Smack or not?

[Deleted member 18121]

So are you saying that when my dad clip me round the ear or smacked my ass with a slipper to give me a short sharp shock he was "inflicting violence and physical abuse on me" ?!?!

Yes.

You can dress it up as a "short sharp shock" all you like, if that's how you want to justify hitting a defenceless child then go right ahead.

I personally will choose to discipline my children in the same way I was, by being spoken to.

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Yes.

You can dress it up as a "short sharp shock" all you like, if that's how you want to justify hitting a defenceless child then go right ahead.

I personally will choose to discipline my children in the same way I was, by being spoken to.

But there isnt a one cap size fits all and certainly suggesting someone clipping someone round the ear is inflicting violent physical abuse is extremely wrong

There is always context and im certainly not looking for justification.

A clip round the ear is not violent physical abuse

Its getting far too easy to pin label or define all acts the same when the case is simply not true

 

[The Green Fairy]

My friends son, aged 4 who had never been smacked, ran off and despite his father's pleadings did not stop, my friend ran after him shouting and threatening to smack him if he did not stop. Of course he did not understand the threat and laughing ran into a busy road.
The car thankfully swerved and braked and the child fell over.
"I will never smack my child" was abandoned in favour of a good hiding, there and then.
From then on the father's commands were obeyed and a smack was never required again.

No instructions on how to be a parent, much is instinct and common sense.

 

[Sharktooth]

Coming from the central belt in Scotland, my childhood and that of my friends were one wrong word away from a good leathering and in those days it was a free for all... parents, teachers, policemen... even the guy that came to collect the football coupon would give you a slap. I grew up with a bit of respect and shake my head when I see the beviour of some kids nowadays.

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

I'm wondering which other wesrern European countries still permit smacking - I'm guessing not that many. So if that is the case does that make our children worse behaved than those elsewhere - and why might that be - poorer parenting?

 

[Deleted member 18121]

and why might that be - poorer parenting?

Nail on head for me.

In my opinion if you need to inflict violence on a child then the parenting needs to be looked at.

 

[Robobum]

i was smacked as a kid, caned, hit with a ruler, slipper etc by teachers too. All made me absolutely adamant that no hand would ever be laid on a child of mine in way of punishment.

Discussion,reasoning, explanation, advice, concession are how I will deal with it.

Smacking is lazy parenting.

 

[User20205]

Some of the terminology used here is an eye opener. 'A good hiding' ' a good leathering'' ??? Really

It's as though some take pleasure in dishing out their form of punishment. That's how I remember some aspects of my childhood

It's not 1975, smacking isn't socially acceptable

 

[Pin-seeker]

It's not 1975, smacking isn't socially acceptable

I prefer to make my own choices,rather than to go with the crowd.

It's now socially acceptable to wear a woolly hat whilst also wearing shorts & flip flops.

 

[The Green Fairy]

Neither is mental and psychological abuse - predominant in this 2015 society.

When the do - gooder's stop mithering about 'smacking' because it is not 1975, they need to have a good look around.

There's a lot of blind eyes to the really cruel stuff.

 

[The Green Fairy]

i was smacked as a kid, caned, hit with a ruler, slipper etc by teachers too. All made me absolutely adamant that no hand would ever be laid on a child of mine in way of punishment.

Discussion,reasoning, explanation, advice, concession are how I will deal with it.

Smacking is lazy parenting.

Ah, browbeating a five year old really works then?

Best of luck with that.

 

[User20205]

I prefer to make my own choices,rather than to go with the crowd.

It's now socially acceptable to wear a woolly hat whilst also wearing shorts & flip flops.

I'm wearing such an outfit as we speak

Said before I'm not going to judge, discipline your kids as you see fit.

A couple of things though; permission to smack is permission to give your child 'a good hiding' who defines the line? My old man crossed it a few times & I know he regrets that. I'm not making that mistake.

Also people without kids have no opinion. They simply aren't qualified.
There is no link between crime & not smacking. Anecdotally, the community where it is acceptable to hit your kids also has a higher incidence of youth crime. There are other factors at work.

 

[Robobum]

Ah, browbeating a five year old really works then?

Best of luck with that.

browbeating!?

Big jump you've made there. :thup: