Compliment of not?

[SocketRocket]

Life is about standards!

It's a good, and should be normal, standard to compliment your opponent on a good shot, show empathy on unlucky shots and generally enjoy playing the game you love with like minded individuals. To ignore every shot is not only cheap gamesmanship it's also downright rude!

Phil Mickelson at the Ryder cup and losing to Justin Rose! Standards!

^^^^^^ A very good reply.

 

[chrisd]

I rotate between a number of courses but have spent a lot of the summer playing at the Altonwood Group courses;
Westerham, Surrey National, Woldingham and The Addington.
But also play at Hersham (can walk there from home but it is a very short and open course), Silvermere, Hoebridge, Traditions etc...

Do you play in Surrey?

Have done various courses on forum meets and odd excursions

Westerham, The Addington, Tyrrells Wood, Sunningdale New, Wentworth, West Hill, Walton Heath, Blackmoor,

I am a Croydon lad by birth and travel to Selhurst Park as a season ticket holder

 

[SocketRocket]

I rotate between a number of courses but have spent a lot of the summer playing at the Altonwood Group courses;
Westerham, Surrey National, Woldingham and The Addington.
But also play at Hersham (can walk there from home but it is a very short and open course), Silvermere, Hoebridge, Traditions etc...

Do you play in Surrey?

Is Joe Hagan still the pro at Hersham?

 

[CMAC]

Is Joe Hagan still the pro at Hersham?

ta da! http://www.hershamgolf.com/content/joe.html

 

[AmandaJR]

I have been guilty of both saying "good shot/strike" too often (the silence feels awkward!) and also saying "it's ok BUT..." when a FC says the same to me. Both were made clear to me when I played with an ex pro who seemed to hate not being as good as he used to be and was a right misery to be frank. His reaction to a "good shot" was incredibly rude and made me think about when I should say it and how I should react to the same. I've never been as rude as he was but occasionally a FC will be quiet and then say "are you happy with that one"...

So, now I try to make the compliment relative to the standard of golfer and also smile and say "thanks" when a compliment is paid to me.

 

[hopeful]

I play all my games with our Seniors and we compliment each other all the time....mind you, the standard most of us are at, we need all the encouragement we can get!

 

[londonlewis]

ta da! http://www.hershamgolf.com/content/joe.html

I've seen a few people have lessons with him and he seems to just go about his business quietly.
I have no idea if he is any good as I haven't got close enough to really hear what he teaches and I've never had a lesson.

 

[Doon frae Troon]

An old playing partner used to occasionally respond to my good drives with 'you nearly got that one'.

 

[HawkeyeMS]

This thread reminds me of a friend of mine, probably one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet which is great until it comes to golf. He will try to praise or comfort after every shot regardless of it's quality. I remember one time a few years back I topped a ball off the tee into a lake about 50yds in front of the tee and was greeted with a very sincere "unlucky Mike"

 

[garyinderry]

'' that was a nice one, is that where you were aiming? ''

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Going back to Chris's OP without reading through thread - I never expect congratulations from FCs or PPs when I do something good on the golf course. If I listen to congratulations my ego is stoked and my golfing arrogance kicks in - and that is disastrous for my golf. When my ego is 'up' and I'm feeling a bit puffed up that a bantam cock - well that's me lost from playing every shot one shot at a time - forgetting what has gone before and what will come. And when that happens - then up goes my scoring.

So no - I really am more than happy for any 'well dones' to be reserved for handshakes on 18th green and afterwards - if they come and are deserved. Nothing like trying to have a bit of humility in this game - good for us all.

 

[jpjeffery]

I think it's important to take handicap into account when deciding whether to compliment shots or not. Landing the ball square in the middle of the green from 150 yards might not be an impressive feat for a lot of people, but for someone playing off 26/27/28 they might just feel like whooping if their iron play is generally not that great and they struggle with club selection.

That's nice of you to talk about me. Thanks.

 

[Snelly]

In this thread, what does the abbreviation FC mean please?

 

[One Planer]

In this thread, what does the abbreviation FC mean please?

Fellow competitior I assume?

 

[Snelly]

So why should another golfer compliment people on a golf shot.

Because it is good manners, polite and what a gentleman would do. Obviously.

To not do so would be the opposite; poor manners, impolite and ungentlemanly conduct. No-one wants to be perceived in that way surely?

 

[Snelly]

Thanks.

I don't think I have ever referred to someone as a fellow competitor on the golf course! Every day is a school day....

 

[HawkeyeMS]

Thanks.

I don't think I have ever referred to someone as a fellow competitor on the golf course! Every day is a school day....

You probably wouldn't, bu the distinction between Fellow competitor and Playing Partner can be quite important when deciphering some of the rules.

 

[jpjeffery]

...I like to watch my partners playing well and will complement them on the good ones...

Spot on. It's about the sport to me. I enjoy my playing partner's or partners' good shots just as much as my own (although I tend to be more surprised at my own).

I think though - and this is difficult to convey on the page - there's a difference between a quiet and more frequent 'Good shot', or 'Nice' and more pronounced but only occasional 'Good shot!' and 'Nice!', don't you all think?

 

[jpjeffery]

...I played with an ex pro who seemed to hate not being as good as he used to be and was a right misery to be frank. His reaction to a "good shot" was incredibly rude...

What did he say/do?

 

[chrisd]

So no - I really am more than happy for any 'well dones' to be reserved for handshakes on 18th green and afterwards - if they come and are deserved. Nothing like trying to have a bit of humility in this game - good for us all.

I wonder if you were to get get a hole in one that you would be quite content to wait for your 3 playing partners to say "thanks for the game SLH, oh, and by the way, nice shot on the 3rd"!

I don't see humility coming into the matter, complimenting a good shot comes after the event and once I've hit a good one I'm already plumped up!