Ettiquete advice

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Need some advice from the forum.

Played in a medal today in glorious sunshine. Front nine played superb but my playing partners struggled. As a result they lost interest, and I found a couple of them were chatting when I was on the tee and even when I was putting. The background chat didn't really put me off, but it annoyed me that they seemed to have little respect for their playing partner who was actually playing ok. In the end I got wound up, and when poor organisation meant we got stuck behind a 2 ball (.....yes a two ball in a medal on weather like this!) my round kind of went to pieces. Ended up playing net level par.

Now I play regularly with these guys and they are generally a good laugh. Any advice on how I should deal with their questionable ettiquete?
 
Too late now, just remind them next time it happens.

Mind you, I just try and play Medals like a weekend knock, albeit with a little more attention to detail !!
 
I would have said something on the Tee when it was happening, a sarcastic comment, ment in jest, would have been my way, that way the message would have been heard load a clear with no harm done.

When your on the 1st Tee next time, maybe the comment could be made then....Tell them not to forget if they are playing crap, not to spoil it for us who is not.
 
I'd have made a light hearted comment and had it continued been plain and said you're putting me off - do you mind. Fortunately most of the guys I play with a pretty good even when their own round isn't so hot.
 
Be firm and tell them to keep their traps shut and not to be so disrespectful. Bit late for now though but I wouldn't put up with any crap like that.

I'd even say enough was enough and make it my last medal with them.

Andy
 
Be firm and tell them to keep their traps shut and not to be so disrespectful. Bit late for now though but I wouldn't put up with any crap like that.

I'd even say enough was enough and make it my last medal with them.

Andy

As extreme as this sounds, this is kind of what I was thinking. What made it worse today was the group in front let us play up the last just behind them due to the hold up in front. When these two nice fellows were on the green putting, my partners were at it again. I think it even put one of them off and he missed his putt!
I am tempted to not play in any medals with at least one of them again.
 
I was playing with some randoms the other day who had been kind enough to let me join as I wasn't allowed to play by myself and one of them was doing the same thing whilst I was putting. Not wanting to rock the boat due to not knowing them and them being kind enough to allow me to join, any time he was talking I was just taking my time and one time moved away from the ball to re-read and he got the message in the end that I couldn't/wouldn't putt whilst he was talking.

if they are people you know I would tell them else its going to continue.
 
No need for "words" Bug. If you can't hack the chatter, just take a little more time on your set up and, if they persist, walk away from the ball, give them a hard stare, wait for the apology, set up again .... and if you duff the shot give them another hard stare.
 
Sometimes I am afraid that politely pointing out etiquette errors by golfers can fall on deaf ears, some golfers have poor etiquette entrenched in their make up. Today we played against a couple and because me and my partner out drove them on most of the holes, they were playing their second shot before us and when they had played, you guest it, off they walked down the fairway as though we didnt exist, also constantly mumbling about their strategy as we teed off, standing behind our putts and happily announcing to each other after the putt was taken "did you get that line?", on another occasion when my partner had a wedge shot to the green this guy who had taken his shot into the bunker, walked to the bunker to view his ball standing right in the line of my partners shot and when pointed out to him, he simply moved to the side of the bunker but still in front of my partner. Then one shouting to the other across the fairway to tell his partner it was clear for him to play when my partner was about to hit his shot as it was his turn! Playing out the hole and making us wait even though they had already lost it??
You had to be there to believe it. I had to believe these guys were just thick skinned and very very poorly educated in golf etiquette as the only alternative would be believing they did it deliberately, and if the latter was the case they would then be some of the worst golfers I have come across for a number of years. Had it had any affect on my golf for today I would have gone nuts, but I cant say that it did and my partner was of the same mind.

Some peoples manners should not be involved in club matches, it was a very poor showing by this particular club and creates suspicious thoughts as to the quality of its members, if a club actually selects guys like this to represent the club, you can reasonably sspect its not a very good club.
 
heard a similar story in the clubhouse last Sunday morning. One of the guys was complaining to his mate about a pair they played with in a midweek match. He said both the pair were a nightmare; talking on shots, walking on putts, not replacing the pin and leaving the green before he'd finished.

His mate's solution? We should all get extra shots against these sort of people...everyone should be allowed to carry a gun! No words meeded :)
 
Not wanting to hijack, but the above example interested me.

Regarding walking off the green, if only to the fringe or to your bag once you have holed out. Let's assume that the others are still fannying around lining up putts, reading greens, from every angle possible, and then 2 or 3 putting and going through this ritual everytime.

Is it alright to leave the green? Because to be honest, in the above situation I do tend to. The reason being is that it's just so slow and I don't like the folks waiting behind us thinking it's me holding them up.
 
I would say that as long as you are "at" the green and not on the way to the next one then I don't see a problem. You should stay with your group and not do a "Sabatini".

How's the leg?
 
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