confidence playing with others ?

[wogga]

Hi peeps, up until just recently i've been playing with work friends 2-3 times a week one of who is a member of a club and he's getting us discount to play his course, i Really like it and he's asked me to join as i show more interest than the other two lads and want to better my game and learn. I'm not the best golfer only been playing 3-4 months but he want's me to join and say's i should play in comps with him etc...

Now , when i play with people i know i'm fine but i don't have the confidence playing with others i feel i'm expected to do well or i feel bad if i'm holding them up, he say's don't be stupid no one is bothered but i'm still not 100% sure.

I want to join for many reason's , better my game, financial reasons , get a handicap, socialising etc....

I'm shooting 80-90 regularly and although this is not great "far from it" i really do enjoy it and see my self improving but fear my nerves will get the better of me in comps etc...

love to hear what you would do in my position . Thanks

 

[lyden]

It takes a few months but soon playing in competitions and with different people becomes the reason to play and all nerves have evaporated. If your scoring 80-90 gross after 4 months I suggest you stick with at as most never achieve a score in the 80s in their lives.........excluding club golfers.

 

[Karl102]

It's pretty hard at first and the nerves are there, but it will soon go away and you will enjoy your golf, especially if your shooting 80/90 consistently!

 

[pbrown7582]

Join and join now! regular shooting in 80-90 bracket is above average score for most players so there is no reason to be concerned about your ability to play.
The first couple of comps you may be nervous but once your off the 1st tee and chatting to your partners youll soon forget its new people and wont notice much difference to playing with your mates.
Good luck and enjoy.

 

[Foxholer]

Hi peeps, up until just recently i've been playing with work friends 2-3 times a week one of who is a member of a club and he's getting us discount to play his course, i Really like it and he's asked me to join as i show more interest than the other two lads and want to better my game and learn. I'm not the best golfer only been playing 3-4 months but he want's me to join and say's i should play in comps with him etc...

Which Course?

There could well be folk on here who are also members, so you wouldn't quite be amongst complete strangers.

Seems like you have some talent.

Welcome aboard btw.

 

[dufferman]

For all the moaners on here who talk about slow play etc, most would be welcoming. I'm not a member of a club but would love to be for the comps and socialising.

And it's taken me 4 years to get shooting in the 80's, so you must be good!!!

 

[harpo_72]

What you are shooting isn't really the issue, there will be better players and worse players than you. The issue is, do you enjoy the game? If the answer is yes, then join up and meet like minded people.
As for competition stuff, well the only advice I can give you which works for me (and others) is be positive, never worry about bad shots they come and they go, have an easy smile and be pleasant. Strangely you will acquire golf buddies and where you go from there is up to you.... Just enjoy the game.

 

[wogga]

Thank you all for the positive comments, your right i should just do it. I suppose it's no different from starting school or a new job for the first time. i do worry what others think though and that my own issue i need to get over.

 

[Vincent Gary]

I can't give you any advice but i do understand how you feel as i'm in the same boat feeling the same as you. I guess everyone feels nervous at the start i'm going to just bite the bullet i wish you well .

 

[Odvan]

I feel the pressure knowing someone is watching me (other than playing partner) and seem to tense so guess i'd be the same if and when i join somewhere....at first. I'm looking forward to it but also know i'll be very nervous for my first couple of 'first tee's'.

Thing is, shooting between 80-90 regularly i can't see how you'd be worried about holding people up as on that premise, you're roughly losing a shot a hole and as others have said, thats no bad thing (unless your home course is a par 55 ). Aside from the odd 'top', 'fat' shot or foray into the rough (like lots of others) can't see why this element would come into it, you can clearly hit a ball.

And once you're off the first tee and walking down the fairway your jitters would be well gone and confidence restored, perhaps...? I hate the first tee!

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Get joined and get playing. Not only will you get an official handicap and play in comps regularly but you'll meet lots of other golfers to enjoy a game with. Even if you put your cards in and get 28 as a start so what? The nerves will always be there on the 1st tee of a comp but as long as you use your head and course manage well, use your shots and above all enjoy it what does it matter what you shoot

 

[G1BB0]

the thought is more intimidating than the actual doing it, trust me. Once you hit a few shots you wont be thinking about what the others think.

go for it :thup:

 

[Siren]

If your shooting between 80 and 90 then its good golf mate.

Were not all professionals, join up and get out there.