Noisy Neighbour?

You didn't have to turn it down..... I know several people who practically have daytime discos in their house.

It's all in the name of neighbourly love if you turn it down.


What would you have said if you were having a birthday party with 30 guests in your house?
 
I've been on the receiving end of noisey neighbours more than a few times and it's damn annoying and just plain inconsiderate in my opinion.

One instance while trying to sleep after a long night shift the neighbours in the terrace where I lived at the time ramped up the music, I knocked and was told where to go. So I did back home and I moved my speakers next to the party wall, needless to say they turned there music down as my stereo played a lot louder than theirs.

Another time the neighbours in the flat above were going at it hammer and tongs, she was wailing like a banshee and he was doing a good impression of a truffling pig, then just as it was about to reach the crescendo I screamed as loud as I could "For crying out loud shut the [infraction] up" It all went very quiet, must have really killed the moment for them :D
 
JustOne said:
You didn't have to turn it down..... I know several people who practically have daytime discos in their house.

It's all in the name of neighbourly love if you turn it down.


What would you have said if you were having a birthday party with 30 guests in your house?
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They don't like us - we are the worst neighbours they have ever had. We've been here 17yrs - prior to that there was an old dear living here by herself since 1967!

They really don't like us. We'd shout and argue with ourselves and our kids - and they would dare to have the once or twice a year party - usually finishing at 11pm - they still moaned.

They moan about what we plant in our garden; they moan about our front door shutting noisily; they moan about the fence between us and them; they moaned about my daughter having a dozen friends round of a summer evening in the garden - making a noise chatting, laughing and listening to music - having a nice time. And they moan if there is any noise during the day if their 50+ yr old son is in bed and sleeping (he sometimes does nightshifts).

My wife can't stand them and is wanting me to have my music up REALLY loud to REALLY piss them off - and when they complain - as they will, she'll tell them to **** off and move if they are not happy - and she would tell them with both barrels blazing.

I try to be the conciliator - but it did pee me off yesterday.
 
In theory they are just as much of a 'problem neighbour' as someone who has a party in their house every day. I actually feel bad for you.... and bad for them. They must find the things you do very frustrating but their attitude is equally as retarded (no offence) and can cause you a great deal of stress when you're just trying to get on with your every day lives.

If you genuinely don't care for your neighbours feelings (but then what kind of a neighbour does that make you?) then just tell them to sod off, politely, and get on with your lives.

Stressful though.

You could actually approach them and see if they want to discuss these things... potentially with a mediator present if need be (when a third party tells them they are actually being unreasonable they can accept it, rather than hearing it from you).
 
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SwingsitlikeHogan said:
They don't like us - we are the worst neighbours they have ever had. We've been here 17yrs - prior to that there was an old dear living here by herself since 1967!

They really don't like us. We'd shout and argue with ourselves and our kids - and they would dare to have the once or twice a year party - usually finishing at 11pm - they still moaned.

They moan about what we plant in our garden; they moan about our front door shutting noisily; they moan about the fence between us and them; they moaned about my daughter having a dozen friends round of a summer evening in the garden - making a noise chatting, laughing and listening to music - having a nice time. And they moan if there is any noise during the day if their 50+ yr old son is in bed and sleeping (he sometimes does nightshifts).

My wife can't stand them and is wanting me to have my music up REALLY loud to REALLY piss them off - and when they complain - as they will, she'll tell them to **** off and move if they are not happy - and she would tell them with both barrels blazing.

I try to be the conciliator - but it did pee me off yesterday.
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Tough situation as old people can be really snotty

Some of mine are terrible, they always make a point of coming out whenever I'm cutting my hedge (sometimes it grows up a bit too much, I work early mornings and have a 2 year old to look after in the afternoon so I have very little free time to do gardening) and they always say "oh it looks much better now" in that sarky passive aggressive way that only old people can do

There garden is of course very presentable but yen they have all day everyday to get it done, whereas even if I get a free afternoon, if it's pissing down I'm not about to break out the electric hedge trimmer and kill myself :rofl:
 
Coatsy79 said:
Tough situation as old people can be really snotty
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It's because in life we have to have a level of behavioural expectation, a 'moderation' if you prefer, so that what we do doesn't cause issue with the masses... it might SOUND grumpy or snotty (and believe me I'm not that kind of person)...... but generally rain POURS down :whistle:

(see what I did there?) ;)
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
They don't like us - we are the worst neighbours they have ever had. We've been here 17yrs - prior to that there was an old dear living here by herself since 1967!

They really don't like us. We'd shout and argue with ourselves and our kids - and they would dare to have the once or twice a year party - usually finishing at 11pm - they still moaned.

They moan about what we plant in our garden; they moan about our front door shutting noisily; they moan about the fence between us and them; they moaned about my daughter having a dozen friends round of a summer evening in the garden - making a noise chatting, laughing and listening to music - having a nice time. And they moan if there is any noise during the day if their 50+ yr old son is in bed and sleeping (he sometimes does nightshifts).

My wife can't stand them and is wanting me to have my music up REALLY loud to REALLY piss them off - and when they complain - as they will, she'll tell them to **** off and move if they are not happy - and she would tell them with both barrels blazing.

I try to be the conciliator - but it did pee me off yesterday.
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Only one problem neighbour here, and it isn't you. :thup:
Although playing any 70's disco at any volume is pushing it close. :whistle:
 
Depends on how loud it was. It's unreasonable for you to think you can play music as loud as you like just because it isn't late at night. Conversely it's unreasonable for your neighbour to expect you to be as quiet during the day as you would at night.

