Coming back to golf...

BrizoH71

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It's been a long time since I last graced this place, but I'm hoping by doing so will help in some small way of facilitating my return to playing golf as just one small facet of the old golf habits I once employed.

Brief background, I stopped playing in 2018 after around 9 years playing which saw me get down to 10, win a few comps and meet a few GM forumites throughout that time. I loved the game then, played as often as time and money allowed at my own club and at courses across the central belt until things in life changed.

I moved abroad and where I was there no appetitite for the game so not envisaging I'd be back in the UK anytime soon I sold everything related to golf I had to help fund the living pot over there. A couple of years later, Covid forced my return to the UK for financial reasons, but I've had limited opportunity until recently to even consider start playing again. I worked two jobs when I came back, trying to replenish the savings pot in a bid to return to my foreign home while also providing care for my elderly parents. Mum passed in 2023 and with it my foreign return as I couldn't leave my dad on his own so I left job 2 to provide him additional care. He passed away in September 2025 and using a small chunk of his inheritance I decided on a whim to rebuild my golf bag with a view to restarting playing as I'd have a bit more time on my hands now I wasn't killing myself working and my folks were no longer around.

However, having bought everything I needed (or thought I needed) I'm really struggling to recapture the previous bug I once had and I just don't feel the same motivation I held before. The clubs I bought have hit around 300 range balls in the time I've had them, they've never seen the golf course yet and instead sit in the corner of my hallway taunting me everytime I look at them. The balls I've bought haven't even been out of the packaging, never even rolled along the carpet off the putter face.

The current crappy weather perhaps isn't helping my motivation or lack thereof, or maybe I'm expecting too much of myself as I'm not hitting the ball anywhere near the level how I did before and in my mind I don't want to go back until I feel happier in my swing. All this has left me currently feeling that buying the clubs was perhaps a waste of money and its' maybe for the best that I didn't lay out cash for a membership at any of my local clubs as I'd probably be regretting it.

The thought of selling on again has crossed my mind more than once, but I know if I did that I'd probably regret that too... plus I'd rather avoid an earful from the wife if I went down that road. :ROFLMAO:

How do i find that appetite, that motivation to play again?
 
You could try what I did: Post a notice on your club’s bulletin board saying you’re looking for players of similar skill level (or lack thereof… 😉) and be patient!

Before long, I had three really nice playing partners, and I’ve been playing with them once a week ever since! 😊
 
I was in this exact boat in 2025, played for 2.5 years solid, loved it, on my own or with friends, rain or shine, it didn't matter, I'd be out on the course. constantly tinkering with set-ups and trying out different clubs, locking in my distances on all my clubs, I loved all aspects of it.. and most importantly, I started to get consistent with my game, unofficially down to 16 hcp..

Then all of a sudden, I had to force myself out on the course and didn't enjoy it, which would sometimes end in a golfing meltdown. so decided to sell everything I had - golf shoes, clubs, bags, shafts, hats, polo shirts, everything. and decided to give it up for good, didn't even enter my mind, watch, play or keep up with the latest news. And I was fine about it.

had a change in job, from a fairly active job to an office job, and it affected my health a bit, so I needed to do something to keep healthy. Late last year decided to get back into golf, but with a few rules I gave myself. I was playing for fun and for my health. I rebuilt my bag, which was fun, because clubs I wanted back when I started playing were now a lot cheaper to buy :)

I'm now a 20hcp, but my overall approach to playing is: I'm out there for fun and my health benefits. No longer do I get wound up by a slice or a chunk or anything which would leave me seeing red in the past. Although this time around, whilst I am still terrible with my mid irons, I am much better getting out of trouble anywhere on the course, no idea how that happened, but I'll take it ;)

Am I enjoying it as much as I did 2 years ago? Not as much, but I am happy to be out doing something for my health and having some fun, rather than thinking I need to be constantly better every time I play

I'm about 10 rounds in since last September, due to the weather and work, but it kind of makes playing a bit more special, playing at least once a week rather than 4 or 5 times a week like in the past. And I still have no idea how far I can hit my irons :LOL:
 
It’s a difficult one to tell other people how to get back into golf. I walked away from playing in 2019, I got to a point I hated practicing, I hated playing, hated how serious I was taking it and every aspect of the game just held absolutely no interest for me especially the kind of people that were at the club I was at. I found other hobbies and interests and Never even thought about playing again.

Then last year after another stint of working away for an extended time, I came to realise that if I wasn’t working, or doing runs up and down the country to see my kids, I was simply not taking time to do anything for myself or my wellbeing. Few lads at work were heading to the range for sports afternoon and I went along out of boredom not even planning to hit balls. But ended up having a go with one of their clubs and hit some good shots.

Fast forward a month or 2 and I’d bought new gear and had a few rounds as my wor encouraged me to have an outlet. Even the Mrs came along now to the range and got the bug and we now play together once or twice a month but go to the range every week and have fun with the Trackman games and use it to get time together and just escape work & life. I’ve now joined a new club with some cracking people there are 2 more high profile clubs near me I could have joined, but the people were prioritising golf and status of handicap why club they were a member of over fun.

For me returning has not been just about the game as it was before, but being with other people, enjoying their company, meeting new friends, having time with my wife away from the stress of life. Golf and playing well is now a by product of the other enjoyment. I realise now it wasn’t golf I was annoyed at when I walked away but it was the people I wasted associating myself with and myself being to consumed by being at a certain level and putting pressure on that for enjoyment rather than enjoying the moment and where I was.

I guess you just need to find that spark, find the real reason you want to play again, is handicap, is it health, is it just enjoyment. I’d say for me it’s the latter 2 health of mindset and enjoying being outdoors with new people. Seems to be a lot easier to accept a crap round now and find more reason to look forward to the next one. I don’t think I or anyone can answer for you as to what you should do but good luck in your search for your reasons to play again, I think once you do you find them you’ll be hooked again like the rest of us.
 
Welcome back to the forum

It’s tough to get back into golf right now with the way courses and the weather is, it’s just not appealing at the moment

Right now what else do you do in life to socialise , do you have a bunch of friends, do any of them play golf

Might be a case of waiting for a nice day and just giving it a go and seeing how it is
 
Not worth forcing it in my opinion. You either want to play or you don't. 🤷🏻 I wouldn't sell the clubs, just keep them there in case you want them. If you just hit balls on the range and never go to the course then that's fine.

It helps if you have a mate who's also wanting to play of course.
 
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