Smacking children, should you do it.
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Grant85
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As a parent who previously would have had no problem smacking children, now being in the position of parenting and disciplining kids - I am completely against smacking children.
By the time you feel it is appropriate to smack a child you have inevitably lost control. It is far better (and harder and more time consuming) to reinforce good behaviour with treats / choices / activities. And bad behaviour with a withdrawal of these things.
By the time you feel it is appropriate to smack a child you have inevitably lost control. It is far better (and harder and more time consuming) to reinforce good behaviour with treats / choices / activities. And bad behaviour with a withdrawal of these things.
User20205
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Out of order IMO. Similar to the belief that you can’t have an opinion on raising boys as you have girls, which is obviously nonsense.
It’s hard, having a no smacking rule sometimes limits your options. I’ve no issue with smacking lightly if required in the mind of the parent, but it’s not for me.
You could make the argument that there’s more shouting involved with zero smacking, which in itself sets a poor example to kids
SwingsitlikeHogan
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Cannot but agree with you on this. There is no excuse for a parent smacking a child. Your smacking may have the immediate effect on the child that you wish, but for the smack to be effective in the way that you wish it to be then you have to have instilled fear of the parent into the child. You have absolutely no idea whatsoever what longer term impact that fear and the pain will have on the child - both in respect of the child's own self-perception and feelings; it's feelings towards the parent, and on it's learnt understanding of what pain and fear a smack can have were they to perpetrate that smack on another.
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I find it interesting the number of comments on here from parents saying they never smack or discipline their children and they behave like little angels. My other half has a 4yo grandson who is a badly behaved little brat. His parents think he is very well behaved. Strange that.
User20205
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Mine are a couple of knobs sometimes, I know that. Still wouldn’t smack em. I prefer slow mental disintegration
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Have you considered pulling their fingernails off? After all, that isn't smacking
User20205
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Even worse, i’m gonna send them to live with their grandparents 🤣🤣🤣🤣Have you considered pulling their fingernails off? After all, that isn't smacking
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I wouldn't do that mate, apparently old people are violent towards children!
pokerjoke
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What do you find interesting?
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The number of parents who think their children are well behaved when they are not.
pokerjoke
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And how would you know?
SwingsitlikeHogan
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I gave my son a single smack on the leg when he was maybe 5 (never before)
I cannot recall when and why but I recall being very angry...! I also recall instantly regretting it and vowing to never do it again.
And I didn't.
He was not a very easy child when growing up - bit he was, and is, a nice lad. I do not believe smacking would have made any difference but I am convinced had I smacked him he would remember...and memories from young can be painful and difficult to reconcile with.
Kellfire
Blackballed
Nonsense. It isn't fear of the parent, it's the knowledge of consequence to actions.
When I was a kid I broke my arm after having my hand snapped back by a football. I'm not scared of footballs or strikers but I know that my arm could break if I had a similar injury.
Del_Boy
Head Pro
For me this is a parents decision whether they want to smack their child or not and I mean smack not kicking the crap out of kids. My wife and I decided when bringing up our daughter that she would smack our daughter if it was warranted as a bloke’s force is usually a lot more and can easily be a lot harder than just a smack. This approach seemed to work for all 3 of us
Don Barzini
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And the situation of people having badly behaved little brats never existed in the past, did it? I guess it can't have done, since there was so much smacking and caning about.
londonlewis
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I've got 2 kids who are nearly 5 yo and 2 yo. They aren't always immaculately behaved and can have tantrums, but fortunately seem to leave that until we are at home.
I've never hit my kids and don't plan on doing so either. I see it as an emotional reaction rather than a rational one.
I've never hit my kids and don't plan on doing so either. I see it as an emotional reaction rather than a rational one.
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Well where shall I start.........
1. I'm a parent
2. I've been to numerous kids birthday parties etc
3. I have babysat other kids before on loads of occasions
4. I used to be involved in the running of a youth club
etc, etc, etc.
Nice attempt at fishing Tony :thup:
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Just playing devil's advocate here.......
All those that are opposed to violence against children (which seems pretty much to be everybody), are you also opposed to violence against other adults?
All those that are opposed to violence against children (which seems pretty much to be everybody), are you also opposed to violence against other adults?
Liverbirdie
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No smacking of children - sounds like a Southern thing to me.
