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Coronavirus - how is it/has it affected you?

DanFST said:
Is there space for your wife to stay?

If you and your wife isolate now - since you last went out. Then you can visit and isolate again for 10 days there. Not within rules, but almost no chance of infecting her, or anyone else.

The rules don't account for things like this, You should weigh up your options and do what you feel is right.
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There is space; she had the first jag back in December, and she basically isolates other than an occasional shop or walk with our daughter, myself or a friend. My MiL was vaccinated more than two weeks ago, and she has hardly been out the door other than into her garden since last March.

But notwithstanding any of that, her travelling to visit and then staying a day or two with her mum and brother are simply against the rules. And the thing is that the rules actually do account for such as this as it is not identified as an exceptional circumstance. She knows what she wants to do, but knows that under the rules she knows it is not right - as so many have had to do over the last year to abide by the rules. And as said, her anger is in large part caused by seeing others do what they might well think is right for their needs, even although what they do breaks the rules.

Thankyou for your thoughts - appreciated.(y)
 
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ExRabbit said:
Surely you can use this exception. I am hoping it will be a way my wife can visit her parents.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/national-lockdown-stay-at-home

Where and when you can meet in larger groups

There are still circumstances in which you are allowed to meet others from outside your household, childcare or support bubble in larger groups, but this should not be for socialising and only for permitted purposes. A full list of these circumstances will be included in the regulations, and includes:

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to provide care or assistance to someone vulnerable, or to provide respite for a carer
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thankyou for pointing me to this and I’ll see how it goes. But as mentioned, she absolutely does not want to try and read something into a rule or exception that is not there - just to justify to herself a course of action or behaviour that she in her heart knows is not allowed. She sees so much of this going on and she feels that all of that behaviour is just going to make things go on longer than they need - plus it’s disrespectful to those who have sacrificed so much over the last year by adhering strictly to the rules. Let’s see.

[edit] having now read the rules on ‘care or assistance’ (again) and bearing in mind my wife’s 64yr old brother is currently living at home with their mum, the best I can think of is if we consider that he needs respite relief from caring for their mum (he is not really caring for her - more providing support services for her...but maybe..) - and on that basis my wife can go and stay over for a few days. But it’s tenuous and not really true but I suppose I can try and convince her that it is true and therefore a perfectly valid and legal course of action. Because in her head it has to be.

the truth is that if she thought that everyone was thinking and acting within the rules as we are trying to do then she’d ‘stiff upper lip’ it...notwithstanding how unfair and upsetting things are and have been, perhaps especially, for the most elderly (my MiL is 90 and the youngest of the three siblings) since last March.
 
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Imurg said:
Just booked both of mine - next Friday and end of May..(y)
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Excellent

Turns out I woke the mother in law when I texted her to say she could book

But that's everyone in our bubble first jabbed by march
 
I’m 59 and had first jab on Thursday, 2nd one booked for end May - I was able to book last Sunday. My wife is also 59 but 8 months younger, we tried every day this week to see if she could but it said she wasn’t eligible yet, yesterday it did allow her to book so she’s getting hers next Tuesday. From that I assume they are gradually opening bookings by birth month.
 
D-S said:
I’m 59 and had first jab on Thursday, 2nd one booked for end May - I was able to book last Sunday. My wife is also 59 but 8 months younger, we tried every day this week to see if she could but it said she wasn’t eligible yet, yesterday it did allow her to book so she’s getting hers next Tuesday. From that I assume they are gradually opening bookings by birth month.
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I was able to book mine this week when I reached 59, my wife is almost 21 months younger than me but was able to book at the same time.
 
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