Smacking children, should you do it.

Liverpoolphil said:
All generic stuff with actually getting down to an actual situation

Because there isn’t one - there is no situation where it is ok to hit a child - none
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Ok Phil, just you stand aside and watch your child pulling a boiling pan of water over their face rather than be "violent". You'll feel like father of the year, then.
 
pokerjoke said:
I think this would be a warning slap and very light also pulling the hand away at the same time,basically saving the child from getting burnt.
A slap for being naughty or rude etc,never for me,talking to the child about right and wrong should suffice.
Its also about respect,bring your child up to respect you and your decisions.
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I'm not saying you step in and bray your kid to within an inch of their life. Like I said earlier in the thread, nothing I would consider doing to discipline a child would ever be enough to be classed as violence.
 
Liverpoolphil said:
I’m struggling to ever see an occasion where I will see smacking a child as an appropriate reaction so can you please highlight one where it’s a justified reaction for a grown adult to raise your hand to a child ?
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Sometimes you just need to agree to disagree and move on.

LP your kid is about 18 months old, in this topic you are as qualified as an unmarried marriage councillor,
You might have rosy specs on now, but there will come a time when you will be sorely tempted .

Trust me, been there , you haven’t
 
PhilTheFragger said:
Sometimes you just need to agree to disagree and move on.

LP your kid is about 18 months old, in this topic you are as qualified as an unmarried marriage councillor,
You might have rosy specs on now, but there will come a time when you will be sorely tempted .

Trust me, been there , you haven’t
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This thread is full of people will opposing views on both sides and some very strongly - yet I need to move on ?

I see no situation where an adult hitting a child for any reason is justified, it’s an action that is stuck back in the 70’s as is the attempts to justify it. There will be no time in my daughters life where I feel the justification to smack her - if that happens then I have failed her
 
Kellfire said:
Yes, it is ridiculous that Phil would allow it to happen but it's what he's saying...
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Umm no I didn’t - saying I see no situation to hit a child doesn’t mean I’m going to allow them to do as they wish. That’s a ridiculous statement to even suggest.
 
Liverpoolphil said:
This thread is full of people will opposing views on both sides and some very strongly - yet I need to move on ?

I see no situation where an adult hitting a child for any reason is justified, it’s an action that is stuck back in the 70’s as is the attempts to justify it. There will be no time in my daughters life where I feel the justification to smack her - if that happens then I have failed her
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You won't have failed her Phil, you will help her develop into a respectful human being. Like I've said many times in this thread, discipline never did any harm but beating or violence towards a child is a different kettle of fish altogether.
 
drive4show said:
You won't have failed her Phil, you will help her develop into a respectful human being. Like I've said many times in this thread, discipline never did any harm but beating or violence towards a child is a different kettle of fish altogether.
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Hitting someone is violence - you can wrap it up in the discipline word but I will find other ways bring her up as a respectful human being and she will be disciplined but it won’t ever be by using any physical force
 
drive4show said:
Discipline is one thing, abusing a child is totally different. If people cannot draw the line then they probably shouldn't be raising children in the first place.

Do I think kids are worse behaved now compared to when I was one.....yes I do and the stories my (teacher) girlfriend tells me every evening confirm that.
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IMO, this is the result of children being brought up in broken homes and with young kids becomimg parents.
 
PhilTheFragger said:
Only because you have repeated yourself about 4 times
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Maybe because no one has actually answered and for me it’s a critical question , and multiple people have repeated themselves

The worst thing is because my daughter is only 18 months you appear to suggest that im unqualified to have an opinion on the subject on raising children , I would say my outlook is more relevent that people who raised children back in the 70/80’s when it was acceptable to hit a child - it’s not anymore and there are plenty of studies to show the affects of smacking
 
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Stuart_C said:
IMO, this is the result of children being brought up in broken homes and with young kids becomimg parents.
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Definitely a contributing factor but broken or stable home, a child still needs to understand how to behave properly.
 
drive4show said:
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Definitely a contributing factor but broken or stable home, a child still needs to understand how to behave properly.
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In my experience with 2 beautiful, polite, caring, well behaved kids, in the main kids will only behave the way parents do. Most kids listen and act like they see their parents.

Kids do need to learn how to behave but when you have young irresponsible children as parents bringing up children then what do you expect.

Btw, i know a couple of really nice families who have good jobs, nice houses holidays,idd well looked after etc with kids who are little swines.
 
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