Compliment of not?

[JezzE]

So why should another golfer compliment people on a golf shot.

Why should anyone compliment anyone on anything? Basic politeness I would say, or do some of us not like seeing other people doing things well when it might cost us, and are unable to find it within ourselves to convey some kind of appreciation or acknowledgment?

Imagine if every teacher or trainer in the country never complimented any student for a piece of work well done or an answer well thought-out.... or a parent stubbornly refused to congratulate a child for doing something well... The kind of world where you need to find a reason to do something like that rather than a reason not to is not the kind of world I'd want to inhabit...

 

[Robobum]

I think you can gauge a lot from the person who hit the shot and their own reaction. If I hit one off the toe or close to the pipe, I'll normally be offering words of "encouragement" to the ball (get up/ get the f down!)

Better to avoid a "good shot" at that stage.

 

[FairwayDodger]

I think you can gauge a lot from the person who hit the shot and their own reaction. If I hit one off the toe or close to the pipe, I'll normally be offering words of "encouragement" to the ball (get up/ get the f down!)

Better to avoid a "good shot" at that stage.

Always awkward when the player's expletive and FC's "good shot" come out simultaneously!

 

[bladeplayer]

So why should another golfer compliment people on a golf shot.

Because we all play for fun, no matter our ability ? as as its only fun surely its good manners to give compliments ? no ?

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Why should anyone compliment anyone on anything? Basic politeness I would say, or do some of us not like seeing other people doing things well when it might cost us, and are unable to find it within ourselves to convey some kind of appreciation or acknowledgment?

Imagine if every teacher or trainer in the country never complimented any student for a piece of work well done or an answer well thought-out.... or a parent stubbornly refused to congratulate a child for doing something well... The kind of world where you need to find a reason to do something like that rather than a reason not to is not the kind of world I'd want to inhabit...

That's where the handshake comes in at the end of the game - that's the acknowledgement and thanks but expecting a "well done" every time you think you should get one - sorry but don't agree.

Do you think in football or rugby when a good shot or try is scored they expect a "good try" ! No it happens at the end.

So if someone spoke to you all the way around the golf course and was pleasant and took and interest in what you were saying and shook your hand at the end of the game and said well done or commiserations you would think they were rude if they didn't compliment you on any shots ?

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Because we all play for fun, no matter our ability ? as as its only fun surely its good manners to give compliments ? no ?

Not at all - good manners to be pleasant and shake hands at the start and the end of the game.

 

[HawkeyeMS]

That's where the handshake comes in at the end of the game - that's the acknowledgement and thanks but expecting a "well done" every time you think you should get one - sorry but don't agree.

Do you think in football or rugby when a good shot or try is scored they expect a "good try" ! No it happens at the end.

So if someone spoke to you all the way around the golf course and was pleasant and took and interest in what you were saying and shook your hand at the end of the game and said well done or commiserations you would think they were rude if they didn't compliment you on any shots ?

So anyone should be allowed to play in golf competitions and if you get stuck with someone hacking it around and taking ages you should take it on the chin as it's a social game that we play for fun: but don't compliment anyone on a good shot?

 

[kid2]

I always compliment people I play with when they hit a good one..... Equally ill also tell them when they've hit a crap one... With something like...... That wasn't one of your better ones..... Or in the case of thinned ones that scuttle a half inch off the ground... " Even the worms are ducking from that"... It lightens the atmosphere I feel if you have an idea of their character and know they'll take the slagging in good spirit....

But I think its also handicap subjective as well..... I'm not going to say to a 2 handicapper that misses by a good distance a compliment as I know its not what he wants to hear.....

I think a compliment at the right time can give a lift to someone that's not really playing that well......

Also ill normally add.... Great strike.... Even if it misses the fairway or a green.... A straight push or a pull are usually a decent quality strike just ending up going in the wrong direction........:lol:

What I hate is when someone says to me.... Well out.... After a bunker shot when iv just cleared the edge and trickled onto the green but I'm still left with a 40 ft putt for a par.. .:angry:

 

[Deleted member 15344]

So anyone should be allowed to play in golf competitions and if you get stuck with someone hacking it around and taking ages you should take it on the chin as it's a social game that we play for fun: but don't compliment anyone on a good shot?

I didn't say you "couldn't" compliment someone - I do but I don't see why someone should be called rude if they don't compliment someone.

 

[HawkeyeMS]

I didn't say you "couldn't" compliment someone - I do but I don't see why someone should be called rude if they don't compliment someone.

Fair enough, in that case I agree. It's not rude not to, I just don't understand why someone wouldn't.

 

[chrisd]

That's where the handshake comes in at the end of the game - that's the acknowledgement and thanks but expecting a "well done" every time you think you should get one - sorry but don't agree.

Do you think in football or rugby when a good shot or try is scored they expect a "good try" ! No it happens at the end.

So if someone spoke to you all the way around the golf course and was pleasant and took and interest in what you were saying and shook your hand at the end of the game and said well done or commiserations you would think they were rude if they didn't compliment you on any shots ?

