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Yesterday with my wife supervising, - I was attempting install a square of concrete edging with white granite chips in the middle at my sister in law's grave.
As i was trying to dig a small channel to embed the edging in, but i hit some tree roots and said " i think Jinty [ sis in law ] needs her roots done".

I'm in the dog house with HID , but i know my sis in law would have been laughing her socks off .


Opinions please, bearing in mind my SIL had a great sense of humour , i should add she's gone almost 18 months now
 
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By the sheer act of trying to make her grave a well kept and maintained area to visit and remember her by shows how much her life meant to you and your wife. Sharing a joke that would have raised a smile on her face if she were still alive is in my opinion a great coping mechanism for dealing with her death .

We all have our different ways to deal with loss of a loved one and showing them we care, it is always hard for a sibling to lose one so close but they don't have a exclusive right to judge someone else on how we should feel.

I prefer to remember a loved one on how they were in life not how they died , your joke is a way of keeping her memory alive .

Good luck William , your wife's bad feeling will soon pass.
 
London mike 61 said:
By the sheer act of trying to make her grave a well kept and maintained area to visit and remember her by shows how much her life meant to you and your wife. Sharing a joke that would have raised a smile on her face if she were still alive is in my opinion a great coping mechanism for dealing with her death .

We all have our different ways to deal with loss of a loved one and showing them we care, it is always hard for a sibling to lose one so close but they don't have a exclusive right to judge someone else on how we should feel.

I prefer to remember a loved one on how they were in life not how they died , your joke is a way of keeping her memory alive .

Good luck William , your wife's bad feeling will soon pass.
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I second those thoughts and add one more; was your SIL's death expected or sudden, and was she older than your wife? If it was sudden and your wife is now about the age your SIL was when she passed then your wife might be a bit more sensitive about her own mortality and thus less appreciative of the humour. It's something I've experienced in our family.

I'm sure you'll win her round, we're rooting for you……..;)
 
I thought it was funny, my wife thinks it's in bad taste. Do what I do, admit you were wrong & apologise, it's the easiest way. "I stand corrected, my usual position" is phrase I often use, perhaps that's why I've succeeded in staying married for 42 years.
 
Lighthearted and amusing.

I was asked to scatter the ashes of a much loved lady member on the golf course.
There was a small group of ladies in a quiet part of the course.

I had never done the job before and was surprised how much ash was involved.
It was on the back of a tee and the ash came out in a big rush leaving a small pile.
I automatically used my foot to smooth it out and then realised in horror what I had done.

The ladies saw my situation and burst out laughing. Thankfully.
 
I saw a bearer fall in once, it was tipping down and slippy, a slight of a fellow and you can see he was struggling lowering the coffin, next thing bang and he's in the grave.I really had to hold the laughter in, after all it was an elderly chap and he'd have found it funny. We were in tears in the bar afterwards.
Moral of the story no harm done, she'll forgive you.
 
Definitely not bad taste, imho! I'd have been more upset if you hadn't said something!

We had a funeral a couple of years ago where either the guy doing measuring or the guy doing the digging made a mistake and the coffin put in at 45* angle all the mourners were in stitches because the fella in the box would've loved the situation!

We buried my Grandma in December, I was a bearer and as we were walking her down the path someone said that we really should run rather than walking as my Grandma never walked anywhere! I've never laughed so much at a funeral!
 
Doon frae Troon said:
Lighthearted and amusing.

I was asked to scatter the ashes of a much loved lady member on the golf course.
There was a small group of ladies in a quiet part of the course.

I had never done the job before and was surprised how much ash was involved.
It was on the back of a tee and the ash came out in a big rush leaving a small pile.
I automatically used my foot to smooth it out and then realised in horror what I had done.

The ladies saw my situation and burst out laughing. Thankfully.
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Doon,
Thoughtfor a moment you were going to use that old chestnut 'of scattering the ashes and they blew out of bounds"
 
Well my wife found it funny.

About 20 years ago we were at the funeral of a very dear friend and golfing partner who was renowned for his poor timekeeping but when, as we all had long predicted, he was "late for his own funeral" it was too much and at the wake we and his widow were in tears of laughter that he had fulfilled our predictions.

Just as funny was the reason for the delay. The hearse was waiting outside the church whilst someone rushed 2 miles to the neighbouring village's church. The organist had got the instructions confused and she was happily ensconced in the organ loft of an empty church playing sombre pre-funeral tunes to nobody.

As they say, you couldn't make it up.
 
I dont know why people make such a big deal about things. And moan all the time.

One of my best mates had a really bad accident and lost both legs, the head injury caused him to forget how to put words together. But he doesnt make a song and dance about it.
 
stevelev said:
I dont know why people make such a big deal about things. And moan all the time.

One of my best mates had a really bad accident and lost both legs, the head injury caused him to forget how to put words together. But he doesnt make a song and dance about it.
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Thats cruel.

My mate had a bad accident and when he came around in the hospital they told him that he had badly damaged his leg and they had to amputate it, unfortunately they had made a mistake and removed the wrong leg.

He was beside himself with grief but the Doctor said there is some good news, your other leg is getting better!
 
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