You said "The ONLY reason this was refused by the EU and accepted by may and her team was that they didnt want us to leave." in terms of not negotiating a FTA either before or as part of the talks.
Negotiating this partnership cannot be done under Article 50, which is confined to the withdrawal itself. I already pasted the pertinent text from A50, but here it is again. I have highlighted the key sentences
2. A Member State which decides to withdraw shall notify the European Council of its
intention. In the light of the guidelines provided by the European Council, the Union shall
negotiate and conclude an agreement with that State, setting out the arrangements for its
withdrawal, taking account of the framework for its future relationship with the Union. That
agreement shall be negotiated in accordance with Article 218(3) of the Treaty on the
Functioning of the European Union. It shall be concluded on behalf of the Union by the
Council, acting by a qualified majority, after obtaining the consent of the European Parliament.
Other Treaty provisions will provide the basis of a future trade agreement – or agreements as the deal might comprise one or more Treaties. In essence, trade agreements with third countries (that, is, non EU member states), can either be agreed under Article 207 or Article 217 of the Treaty on the Functioning of the European Union (TFEU). And we cannot conclude the future trade agreement until we have left the EU and become a third country.
All this is fairly moot though as it doesn't really matter any more, but you're making out the EU were putting up blockers to prevent us from leaving, when it is nothing of the sort.
Technically, you're spot on the number.
But a rhetorical question; why couldn't a trade deal negotiation be at least started and, potentially, signed off the day after Brexit Day? Cynically, someone might say the EU have deliberately dragged their heels... but only if they were a cynic.