Compliment of not?

[chrisd]

Last weekend and the one before, I played 4bbb with the same pair. One was off 18 and the other 14, just in case it's relevant, the first week was a friendly game and the second, with a different partner, was a league match

Now, whilst I'm inclined to say "good shot" when a ball goes forward, well if it goes pretty much as intended, my opponents never once said "good shot" over both matches. In case you wonder, they are guys I've known for ages and play occasionally with and are really nice guys? Also, I and my two partners, hit some stonking shots throughout both games ( my first partner was a 5 handicap ). Playing a 400+ par 4 I hit a decent drive and a 6 iron to 6" for a nett Eagle and even that didn't illicit a compliment.

As I readily dish a compliment out, do I expect too much as one back occasionally ?

 

[Imurg]

When the heat's on it all goes quiet.
Down the last yesterday, Fragger was obviously concentrating and trying to beat me as he need to better my score to take the game.
Hardly said a word until he sunk his bogey - I sunk mine and the scowls began....:rofl:

I guess some people get into the "Match" mentality, even at our level.

I'd still expect some praise for a good one occasionally though.

 

[virtuocity]

Chris- I would feel the same as you.

When it comes to playing against other people, I can be found to shout 'drop, drop, drop' when my opponent releases a putt towards the hole. I also congratulate every decent shot.

For me, it's not about winning by hoping your opponent doesn't play to their handicap. It's about making sure that you play to your handicap or better- giving out compliments can't hurt your own chances of scoring, can it?

 

[chrisd]

When the heat's on it all goes quiet.
Down the last yesterday, Fragger was obviously concentrating and trying to beat me as he need to better my score to take the game.
Hardly said a word until he sunk his bogey - I sunk mine and the scowls began....:rofl:

I guess some people get into the "Match" mentality, even at our level.

I'd still expect some praise for a good one occasionally though.

I remember complimenting you on a shot at West Hill!

 

[Imurg]

I remember complimenting you on a shot at West Hill!

Are you sure? Don't remember hitting any that warranted it.....Thanks anyway!

 

[chrisd]

Chris- I would feel the same as you.

When it comes to playing against other people, I can be found to shout 'drop, drop, drop' when my opponent releases a putt towards the hole. I also congratulate every decent shot.

For me, it's not about winning by hoping your opponent doesn't play to their handicap. It's about making sure that you play to your handicap or better- giving out compliments can't hurt your own chances of scoring, can it?

Agreed wholeheartedly Dave.

In Sundays league match, on the last, I had a 15ft, very downhill putt that came right to left at the and, and drained it to secure a half in the match - not a word!

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Maybe they are just concentrating in their own game and focusing on their shot. Easily done.

 

[StrangelyBrown]

I always say good shot if someone hits a good shot, irrespective of the situation.

 

[Imurg]

I always say good shot if someone hits a good shot, irrespective of the situation.

Is the correct answer!!

The teeth may be gritted though.......

 

[JustOne]

I find too many shots are complimented, just because someone gets club on ball (aren't we supposed to do that all the time?) or holes a 20ft putt doesn't mean it's time to hang out the bunting..... I do compliment my playing partners when they hit a shot that I consider to have been worthy.

I compliment Smiffy on any shot whereby he gets the club to the ball!!!!!!

 

[Doon frae Troon]

Umpteen years ago I was playing the friend of my Head Greenkeeper in the semi's of the scratch cup.
We were both off 4 it so looked like a good game.
The night before my opponent asked the HGK what my game was like as we had never played together.
The HGK says 'he not bad but he is generally pretty lucky.'

I beat him out in the country and walking in he recalled the story saying that he spent half the match waiting to see my ball bounce off slopes and 30 yard putts to go down.
I quite liked being called 'lucky'.
Lost the final!

 

[chrisd]

Are you sure? Don't remember hitting any that warranted it.....Thanks anyway!

No, sorry Ian - I think it must have been Steve who hit it! :whoo:

 

[chrisd]

Umpteen years ago I was playing the friend of my Head Greenkeeper in the semi's of the scratch cup.
We were both off 4 it so looked like a good game.
The night before my opponent asked the HGK what my game was like as we had never played together.
The HGK says 'he not bad but he is generally pretty lucky.'

I beat him out in the country and walking in he recalled the story saying that he spent half the match waiting to see my ball bounce off slopes and 30 yard putts to go down.
I quite liked being called 'lucky'.
Lost the final!

Unlucky!

 

[HawkeyeMS]

I will always compliment a good shot and don't think I have ever come across anyone who hasn't been complimentary back. I don't think it would bother me but I don't understand why anyone wouldn't, it's just the polite and decent thing to do in my book.

 

[virtuocity]

I find too many shots are complimented, just because someone gets club on ball (aren't we supposed to do that all the time?) or holes a 20ft putt doesn't mean it's time to hang out the bunting..... I do compliment my playing partners when they hit a shot that I consider to have been worthy.

Oh James :smirk:

 

[JustOne]

Oh James :smirk:

Someone hits a bunker shot out to 10ft - big deal or hits it onto the green from 150yds

Someone hits a bunker shot out to a tight back pin (with a lake behind) from a downhill lie and checks the ball 2ft past the hole - "Good shot mate!!"

 

[dotty001]

Is the correct answer!!

The teeth may be gritted though.......

HAHA deffo this, but always compliment a nice shot whatever the situation

 

[bladeplayer]

Chris- I would feel the same as you.

When it comes to playing against other people, I can be found to shout 'drop, drop, drop' when my opponent releases a putt towards the hole. I also congratulate every decent shot.

?

Have to admit .. NO chance of me doing that ,................even tho i know it will have no efect on the outcome

I always say good shot if someone hits a good shot, irrespective of the situation.

This to me is the correct way to play golf.. even against a clown

 

[chrisd]

I find too many shots are complimented, just because someone gets club on ball (aren't we supposed to do that all the time?) or holes a 20ft putt doesn't mean it's time to hang out the bunting..... I do compliment my playing partners when they hit a shot that I consider to have been worthy.

I compliment Smiffy on any shot whereby he gets the club to the ball!!!!!!

The figure I just saw was that Tour players only make 54% off putts from 8ft, and that on better greens than we usually get to play on. A 20ft putt sunk would certainly get a compliment from me James!

 

[CMAC]

Life is about standards!

It's a good, and should be normal, standard to compliment your opponent on a good shot, show empathy on unlucky shots and generally enjoy playing the game you love with like minded individuals. To ignore every shot is not only cheap gamesmanship it's also downright rude!

Phil Mickelson at the Ryder cup and losing to Justin Rose! Standards!