How much does a new baby affect your golf?

Get yourself ready for something truly wonderful!!!(not my post, your baby boy!!)

We had baby May in April last year (yes she was a month early but no that was not why we picked the name). Before she came I was playing or hitting balls 5 out of 7 days of the week, I am an addict, I want to own golf and am happy to spend my life trying.

We struck gold, our baby does not cry(seriously), she sleeps 12 hours at night and 3 in the day, she eats whatever we give her. We have been to pubs, gigs, party's and festival. She has flown to France and many full on famly party's..... Bottom line is she is EASY!!

I could play golf as much as I did, my wife would not mind but I just want to be with my little girl. Sounds so laim I know and I was TOTALY unpropaired for these feelings. I ask in the antinatal class if I had time for a game of golf during laber(I was told yes by the way).

Clearly it depends on what sort of charictor you are but it has changed my life and blown my mind. Golf is wonderful and I love it even more than I did before, I just don't spend as much time or money playing it.


Enjoy
 
Firstly, Congratulations... Now then, when Bluewolf Jr arrived, my game wasn't really affected too much. Sacrifices needed to be made, so I sacrificed weekly nights out with the lads and the odd weekend round. This worked OK until Bluewolfess Jr was born. At that point my game took a nosedive. One 4 yr old and a Baby took all my spare time, leading to me giving up the game for 4 years.

Ive only recently restarted due to the fact that I work nights and the youngest is at Nursery 3 times a week. She starts school in September. Then I'll be on the course every bloody day....
 
PPE said:
I am soon to be a daddy for the first time in early May so I am now trying to get as many games as I can.

Obviously golf will take a back seat for a couple of months but my question is when I get back, due to sleep deprevation how much will I actually feel like playing golf? as I am going into this blind!

I did joke to my mates that a few minutes after he is born that I was going to hand him (as we know its going to be a boy) a set of plastic clubs and say "I'll see you on the first tee in 30mins son!!".
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Drum it in to her that breast is best for at least 6 months! You may have to change the odd nappy but as far as feeding is concerned your off the hook.

Got my handicap down to 5 2 months after my son was born.
 
I didn't renew my membership when The Boy arrived.
I just wasn't going to get any sort of value from it.
Like Al, I wanted to be around as much as possible so it didn't leave much time for golf.
I was just starting to get back into it when I shattered my ankle and had to forget playing for a year.
So all in all it was the best part of 4 years of playing about 3-4 times a year or nothing at all.
Once I'd recovered, it was decided that a bit of gentle exercise for the ankle would be good so re-joined.
I'd got down to 8 before the break, put 3 cards in again and got 13.
4 years on and I'm down to 5.

You'll naturally take a break until he becomes easier to handle and doesn't take up as much time. Then you'll be able to get back into it.

Unless you have another and the cycle begins again....

Hope everything goes ok
 
My daughter was born in September 2010 (bloody Ryder Cup weekend, but thats another story) and I was playing off 5. A year and a bit later and I am nearly down to 2.

My wife and I have a great understanding, we each get a bit of time to ourselves each week and I usually spend mine at the golf. The main difference post baby is that I enjoy that time to myself, no matter how I play and I really appreciate getting out for a game.

You dont take it as seriousyl when you quickly realise there are more important things in life than a missed putt. Subsequently this has altered my attitude to the game and my scores have come down. Might not work for you, but thats the affect it has had on me.
 
I had a baby boy (well our lass did most of the work) on New Years Day, and although I refrained from playing golf that day, I have played every Sunday since. I wouldnt normally play more than once a week at this time of year anyway as I only get chance on weekends therefore so far it hasnt really had much affect - apart from I might have went to the range once or twice if he hadnt been born.

As much as I love spending time with the little fella I think you still need to have some 'You' time. In the summer I normally try and play twice a week, but this year I think ill leave it at once, that way I will still get to spend 1 and a half days with the lad on a weekend but will also still be able to keep my handicap going in the right direction.

Obviously if I had to choose between the 2 there would be no contest, but I cant see why you cant spend time with your son and still keep your golf going - you just have to get the right mix.
 
Congratulations and good luck mate, I have a little boy of 2, he is great fun, loves hitting his plastic balls and clubs, maybe try and get him to the range in the summer :). As I have 2 daughters too my golf has not been overly affected, I play once ( usually) on a weekend and when the girls are at school, I work shifts so maybe a bit handier. As long as you don't rip the pee out of it, and your missus can do her things too, is say you'll have plenty chances to play.
 
Congratumalations :p

NWJocko said:
Edit: On the sleep deprivation front..... Once you have your first day back at work after a night with an hour or 2 of sleep you'll be fine. I thought I wouldn't be able to cope as used to lie in a lot. It's getting through the first day and knowing you can do it, after that it doesn't seem so bad.
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He's lying. I've got 2 dogs that like to wake us up at 6.30 - 7am, and we're shattered cos of it. We also like our lie in's occasionally.
 
Bikky73 said:
Congratumalations :p



He's lying. I've got 2 dogs that like to wake us up at 6.30 - 7am, and we're shattered cos of it. We also like our lie in's occasionally.
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7am is a lie in for me! I get up just after 6 every day for work so don't mind getting up early.
 
Congrats mate. I have two girls (5 and 1), after the first one I gave up my membership and did pay and play with my mates who were members.

I rejoined a club when my first one was 2. It sounds very selfish, but golf is my time. I work hard and long hours and I give up 90% of my salary towards the family. I do loads of jobs around the house and look after the kids but those 4 hours are my time. It could be seen as selfish but I do lot more around the house and support my missus then my mates do who don't play golf.

My advice is encourage your missus to go out or get a hobby.

Best of luck with the birth and I hope it all goes well.

Cheers
Dan
 
Quite a few posts saying it depends on your wife but i am of a different view in that it entirely depends on what you want to do. It is not for me to advise you but I can tell you what I did.

Shortly before the birth of my son, I resigned from my club as I could only really play golf at the weekends and I did not think that it would be right to go to the golf club for 6 hourse out of a weekend. Not right for my wife as a first baby is a lot to cope with. Not right for the child as kids need to see plenty of both parents and I am a busy bloke with work so the weekend time is precious. And certainly not right for me as I would not see my sprog on the days when I had the most available time. In hindsight, I think I did the right thing but this is mostly about my circumstances and I would not say that everyone should do the same.

My son is now 8 (plus he has a 5 year old sister) and we are thinking of joining a club together now so I will be back into golf more seriously and with a new playing partner.


Congratulations on your news!

And comiserations on the total disintegration of your life as you know it! Everything is going to change soon....
 
Many thanks to all of you for your kind sentiments.

Every year my best mate and me have a Match Play tournament (which I won last year!), we are now trying to cram as many rounds as we can before the end of March (just in case he comes early). Including Celtic Manor Twenty Ten in 3 weeks time, £80 Winter Rate if you're interested.

I have been waiting for this moment for 5yrs now so if golf takes a back seat then so be it, but after three months (which I'm told are the most time consuming) I will probably start to play one round every two weeks.
 
Once a fortnight is realistic in my world, I have 2 kids, aged 4 and 2. My 2 year old so already has a 7 iron and can hit it about 15/20 yards! We are expecting again now though, end of June 2012 I will have 3 kids under five years old... I am expecting my golf to go to once a month of weekend play, I am lucky enough to have a job where business golf is still acceptable, so aim to play at least 3-4 times a month.... All this and my aim for 2012 is to get my handicap down to under 14....

One thing actually, I do get a fair bit of time for the range, it's a compromise I know, but only takes an hour... HID is a bit happier about that!!
 
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