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I know I mentioned it on a few times now but too me its a big deal and important. Jus got a couple more questions. I know I'm meant to get my wife a present but what kind of thing is the norm and do I give it to her in private or at dinner?
And also my biggest problem it's 15weeks away and I got no speach yet. What do I write and do I have to funny or serious and lovey dovey haha? I know i got to thank everyone etc. Also any tips for giving a speach never really given one before apart from school projects years ago haha...
Also can I password word as she uses me laptop and is a nosey bugger lol.

Cheers
 
Your speech doesn't have to be long, just make sure you say how good she looks, complement the mother in law and thank the father in law for lumping you with his daughter. Re present, I bought mine a dyson.Lol
 
Ideal so as for a gift jus anything. We got a dyson at Xmas so that out of the window. Might get her some marigolds and also a proper gift like a necklace Or summit. Just the bloomin speach to sort which is the annoying part
 
i bought a couple of speech books cheap of ebay cobbled together a few words and then resold books on or do some google search for ideas then personalise for yourself.
 
Connor, good luck with it - the stress levels rise by the week but it will all be worth it i'm sure. Just a little suggestion re: the gift. Presuming you are getting married lunchtime/early afternoon send your bestman round that morning to where she is getting ready with your gift and a suitably slushy card (can't wait to be your husband, how lucky am I etc...:p). It's a nice surprise at an nervy time.

Don't worry too much about the speech, I write mine at 3.00am on the day of my wedding. Keep it short, thank those that should be thanked and complement your wife.....lots.
 
gripitripit said:
Is it just me or is anyone else thinking a naughty reply?
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guilty :rolleyes:... id give it to her in private mate , (& i havent even met her :rofl:) besides youl only upset the oldies f you give it to her during dinner , youl ruin the dress :whistle:

Dude your marrying the woman so you mus know her better than anyone , or if in doubt ask her what she wants , if its wedding jewelery you may have to give it to her before hand ;)
 
haha as for "giving it to her" that will be later in the night. as for the gift i think i will get it delivered in the morning. Flowers and a small little somehting thanks for the ideas.
yeah going to use google for speach ideas

thanks for the help
 
Conner, you will get lots of advice as the big day approaches.

My Dad advised me to have my new wife try on my trousers on the first morning of the honeymoon and when she said "they are too big for me" state . 'that is why I wear the trousers in this marriage'. Dad said it worked for him!

I tried it with the same result so she encouraged me to slip into her small panties. I said 'I'll never get into them' and she reply 'Damn right you won't unless you change that attitude'!

Happily married now for ten years .. the other thirty have been Ok!
 
Regarding a present I bought my wife a nice diamond necklace which I gave to her the night before to open on the morning of the wedding. Cost a blumming fortune and was expecting her to wear it on the day however as it turned out she opted for a £5 necklace that suited the dress better. I was fuming!! She has however worn it everyday since so I have forgiven her.

I didn`t write a speech for the wedding, just stood up and retold the tale of how we met and joked about her little OCD ways around the house. Complimented on her dress etc... told the bridesmaids how nice they looked and her mother etc.. Thanked everyone for coming, joked about the ushers and best man, raised a toast to her and I think that was about it but not neccesarily in that order.

Not sure if that is any help at all.
 
I very wierdly had a dream about a week before our wedding which I got all my ideas from for my speech and it went down really well, like someone said don't set yourself a massive task or writing a best seller - for cheeky comments, thank her parents, your best man and your family should do the trick.
 
19thagain said:
Conner, you will get lots of advice as the big day approaches.
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I got none! No one advised me on ANYTHING! It seems reading all this that my wedding, the build-up and the marriage is different to everyone else!

As for gifts my wife and I bought each other the wedding bands as a present. Anything else seemed to little a token to commemorate such an event.

I also had a best woman too and had a tame stag do.

Pretty much described as "Vanilla"
 
19thagain said:
My Dad advised me to have my new wife try on my trousers on the first morning of the honeymoon and when she said "they are too big for me" state . 'that is why I wear the trousers in this marriage'. Dad said it worked for him!

I tried it with the same result so she encouraged me to slip into her small panties. I said 'I'll never get into them' and she reply 'Damn right you won't unless you change that attitude'!
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thats quality. :clap:
 
Speech - you are not the Best man, so you dont need to be witty
At all costs, do not attempt any witticism about your wife , even if you think it is the funniest thing in the world, and that "she understands my sense of humour" or anything like that. They think in a different mode on Weding day and about wedding subjects.
Your speech shoudl only do one thing - words to the effect of "thank you for being my beautiful wife, and thank you to everyone who has brought her up, and thank you for everyone who has done stuff for us, and thank you for everyone for coming " the SIT DOWN and smile.

i said a really lovely and nice thing about my wife.
in hindisght, even i could understand how it could have been misinterpreted.
And we have the video to remind me every time she wants to make me feel guilty :(


i also was of the impression that husbands give wives their wedding ring, and vice versa ?
 
Oh yeah, and re eveing / late night nuptials, you might find you're too knackered . i guess these days it's less important / legally relevant for many/most couples.

In our case we left the reception with the last of the leavers at about 1am, and had to be up at 6am to get a flight, so there was not much sense (or energy). Much nicer to wait for the next night in Rome with teh champagne

All the best - hope you have a great day (oh and hope she does as well :))
 
connor said:
haha as for "giving it to her" that will be later in the night.
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Trust me on one thing, after a 20 hour day and all the fuss the best thing to do is have a bath and go to sleep!

We are not living in the Victorian era, there is no pressure to do anything on the wedding night!

sev112 said:
I also was of the impression that husbands give wives their wedding ring, and vice versa ?
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It is the greetings card/flower delivery industry that makes us want to think otherwise! My wife and I chose to keep it simple and do just that. We both adore our rings and they mean so much to both of us as they are not just wedding rings but gifts for each other!

EDIT: BTW Yes I did actually convince a girl to marry me, I think she had a moment of weakness out of pity.
 
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