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The news was very upsetting for my Mrs (and hence also myself). Her best pal has an inoperable BT and when going through tough treatment often asks my Mrs 'what's the point' as she knows she doesn't have that long (a year would be really good). Add to that is my Mrs herself has BC and is at the moment going through radiotherapy - having had chemo and surgery last year - and her prognosis isn't brilliant. And my mum died of a BT in August of last year. Great.

The banter and debate here is actually light relief for me :(
 
SilH - Cause of death is not yet known. It may not be the BT as her lifestyle was a little complicated shall we say.

A friend of hers was on tv this morning talking about her and she said she had been diagnosed as autistic as an adult. I don't know where on the spectrum but she did say if you look at her life with that in mind then some of her behaviour fits a little better. Whatever people's thought, 45 is too young.
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
The news was very upsetting for my Mrs (and hence also myself). Her best pal has an inoperable BT and when going through tough treatment often asks my Mrs 'what's the point' as she knows she doesn't have that long (a year would be really good). Add to that is my Mrs herself has BC and is at the moment going through radiotherapy - having had chemo and surgery last year - and her prognosis isn't brilliant. And my mum died of a BT in August of last year. Great.

The banter and debate here is actually light relief for me :(
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It must be tough for your wife to watch her friend go through this while dealing with her own health and emotions.
And tough for you to watch her.
This is when you find out who your real friends are .
she is probably thinking this could be me.
but put in perspective most normal people have nothing in common with TPT.
Like Amy Winehouse her life was very short but she packed a lot in.
Hope she comes out ok .
 
clubchamp98 said:
It must be tough for your wife to watch her friend go through this while dealing with her own health and emotions.
And tough for you to watch her.
This is when you find out who your real friends are .
she is probably thinking this could be me.
but put in perspective most normal people have nothing in common with TPT.
Like Amy Winehouse her life was very short but she packed a lot in.
Hope she comes out ok .
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Thanks sir!

It's is massively difficult. The issue her friend has is that she does not see any future - she doesn't probably have a long one to be fair - and so has considered suicide...

And my Mrs? Well as for another thread - she's a breast cancer nurse specialist. She knows too much. Statistics are fine - but she knows real women who have had the same diagnosis and same outcome from chemo and surgery - to have the BC come back 18months later and otehr now no longer with us less than 5 yrs after diagnosis.

To give an idea of my wife's mindset. At Christmas my Mrs wrote a list of people my children and I had to send a Christmas card to next Chrstmas - and separated out the good decorations from the stuff to be chucked - so I know what to put on the tree :(

So I post here as it is a distraction for me - sometimes I do get frustrated and angry - but better here than with my Mrs :)

And yes - you often hear say that in these circumstances you'll discover your real friends - and you might then think - sure - but by golly you most certainly do. A couple of 'girls' my wife has known since the children were at school - but have been a little distant these last few years - through busy family life - not fall out or anything - my word how they have stepped up to the plate. Absolutely brilliant and we are blessed. And I keep faith. Why it is important to me and why I have to life my life in such a way :)

Life can be crap - nobody promised us that crap things won;t happen. What's important to me and where I get strength - is in how well I can cope. And if I manage to cope - however that is - then I can support my wife and children as best I can.

Ho hum.

Now back to John Bercow, Trump and Art50. But maybe not quite straight away. Think I'll now go make my wife a cup of tea :)
 
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SwingsitlikeHogan said:
Thanks sir!

It's is massively difficult. The issue her friend has is that she does not see any future - she doesn't probably have a long one to be fair - and so has considered suicide...

And my Mrs? Well as for another thread - she's a breast cancer nurse specialist. She knows too much. Statistics are fine - but she knows real women who have had the same diagnosis and same outcome from chemo and surgery - to have the BC come back 18months later and otehr now no longer with us less than 5 yrs after diagnosis.

