Dementia Awareness

Can’t believe none of us have been on here for months.
Just reflecting, not looking for sympathy so please don’t give me any but, after losing my lovely MiL a few weeks ago, my fabulous dad also died in the early hours of this morning. Since my mum’s dementia and death 8 years ago, Dad and I became best mates as well as father and son.
Thanks for all the input to this brilliant thread over the last few years I’ve felt a little less alone during some of the tough times.
It continues to astonish me how little most healthcare professionals seem to know about this horrific condition that so many of our parents fall victim to.
If you think they might need help, ffs get it ASAP and don’t be afraid of care homes. The collateral damage can be as bad as the dementia itself.
Best of luck to all of you and your loved ones. ❤️
Really sorry to hear the news of the loss of your dad 😢

We are here for you as a sound board if needed
 
Proper gutted for you loss Rich. Loved reading your posts. How can someone possibly like a post when it is related to such a horrible illness. I have found this thread a breathe of fresh air in the help and advice I have read. Again how can it be a breathe of fresh air. ☹️ I have read about the path that others and yourself have walked and it has helped me massively, unfortunately I am still walking it. Saw me dad two hours ago and it’s hard keeping your emotions in check when you see the alpha male stripped of all physical and personality strength.
The simple things keep me dad going. I bought him a bar of bournville old Jamaica chocolate today. He loves it. “ put it in the fridge with the other bar” he said. He couldn’t get up to do it himself. There was no other bars in the fridge. It still hurts to patronise and humour him.
Dropped me mum off a couple of bags of compost and tomato grow bags. “Where do you want these putting mum”. “ leave them there, you dad will shift them” She said. My blank look, she picked up on. He is ninety in July. “ er you better put them there then” she said.
Love and hugs Rich.
 
Condolences to you Rich, and strong and good advice too.
This forum was a real godsend when my Father in Law had dementia. The advice given was helpful, but the fact I could use it as a sounding board and somewhere for me to talk and release my emotions with relative anonymity.
 
@RichA, I don’t really frequent this thread as I thankfully have no reason to. But I’ve popped by this evening and caught your sad news. Really sorry to read about losing your dad - my condolences to you and yours.
 
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