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Capella

Capella

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This one is a bit up close and personal, but I need to get this out of my system. My mum, who got me into playing and is also my favorite golf sidekick, had a stroke earlier this week. She is still in the ICU and at the moment it looks as if she is probably never going to play again. I am totally devastated. She had been feeling under the weather for about two weeks, but her doctor did not find anything and we thought she was maybe just coming down with the flu or something. But the stroke itself came pretty much out of the blue.

I took a few days off from work (luckily my bosses were very understanding), but since I can only visit her for a few hours in the afternoon as long as she is in the ICU, there is really not much I can do for her. And the weather has been gorgeous here the past few days. So to keep my mind off things and clear my head, I did go to the golf course almost every day. I felt very egoistic doing this, but on the other hand, it always gives me something to talk about to my mum when I get to the hospital.

I think where I am going with this is: when you play with friends or your loved ones and also the ability to play yourself, don't take it for granted. Savor every second of it, because it can be over so quickly.
 
Sorry to hear about your mam, wishing her all the best and a speedy recovery.

As for you going to the golf course, it will be a hideous time for you and just do whatever you want to do, guilt free, to keep your strength up and enable you to cope.
 
So sorry to hear about your mother. Did they manage to thrombolyse? If I can offer any crumb of comfort, I work in an ICU and see stroke victims on a regular basis and it is amazing what can be achieved. I think going to the golf club and getting out is a great pressure release for you so please don't feel too much guilt. As you say, it gives you something to talk about.
 
Awful news. Good luck to you and yours.

The golf course is one of my favourite places to go and clear my head. It gives you some time, especially if you're out on your own, to rationalise things without distraction or interruption. And there's also the odd few minutes when your mind focuses on just the golf.

When you're suffering stress, always make time for just you.
 
So sorry to hear about your Mum and hope she makes a speedy and as full a recovery as possible.

You need to look after yourself too so if the course gives you some space to breathe then that's the place you need to be.
 
Capella - sorry to hear about your mum. Hope she gets on the mend quickly. And hopefully back on the course - although l share you concern if she doesn't. Golf is my Ma's long time passion - more so since my dad died a few years ago. Not in the same league as yoy mum's problem, but she recently had a bad car crash and although not seriously injured, was badly bashed about - and because she's not young, it took its toll. Sore & stiff shes not much inclined to swing a club. I worry what she'll do if she doesn't.

Fingers crossed for you - and don't worry about going to the course. You cant be with her all the time - so no harm in being somewhere you can be content and recall pleasant recollections of you & her.
 
Sorry to hear the news Jutta....
Hope it all works out.
And, as above, look after yourself.
When I've been in a dark place I've always found it a bit brighter on the course.....
 
That's a shocker Capella. hope your mum's recovery goes much better than you're anticipating and that you can play again with her at some stage in the future.

And as had been said, make sure you take care of yourself during this difficult time.
 
Like is the wrong thing to club, but its the best on offer. I know the feeling as I had similar with my dad and bridge. All the best for her making a good recovery and keep taking those golf escapades with you when you see her.
 
HomerJSimpson said:
Did they manage to thrombolyse?
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From what I understand (it is a bit difficult to get a hold of a doctor to explain things, because the ICU is very busy and we don't want to get in their way bugging them with questions all the time, but my dad talked to one of the neurologists today and that's what he told me) they could not do thrombolysis, because the stroke occured during the night and my father did not notice until the next morning, the doctors did operate and tried to remove the blood clot, but could not keep the blood vessel from clogging again. They put in a stent. But the blood thinners they used did bring on a hemorrhage in the brain later which made matters worse. So they had to reduce that and as a result the stent is now clogged again. I really just don't know what to make of it and can just trust the doctors to do the best they can. The hospital she is at does have a stroke unit and is supposed to be the one best equipped in the area for this kind of situation.
 
Capella said:
From what I understand (it is a bit difficult to get a hold of a doctor to explain things, because the ICU is very busy and we don't want to get in their way bugging them with questions all the time, but my dad talked to one of the neurologists today and that's what he told me) they could not do thrombolysis, because the stroke occured during the night and my father did not notice until the next morning, the doctors did operate and tried to remove the blood clot, but could not keep the blood vessel from clogging again. They put in a stent. But the blood thinners they used did bring on a hemorrhage in the brain later which made matters worse. So they had to reduce that and as a result the stent is now clogged again. I really just don't know what to make of it and can just trust the doctors to do the best they can. The hospital she is at does have a stroke unit and is supposed to be the one best equipped in the area for this kind of situation.
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Let the doctors do their job but remember you have a right to ask pertinent questions too so if there is something you want to ask do.
 
I hope it all ends well for you and your Mum. My mother had a stroke in April 2017 and again in April 2018, so I know what you are going through ... fortunately she recovered full use of her limbs and I hope your Mum does too. She may not play golf again, but hopefully you will be able to celebrate having her back home and with minimal ill effects. 🤞🤞
 
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