Sadly it sounds like there isn't much room for compromise between you any more.
 
Sadly I think you are correct. As mentioned - I think he thought it'd be my son with the music and he'd be able to have a go at me about him - if you get my drift. But it was conciliatory old me - rather punctured his balloon a bit. Ah well. Just had some Frank Sinatra (Songs for Swinging Lovers) on - maybe they'll like the sound of that and do a bit of smooching around their front room :)
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
They don't like us - we are the worst neighbours they have ever had. We've been here 17yrs - prior to that there was an old dear living here by herself since 1967!

They really don't like us. We'd shout and argue with ourselves and our kids - and they would dare to have the once or twice a year party - usually finishing at 11pm - they still moaned.

They moan about what we plant in our garden; they moan about our front door shutting noisily; they moan about the fence between us and them; they moaned about my daughter having a dozen friends round of a summer evening in the garden - making a noise chatting, laughing and listening to music - having a nice time. And they moan if there is any noise during the day if their 50+ yr old son is in bed and sleeping (he sometimes does nightshifts).

My wife can't stand them and is wanting me to have my music up REALLY loud to REALLY piss them off - and when they complain - as they will, she'll tell them to **** off and move if they are not happy - and she would tell them with both barrels blazing.

I try to be the conciliator - but it did pee me off yesterday.
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Have I ever been round to my elderly neighbours house when I can hear her tv blaring due to her hearing, would any of us? Possibly, but more than likely not.

I think you're being overly forgiving in this instance, given all the above. I certainly wouldn't have acceded to his request if, over the years, they have moaned and moaned....and moaned, and moaned......and moaned and moaned...

You and your family have a life and want to live that life, whether it be arguing, slamming a door, planting a tomato plant, bbq's or whatever. You sound far from unreasonable and definitely not one of 'those' families. Your neighbour should think themselves lucky. I'm in your wife's camp here. Next time, politely tell him no. Perhaps, once he's had that 'no' he may never whinge again?
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
They don't like us - we are the worst neighbours they have ever had. We've been here 17yrs - prior to that there was an old dear living here by herself since 1967!

They really don't like us. We'd shout and argue with ourselves and our kids - and they would dare to have the once or twice a year party - usually finishing at 11pm - they still moaned.

They moan about what we plant in our garden; they moan about our front door shutting noisily; they moan about the fence between us and them; they moaned about my daughter having a dozen friends round of a summer evening in the garden - making a noise chatting, laughing and listening to music - having a nice time. And they moan if there is any noise during the day if their 50+ yr old son is in bed and sleeping (he sometimes does nightshifts).

My wife can't stand them and is wanting me to have my music up REALLY loud to REALLY piss them off - and when they complain - as they will, she'll tell them to **** off and move if they are not happy - and she would tell them with both barrels blazing.

I try to be the conciliator - but it did pee me off yesterday.
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Don't worry mate, they won't be there forever. Time is on your side.......
 
Captainron said:
Don't worry mate, they won't be there forever. Time is on your side.......
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...and then we can perhaps go ahead with the small extension we wanted to put out the back but that would have required us rebuilding the party garden wall from single skin to double skin - and which of course they were going to oppose on basis of their rights as defined in the party wall act - and they would have opposed the extension full stop on grounds of some loss of light. In the end we couldn't face the cost and hassle of taking them through solicitors and surveyors - so built our conservatory. Fine - but not what we'd have liked. And so it goes on...

PS. A friend has told me that the left hand boundary of your property is your responsibility to maintain. If I stand facing down my garden from the house - the boundary with our neighbours is on my left hand side. We would like to replace the existing fence which comprises 4ft panels plus top 2ft trellis with a solid 6ft fence - to keep their noses out of our business. Our neighbours will complain, but if the LHS rule is fact then we can go ahead and they can't stop us. Anyone heard of this or is it just custom and practice.
 
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I always thought it was the right hand side, unless it was stipulated as the left on your deeds. :confused:
Could be wrong though because we've never checked. Both our neighbours are elderly so i just crack on if anything needs repairing, renewing. But then we've always got on. Between them they've taught me loads about gardening, so it seams only right, labour for teaching you might say. :cool:

PS If i'am right and it is the RHS, idon't think there's owt stopping you from building another fence ON your property. Just a thought. :whistle:
 
blackpuddinmonster said:
I always thought it was the right hand side, unless it was stipulated as the left on your deeds. :confused:
Could be wrong though because we've never checked. Both our neighbours are elderly so i just crack on if anything needs repairing, renewing. But then we've always got on. Between them they've taught me loads about gardening, so it seams only right, labour for teaching you might say. :cool:

PS If i'am right and it is the RHS, idon't think there's owt stopping you from building another fence ON your property. Just a thought. :whistle:
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I guess LHS and RHS depend upon whether you are looking to or from the house and whether you are standing at the front of it or back of it :confused:
 
SwingsitlikeHogan said:
Bit tricky to explain on a message board - let's say I could hear it as background music in a conservatory out back of your standard 30s semi with it on in the front room.
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OK then, is response to your opening post.....no and no.

After your other enlightening posts, turn the kin thing to full and sing at the top of your voice. It's the afternoon. Go for it !!!!
 
There's nothing to stop you putting up your own fence 2 inches inside your own property line.....

The 1" gap in the middle can be like the gap between the Berlin wall and East Berlin then... no man's land!!
 
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