Relationships and Golf, A Fine Line?

[PPE]

Ok, so the question is, you're in a relationship (Married, Living with partner) how much golf are you allowed to get away with before it becomes an issue?

A mate of mine plays twice on the weekend with no issues at all and also during the week (personally I think its because his wife wants him out the house ). Some others play only once at the weekend and for a couple of hours in the week and still get grief!

How often do you play and do you get grief for it?

 

[chrisd]

I play Sunday mornings and Wednesday afternoons as a rule. I don't see it as "being allowed to get away with", I think it's just a balance in a relationship. I've been married 35 years and have always played sport, I would always like one game of golf a week more than I get to play but I dont have seek permission to play, any more than HID would ask permission to carry on with her hobbies.


Chris

 

[Robobum]

Is this forum now RELATE????

It's just about being honest and open isn't it??

We have a family calendar where we put all our stuff on it. If there are any clashes we have a chat about which one is more important or how we can get round accomodating things for the best.

There is a bit of give and take but in the general we make sure that we both get to do as much of the stuff we want to and spend enough good time together and with our daughter.

If it ever got to the stage where I thought I had to ask permission to play, then I would think I was with the wrong person.

 

[john0]

Bascially, no matter how much golf you play, whether it once a month, once a week, or 5 times a week, you are going to get grief for it............so you might as well just play as much as you want cos your gonna get the sh!t no matter what

 

[Aztecs27]

I am utterly terrible at communication so always neglect to give HID the full details about my golf...thus mostly leading to her being mardy with me.

It's usually fine though...As the summer comes I will be playing once at the weekend (unless it clashes with something else we're doing) and once in the evening after work.

Which I'm happy with as I'll get the odd week where I can play more than that, which is fine and I won't get any hassle. Happy days.

 

[JustOne]

I can play whenever I like provided the kids don't need to be taken/picked up from school. The missus is more annoyed with me wasting my spare time on the forum (when I could be doing something constructive) than she is about me playing.

 

[CliveW]

Bascially, no matter how much golf you play, whether it once a month, once a week, or 5 times a week, you are going to get grief for it............so you might as well just play as much as you want cos your gonna get the sh!t no matter what

You are joking......aren't you?

 

[john0]

Bascially, no matter how much golf you play, whether it once a month, once a week, or 5 times a week, you are going to get grief for it............so you might as well just play as much as you want cos your gonna get the sh!t no matter what

You are joking......aren't you?

Try it, see if it works

 

[NWJocko]

I play once at the weekend and one evening in the summer where i can. Mrs is ok with that provided i look after the little one when she wants to do something.

 

[Region3]

I play at least once, sometimes twice at the weekends although I'm often out both days due to other things, and I also try to play in the week during summer as well as being out 1 or 2 other nights.

Don't get any grief for it. She does what she wants as well.

Some women have to put up with their partners cheating, drinking most nights, being abusive etc. I don't see what the problem is with pursuing your hobbies providing you're still spending time with the family and she has the same freedom.

 

[Bacardibatman]

just turn it around and tell her it how it is...


"You watch all your BS soaps ALL evening EVERY evening,you make me watch your strictly ballroom on ice dancing celebrity fame wagons,your rubbish talentless shows BGT - x-factor"

and then tell her that bemoaning you a few hours golf when she's doing all she wants for 5 or 6 times as much in front of the idiot box makes her a really selfish person

at least what your doing is keeping you fit*

LOL BTW im single ,I'm sure you'd guessed


(* you could add - unlike you) this could end up in a big argument and could lead to divorce .....if your lucky

 

[Aztecs27]

I'd say classing golf as "keeping fit" is a bit of a stretch. If I didn't go to the gym and just played golf, I wouldn't lose the weight I need to lose!

 

[patricks148]

My wife is fine about the odd night in the week and once at the weekend, any more than that and she gets grumpy.

Lets just say, she's grumpy most of the summer.

 

[john0]

If I didn't go to the gym and just played golf, I wouldn't lose the weight I need to lose!

I remeber watching the video of the R11 fitting and thinking to myself....."by that Aztec is a bit of a porker"!!

 

[Losttheplot]

I'm fairly lucky I think. Because I work shifts I get 4-5 days off at a time so I can play golf during the day when HID is at work. As long as I keep on top of the normal stuff like decorating or the garden then I can play as much as I want.
Even on a night HID doesn't mind me playing as long as it's not every day. Quite lucky I think.

I do know when I take the p**s and she let's me know too so I'm quite good at gauging when the line is and when not to cross it

 

[Aztecs27]

If I didn't go to the gym and just played golf, I wouldn't lose the weight I need to lose!

I remeber watching the video of the R11 fitting and thinking to myself....."by that Aztec is a bit of a porker"!!

I hide it well!

 

[Alex1975]

I play or practice 5 out of 7 days on average, I don’t get any haste and would not accept any. We will be having our 1st baby soon and that may change things a little but it will not end the way I go about playing golf. My best mate plays once a week at the very best and his wife will call on the 18th or in the car part to hustle him along; she does it because he lets her. For me that’s what it’s all about, if you let yourself get pushed around, you will be pushed around. I am not saying be an ass about it, a relationship should be equal respect from both sides... all too often it’s not.

 

[Deleted member 1418]

During the summer months I tend to play all my golf during the week in the evening. As my garden backs onto the course, just a case of going through the gate and I'm on the 6th tee! Therefore I can get home from work, have a bite to eat, spend a bit of time with the boys before they go to bed, and then on the course by 8! If I'm on my own I can easily get an 18 in before the light goes. Missus doesn't mind at all - she can unwind out on the decking with a glass of wine and either read a book or listen to music.

 

[Aztecs27]

During the summer months I tend to play all my golf during the week in the evening. As my garden backs onto the course, just a case of going through the gate and I'm on the 6th tee! Therefore I can get home from work, have a bite to eat, spend a bit of time with the boys before they go to bed, and then on the course by 8! If I'm on my own I can easily get an 18 in before the light goes. Missus doesn't mind at all - she can unwind out on the decking with a glass of wine and either read a book or listen to music.

Can I have your life please?

 

[bladeplayer]

I work 2 jobs (out of necessity not fun) 5 days & then 1 or 2 nites in a pub as necessity dictates.. the boss insists i play at least once at weekend & twice or more in the summer evenings if i can. this is balanced out by me minding the little ones on the other day of the weekend so she can do her thing .. im blessed coz its never a problem so long as i ask rather than just disappear ,, its about give & take mate or mayb im just lucky