocks every week. I didn't take the mick, and as a result she was quite relaxed about it.

 

[NWJocko]

My wife was very fair - providing I did my bit with the kids and also around the house, she was always happy to allow me a couple of knocks every week. I didn't take the mick, and as a result she was quite relaxed about it.

This is VERY important. I like to think I do my bit and love spending time with my little girl so often gave my Mrs some free time, and still do encourage her to get out and see her mates etc.

If you start taking the proverbial she will get pretty resentful pretty fast. I have seen this with friends of ours!

 

[pbrown7582]

The hard part when you feel like playing is getting out of the house by the time sleepless nights have eased and you get a pass out you'll have a toddler saying daddy don't go play with me.
I took to very early morning rounds in the summer so could be done and back home not long after breakfast.
Good luck with it all

 

[Alex1975]

I will reply to this when the baby is asleep.

 

[brendy]

6 nosedived to 9.6 but have fought it back to 7.6 now that all three are not quite babies any more.

 

[Evesdad]

I wasn't really playing when my first was born just a handful of rounds a year so didn't effect me much. The second came along when I had just joined my club and I actually play more now! Being the house husband works in my favour as I play every Saturday morning and get back just after lunch and in the summer get the odd evening round in. As said above as long as you don't take the perverbial you should be ok after everything settles down.

Congratulations and all the best!

 

[Deleted member 1740]

All depends on how your missus can cope without you for 5 hours.

From my experience I still played a 2-3 rounds a week though some of them was when I should've been working!

Good luck and enjoy because their not babies for long.

 

[wookie]

Our first was born 6 months ago and since then I've actually joined my first club but as said above this is going to depend on your other half and how much other time you have to spend as a family.

Playing wise I think you must suffer a bit due to lack of sleep and I still dont feel back to "normal" energy wise. I think it'll be a while yet but well worth it.

 

[Piece]

My kids have just turned 4 and 2. For me, especially when they were babies, was to strike a balance with the wife...having some man time, playing once every two weeks.

Good luck!

 

[DCB]

Having kids isn't necessarily the end of your golf. It's got to be a time where you are around more to support your wife and to share the load. However, it doesn't mean an end to your golf, just a bit of consideration as to how much and when you play.

I was fortunate, my wife plays as well, so when she was expecting, she played until she was 5-6months gone. She was back on the course at the beginning of May just over 3 months after our daughter was born. When she returned to work, I'd often have to be at the club on ladies medal nights to pick up our daughter before she teed off. Wouldn't be the first time she had to leave my daughter in the rock a tot in the pro shop and tee off as I'd got stuck in traffic. bet that's not something they cover on the PGA training courses

 

[NorfolkShaun]

Congratulations and all the best! is the first thing to say.

A little hard to comment as only took up golf alter two children who are now 2.5 and 8 months and I have to say they do struggle to push my trolley a little , but really it all comes down you your wife and how happy she is for you to be away for a few hours. Mine is great and more than happy to let me play.

 

[granters]

..... sex......

what's that?

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Congrats. As Mrs H and I can't have kids its never going to be an issue. I've seen some fathers at my club be givent he green light to have some time to themselves and others are lucky to get a few rounds a year. If you are getting withdrawl symptoms, the range would seem to to offer the best of every world initially as it isn't too time consuming or expensive and you can still be there to help.

As I've no experience of fatherhood I just hope everything goes well and the little fella is fit and healthy

 

[DappaDonDave]

if you get a papoose and a golf bad trolley you'll be fine, can enjoy golf and let mummy have a rest. The fresh air will do the baby good and being in a back papoose won't hinder the stroke too much

 

[Naybrains]

Its quite simple mate

Forget anything to do with Golf, social life, Sex

Speak for your self, I'm loving the fun bags :whoo:

Joking aside, I've got two boys eldest 5 and youngest 4 months.
It's all about compromise, If I play Sunday ill play early when their still in bed Ill do the family thing Saturday....... I never walk in and say am away golfing, it's just not me. Am quite lucky that my eldest loves coming to the practice range with me to hit balls, he loves playing in the bunker so he should end up being pretty good out the sand!!
Although I love my golf I love my wife and boys way more.