Dementia Awareness

[clubchamp98]

It is sad and also comforting knowing I’m not the only one in this position.
My dad still has his faculties and is fairly active but is going out less and less as he doesn’t want to leave her on her own.

To be fair the wife and kids are much better with her than I am, if she calls them by the wrong name they don’t correct her and just go along with it.


My son moving in with them is looking like a real possibility and we think it would work for everyone.

You need to keep an eye on your dad.!
The pressure he’s under is immense but some don’t show it until it’s serious.

Happened to mine.

 

[irip]

You need to keep an eye on your dad.!
The pressure he’s under is immense but some don’t show it until it’s serious.

Happened to mine.

I do chat to him quite a lot and he knows if he tells us he is going out someone will go round until he gets back.

We visit normally twice a week and do all the cleaning and washing etc.

He loves when we visit and take them out as he can relax and have a couple of beers knowing we will keep an eye on my mum.

 

[Tashyboy]

You need to keep an eye on your dad.!
The pressure he’s under is immense but some don’t show it until it’s serious.

Happened to mine.

Had this with me mum. Everything is ok. Everything is ok and then there were tears. She was and still
Is good at telling you only Certain things. You had to let her Just slip things out. Me dad who had been warned not to say certain things would innocently tell us. That was followed by mum Saying “ Your dad has a big mouth”. Forgetting he has dementia.

 

[Sid Rixon IV]

It really isn't much at all, works out around £100 a year so far but I will be doing a lot more for the place going forward. When you've been around these places on a regular basis you realise just how amazing the staff are and what they have to do deal with.

Absolutely.
The Manageress of my Mum's care home was as equally adept with the welfare of the families as she was with her residents.
On one occasion my Mum had fallen and was hospitalised a few days before we were due to travel Indo-China.
She overheard us discussing cancellation and said "What possible use would that be? She'll be back here in no time". After she'd finished with us we knew she was right but the guilt is so hard to handle.

 

[Skytot]

You need to keep an eye on your dad.!
The pressure he’s under is immense but some don’t show it until it’s serious.

Happened to mine.

Yes you are spot on ,
My dad is 94 and is fine , my mum is 92 with dementia and they lived together until 2 weeks ago. My dad was basically mums carer with a little help from me and my wife and brother & wife . Dad was very stubborn and would barely except any help , which included cleaners or carers . He had a fall in the bathroom and was found next day by my brother when he was taking them some food round , mum didn’t have a clue he had been there all night . Dad was in hospital for 10 days , his had a kidney infection, bloods were all over the place and generally unwell. We had to take turns to stay and sleep on the floor to look after my mum which was a nightmare. She basically slept all day and at night would put her to bed but she kept getting up . Dad had been putting up with this for god knows how long , he never told us . After a week we took the horrible decision to put mum in a care home , once we managed to get her there she’s been very content . Dad is home now and having carers coming round 4 times a day as well as family. It’s been a tough few weeks but luckily our family have been brilliant and pulled together, only wish dad would have not been a martyr and accepted help earlier.