Angry Golfer!

[alan32195]

Hi,

I would like to get everyone’s opinion/suggestions on a certain situation I find myself in with a fellow golfer nearly every weekend.

I play in a regular 3 / 4 ball each week and one of the guys I play with, who I have only been playing with over the last 2 months or so, gets extremely angry if he plays a bad shot. This gets worse if he hits 2 bad shots in a row. He plays off 25 and I am not sure what he expects given he doesn’t practice in the week he just turns up every weekend and expects to hit in the 80’s.

During our last round he threw clubs, threw golf balls at his bag and also started swearing at the top of his voice. I personally do not let this affect my game but when the group in front turn round to see him doing these things its embarrassing for me to be associated with him.

How can I approach the subject without sounding like an old stiff?

 

[JustOne]

Play golf with someone else

 

[slugger]

Give the guy a break - Maybe he's been having an affair with 17 women, his wife has just found out and he's crashed the car into a tree outside his house

Seriously though... go play with someone else... or just tell him to calm down or find other people to play with. If he's not a mate, then it should be pretty easy to tell him. Or, say to whoever organises tee times that you're not happy playing with him.

 

[Doh]

Just tell him if he does'nt get a grip of himself he will be looking for another partner, end of.

Or buy him the book, Golf is not a game of perfect

 

[StrangelyBrown]

Tell him that he needs to control himself on the course before the club secretary starts receiving complaints about him.

 

[thecraw]

I thought you were talking about me there until I read the 25 handicap bit. I'm off 26! (well play like it quite often!)

 

[Matty]

Maybe give him the 'Mind Game' book that comes free with this months magazine!

Remind him it is only a game and that worse things are happening while he's blowing up on the fairway.

 

[alan32195]

I will have a word with his friend who arranges the tee times...

We all feel like it some times but if I lobbed an iron and bent it I would be gutted...

I dont think I helped much when he said 'I need to break something' to which I replied '100 would be nice' much to the amusement of the others in my group and not him!.. ha

 

[JustOne]

1) Say to him... "C'mon Smiffy, calm down mate."

2) Say to him... "Go on, snap it you whimp... in fact throw them away, they're all crap clubs!"

 

[SS2]

Laugh at his bad shots.

When he hits one out of bounds, start humming the tune to "When will I see you again?" or "The white cliffs of Dover".

When he hits a good drive, hum the Dambusters theme.

When he hits a really awful shot, approach him with open arms and offer him a cuddle.

That should be enough for him the get the message.

 

[DingleBerry]

I would be angry if played off 25 and used Car Boot sale Clubs!!! [lol does he by the way...sounds like he does if he throws clubs]
Tell him its not the right way to conduct yourself on the golf course even on a municipal course which nearly almost everything goes on!! If u joined the 3 some to play and he was already there u should look 4 different 3 some m8 or have the guts to say u r affecting other players game and remind him its a Game and it should be Fun if he cant grasp that.. ask him wot club he is taking on his next shot and get it out of his bag and throw for him sound s like he needs to get a grip and start playing bowls

 

[freddielong]

We have all had days were things go wrong but that doesn't help anyone, I would tell him to get it sorted or he will be looking for new playing partners, how can you play and enjoy your game when he is acting like that.

 

[Smiffy]

Walk off and leave him out there.
He'll get the message

 

[Macster]

I wouldnt/couldnt put up with it, Period.
Occasional outburst understandable perhaps, but otherwise, jut tell him that although you like his company, his outbursts/frustration just distract you too much.

 

[19th]

I would be angry if played off 25 and used Car Boot sale Clubs!!! [lol does he by the way...sounds like he does if he throws clubs]
Tell him its not the right way to conduct yourself on the golf course even on a municipal course - LIKE ST ANDREWS AND CARNOUSTIE- which nearly almost everything goes on!! If u joined the 3 some to play and he was already there u should look 4 different 3 some m8 or have the guts to say u r affecting other players game and remind him its a Game and it should be Fun if he cant grasp that.. ask him wot club he is taking on his next shot and get it out of his bag and throw for him sound s like he needs to get a grip and start playing bowls

SORTED IT FOR YOU!

 

[Hattersuk]

I have the same problem. Also within the same fourball i also have a mate who sulks . . i mean . . he could be having a bad day by the 2nd and won't speak a word for the rest of the round.

I find that more of a distraction. Its like waiting for him to explode.

I'd tell your mate he's putting you off your game. Sounds fair and you would expect a slight change.

 

[Deleted member 1147]

I used to play with a guy like that.
During the winter he got mardy one game, I told him to stop being a prat (or something along those lines), now he's more sensible!

 

[Screwback]

Give the guy a break...he is clearly having a bad day at the office.

Bad temperedness is a more common problem than you would think only yesterday i had to explain to a playing partner the correct position the shaft should be in over the knee to get a clean snap...

In seriousness a bit of emotion on the course is not a bad thing but it should just be when you are playing and after 10 steps should be forgotten about.

 

[brendy]

Buy one of these and next time on the 1st tee lighten the mood and hand it to him, he will get the message.

 

[birdieman]

Video record it on your mobile (on silent mode of course ) then play it back to him after the game or stick it on youtube - he'll get the message when he realises what a tube he's being!