To give an idea of my wife's mindset. At Christmas my Mrs wrote a list of people my children and I had to send a Christmas card to next Chrstmas - and separated out the good decorations from the stuff to be chucked - so I know what to put on the tree :(

So I post here as it is a distraction for me - sometimes I do get frustrated and angry - but better here than with my Mrs :)

And yes - you often hear say that in these circumstances you'll discover your real friends - and you might then think - sure - but by golly you most certainly do. A couple of 'girls' my wife has known since the children were at school - but have been a little distant these last few years - through busy family life - not fall out or anything - my word how they have stepped up to the plate. Absolutely brilliant and we are blessed. And I keep faith. Why it is important to me and why I have to life my life in such a way :)

Life can be crap - nobody promised us that crap things won;t happen. What's important to me and where I get strength - is in how well I can cope. And if I manage to cope - however that is - then I can support my wife and children as best I can.

Ho hum.

Now back to John Bercow, Trump and Art50. But maybe not quite straight away. Think I'll now go make my wife a cup of tea :)
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I wish you family well. My wife was unfortunate and it took 10 years of gradual decline and was the same age as TPT when she died. With 2 small kids it was pretty rough so you have my empathy and sympathy.

As you say it put the stuff of politics very sharply into context.
 
drdel said:
I wish you family well. My wife was unfortunate and it took 10 years of gradual decline and was the same age as TPT when she died. With 2 small kids it was pretty rough so you have my empathy and sympathy.

As you say it put the stuff of politics very sharply into context.
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Thanks for that. I've not mentioned it here before. But issues with the NHS bring thoughts and our situation into sharp highlight.

Given the really difficult stuff I've had over the last 18months I have learned pretty good coping mechanisms. And one of these is venting my spleen here, because I know it helps, and because it doesn't really bother me a jot what gets chucked back at me - because in the scheme of things... :)
 
I know we have had our disagreements on many things but I genuinely give Mrs Hogie and yourself my sincerest hope that all will turn out well for her and you will both be able to dress that tree together for many years to come.
 
SocketRocket said:
I know we have had our disagreements on many things but I genuinely give Mrs Hogie and yourself my sincerest hope that all will turn out well for her and you will both be able to dress that tree together for many years to come.
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Lovely words, and I totally agree
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
Thanks sir!

It's is massively difficult. The issue her friend has is that she does not see any future - she doesn't probably have a long one to be fair - and so has considered suicide...

And my Mrs? Well as for another thread - she's a breast cancer nurse specialist. She knows too much. Statistics are fine - but she knows real women who have had the same diagnosis and same outcome from chemo and surgery - to have the BC come back 18months later and otehr now no longer with us less than 5 yrs after diagnosis.

To give an idea of my wife's mindset. At Christmas my Mrs wrote a list of people my children and I had to send a Christmas card to next Chrstmas - and separated out the good decorations from the stuff to be chucked - so I know what to put on the tree :(

So I post here as it is a distraction for me - sometimes I do get frustrated and angry - but better here than with my Mrs :)

And yes - you often hear say that in these circumstances you'll discover your real friends - and you might then think - sure - but by golly you most certainly do. A couple of 'girls' my wife has known since the children were at school - but have been a little distant these last few years - through busy family life - not fall out or anything - my word how they have stepped up to the plate. Absolutely brilliant and we are blessed. And I keep faith. Why it is important to me and why I have to life my life in such a way :)

Life can be crap - nobody promised us that crap things won;t happen. What's important to me and where I get strength - is in how well I can cope. And if I manage to cope - however that is - then I can support my wife and children as best I can.

Ho hum.

Now back to John Bercow, Trump and Art50. But maybe not quite straight away. Think I'll now go make my wife a cup of tea :)
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Sorry to hear this Hugh. Wish your wife all the very best, and hope she fights this horrible disease with all her strength.:thup: I am sure you are a great support to her, and good to hear she has renewed friendships. There are some really decent people out there.
 
Thanks to all...much appreciated

And thanks esp. to @SocketRocket :) Honestly - no offence is ever really taken from the flak I get from you and the other main protagonists - and that I often deserve.

As I say - I come here to let off steam, worries and frustrations. I've been off work a fair bit the last months and only now coming back up to full time - hopefully in next week or two. Certainly in March.(perhaps explains why I post a fair bit).

And so - back to the debate - so if you can be bothered please do try watch the Morning Joe piece I posted on the Bercow thread - I (for one) found it interesting.

See - even on the personal threads I can't help myself getting a Trump, Art50, Bercow mention in - so may as well get em all in - as I have now done :)

Take care all - God bless - and many thanks for your kind words.

And I'm not going anywhere...
 
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