I think my OP says that the guys were real nice, I've played with them a fair few times and will again but we complimented them on well played shots and they didn't reciprocate and I found that unusual.

In answer to your other point. I played tennis for about 10 years after football knackered me up, I played at a decent club level and a few times for my town team. In games we played it wasn't at all unusual to compliment an opponent on a great serve, pass down the line or volley etc.

I think you miss the point completely. Because it is essentially a hobby, game or interest, it stands to reason that none of us will play to the highest level, so, we play for commeradiere, fun, enjoyment and I believe that good manners make sport what it is and that the handshake at the end is only part of the spirit and not the be all and end of good manners. It's clear that most of the posters agree and I wonder if your opponents question your attitude as I did my opponents?

 

[Deleted member 15344]

I think my OP says that the guys were real nice, I've played with them a fair few times and will again but we complimented them on well played shots and they didn't reciprocate and I found that unusual.

In answer to your other point. I played tennis for about 10 years after football knackered me up, I played at a decent club level and a few times for my town team. In games we played it wasn't at all unusual to compliment an opponent on a great serve, pass down the line or volley etc.

I think you miss the point completely. Because it is essentially a hobby, game or interest, it stands to reason that none of us will play to the highest level, so, we play for commeradiere, fun, enjoyment and I believe that good manners make sport what it is and that the handshake at the end is only part of the spirit and not the be all and end of good manners. It's clear that most of the posters agree and I wonder if your opponents question your attitude as I did my opponents?

See you have missed where I said " I give compliments where I deem them needed"

But I don't agree that someone is rude if they don't compliment so one

Do people crave some sort of recognition for a good shot. Good manners is being pleasant to someone - where they pleasant ? It appears they were. So they weren't rude shiek hands at the end showed good manners - where is the problem

 

[chrisd]

See you have missed where I said " I give compliments where I deem them needed"

But I don't agree that someone is rude if they don't compliment so one

Do people crave some sort of recognition for a good shot. Good manners is being pleasant to someone - where they pleasant ? It appears they were. So they weren't rude shiek hands at the end showed good manners - where is the problem

Perhaps your standards are much higher than mine Phil

Yes, we are playing a sport where we all strive to hit good shots, so, craving recognition when a players pulls off one is, I think, proper recognition of the players prowess

I have shaken hands at the end of football, tennis and golf games with some right gits in the name of good manners but walking, enjoying and complimenting comes when you enjoy the company of your fellow competitors and NO I don't think that they were rude but when I asked my playing partner if they had said good shot to him at any stage he said they hadn't and I thought that I wouldn't compliment them for the rest of the game but the next tee shot got a compliment from me as it sailed down the middle of the fairway!

 

[triple_bogey]

Makes no difference to me if I get complimented at all. Pleasantries will be the norm before and after the game. Once that first ball is striked, I'll be trying to rip your head off. Maybe thats just my competitive spirit.

 

[JezzE]

That's where the handshake comes in at the end of the game - that's the acknowledgement and thanks but expecting a "well done" every time you think you should get one - sorry but don't agree.

Do you think in football or rugby when a good shot or try is scored they expect a "good try" ! No it happens at the end.

So if someone spoke to you all the way around the golf course and was pleasant and took and interest in what you were saying and shook your hand at the end of the game and said well done or commiserations you would think they were rude if they didn't compliment you on any shots ?

Yes - look, we're clearly Poles apart on this one, so I will withdraw gracefully from the argument at this point relieved that more people seem to share the views I have expressed than sit in the 'why should I say good shot?' camp...

Nothing at all to do with expectation or the need for recognition either by the way...

 

[JezzE]

Yes - look, we're clearly Poles apart on this one, so I will withdraw gracefully from the argument at this point relieved that more people seem to share the views I have expressed than sit in the 'why should I say good shot?' camp...

Nothing at all to do with expectation or the need for recognition either by the way...

I lied... one final thing! I have to say that I have never played with anyone who was chatty and pleasant all the way round and took an interest in my life/work or whatever, but didn't also offer up the occasional 'good shot' when my play merited it. Such behaviour seems mutually incompatible to me...

 

[bladeplayer]

Yes - look, we're clearly Poles apart on this one, so I will withdraw gracefully from the argument at this point ..

Now where's the fun in that Mr E ?

 

[Foxholer]

I always say good shot if someone hits a good shot, irrespective of the situation.

Another here. If they happen to reciprocate, fine. If not, no matter either - I know whether it's a good shot or not anyway!

I do occasionally wonder whether I should, about hoping an opponent misses a key putt. Whether he does or not is out of my control, so no moral problem for me. And certainly have no problem hoping FCs sink every one!

 

[JezzE]

Now where's the fun in that Mr E ?

Don't want to take it to the stage where I risk an infraction from the mods...!

 

[One Planer]

I'll always compliment a good shot without hesitation.

I don't care what format we play, or if it's a bounce or competition round, I cosider it good manners to compliment a good shot.