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Bad sportsmanship

Andy808

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Today I played in the first round of our last board comp of the club year. It's a high-low greensomes matchplay comp with both ladies and men playing and the ladies getting 3 SiDs. Me and my mate were playing against a ladies pair giving them 9 shots and one of them is the club moaner. Firstly she tried everything with the dates for the game to force us to give them the game only giving dates that one or both of us were working. With the mind games in full swing my playing partner, Gary, started to get under her skin by saying as she had a handicap of 20 then she couldn't have the 3 SiDs as it would take her over the low handicap limit of 20. We did give her the SiDs as we knew we would. So on the first we toss for who shot first. She hits their first drive, a superb duff 30 yards up the fairway. Gary hits a fine shot just over the back of the green. 3 shots later they are on the green so a chip and a putt, the hole is ours. We are 1 up and one of their shots is gone. Second tee, I hit an iron up the middle and short of the green. Her partner, Andrea, duffs a shot 15 yards into the rough. Their second shot sounds like a top and the ball is never found. We are 2 up through 2 and the whining starts. Gary hits a pull onto the next fairway while Chris, now starting to wind herself up, slices a drive 60 yards down the fairway into the rough nearly hitting the group who were letting us through as it was a match. Andrea hits a duff 20 yards forward staying in the rough, Chris then hits the next into a pond. For their 5th shot they finally find the fairway. We find Garys drive and while I am lining up a shot over the trees Gary hears her saying "we are 2 down and we will see where Andy puts this shot but there's plenty of time to get it back!" A steady SW over the trees just off the right side of the green sees us going 3 up thru 3. 4th tee and I hit one just to the left of the green while Andrea duffs one 15 yards forward into the rough that Chris then duffs another 15 yards. This is when the fireworks started with Chris blaming everything and everyone other than herself and storming off the course conceding the match much to the dismay of her partner.
Luckily she is moving to a different club in March so won't be missed at all but I think it was a terrible way to treat her playing partner who was looking to learn some of the finer points of matchplay but only saw the worst side of a member who has consistantly wound up most other members while playing at our place. I had a run in with her and laughed it off but Andrea isn't that trpe of person and I fear it may affect her for quiet a while.
 
If I were you I would invite Andrea out for a knock as a 2 ball or a 3 ball with you and your mate. Play Match play and show her the ropes, let her have an enjoyable game, have some banter give her advice as to strategy etiquette in match play. I'm sure she would be happy to give it another go with a different pairing in the future.

The longer its left the more it will fester
 
Bad loser who cannot accept either being out played or having a bad day on the course.

Just hope her partner wasn't to put off and left feeling like it was her fault.
 
If I were you I would invite Andrea out for a knock as a 2 ball or a 3 ball with you and your mate. Play Match play and show her the ropes, let her have an enjoyable game, have some banter give her advice as to strategy etiquette in match play. I'm sure she would be happy to give it another go with a different pairing in the future.

The longer its left the more it will fester

We finished the 9 holes with Andrea and she understood it wasn't her fault. She also knows what Chris can be like and was wondering why Chris had asked her to be her partner. We think it was to get the shots as Andrea is a 29 handicapper but on her day can play like a 20 capper. It didn't help that they were up against two of the longest hitters at the club which put a lot more pressure on their tee shots knowing they had to hit two good shots to get to our drive. I think Andrea will be a lot more carefull over who she plays these types of comps with in future and not just say yes to the first person that offers to partner her.
 
Have to feel sorry for her partner. Do you pick partners or is it a random draw. I wonder what she did to get that dragon as a partner

You find your own partner for this one. Even that was strange and proof Chris was only after the shots and not the partner. One of the other lady members asked Andrea if she would like to partner her if the player she played with last year didn't want to play in the comp. As soon as they finished speaking Chris went straight over and asked Andrea to be her partner. Andrea is very timid and still quiet unsure of her own game so needed a partner that would help and advise her not just let her get on with her game. Gary and I play the team friendlies together so have a good playing partnership already, on top of that we have very similar games but the bits we aren't so good at the other one is. For instance Gary is great from 120-150 yards whereas I'm not so good at that range then I am brilliant (according to the pro) with delicate chips around the green and Gary struggles to get them within 8 feet.
 
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