Kid get invoiced for party no-show

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pbrown7582 said:
the teacher was given a brown envelope to pass highly likely much the same as the party invites in the 1st place would of been put in the kids book bags.

I don't think it is unreasonable to ask for the payment having confirmed on the Thursday (before full payment was made) you are ok to go to a party on the weekend. Then to change your mind and not show is pretty poor IMO.
The incorrect bit is the way its been done by sending an invoice and also going to the press.

The worst bit will be the playground tension which no doubt will have an affect on the 5 year old children.
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seriously??

It's 5 year olds your dealing with- they get sick quickly- they have temper tantrums - that friend maybe isn't a friend that day etc etc
All parents have had kids not show- we had it at my wee boys last party, two no shows and an extra one who turned up so I paid the extra there and then for the activity, then he got scared and wouldnt do it! that's life.

So I'm out of pocket times three, should I have confronted the parents and demanded reimbursement whilst scolding little Johnny for being a woos, or just accept thats what happens and you take that risk when booking these 'parties'.

If they were all at your house (as they used to be) you'd only have some extra sausage rolls and icecream left over.
 
I can see both sides really. the invoice was wrong.. Very wrong.. But agreeing to attend a party, then not turning up is also wrong. The parent who sent the invoice has stated that all contact details were on the invite.. How hard would it be to let them know? Another example of people who think that manners are an optional extra..
 
CMAC said:
seriously??

It's 5 year olds your dealing with- they get sick quickly- they have temper tantrums - that friend maybe isn't a friend that day etc etc
All parents have had kids not show- we had it at my wee boys last party, two no shows and an extra one who turned up so I paid the extra there and then for the activity, then he got scared and wouldnt do it! that's life.

So I'm out of pocket times three, should I have confronted the parents and demanded reimbursement whilst scolding little Johnny for being a woos, or just accept thats what happens and you take that risk when booking these 'parties'.

If they were all at your house (as they used to be) you'd only have some extra sausage rolls and icecream left over.
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yes seriously.

in this case Its not the 5 year who has forgotten on the Thursday they are going out with there parents on Saturday.

Children do get sick, have tantrums etc (sounds like the forum! :rofl: ) but its not unreasonable to expect a simple text or email apoligising for absence No doubt the acceptance will have been sent by text/email. If it was school you'd get a fine these days.

Kids parties are a jungle!
The extras that turn up friends no problem I'd pay in as you did, but extra siblings turning up and expecting a free play do my head in and the chuntering from the parents when they have to pay for the extra brother sister is unreal.
 
pbrown7582 said:
yes seriously.

in this case Its not the 5 year who has forgotten on the Thursday they are going out with there parents on Saturday.

Children do get sick, have tantrums etc (sounds like the forum! :rofl: ) but its not unreasonable to expect a simple text or email apoligising for absence No doubt the acceptance will have been sent by text/email. If it was school you'd get a fine these days.

Kids parties are a jungle!
The extras that turn up friends no problem I'd pay in as you did, but extra siblings turning up and expecting a free play do my head in and the chuntering from the parents when they have to pay for the extra brother sister is unreal.
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so you would seek out the parents on another date and demand your £14.95 or whatever?

what if the child was sick and the last thing on a distraught parents mind was ensuring you don't lose your £14.95 for inviting them:rolleyes: would you still think it's reasonable to ask for payment?

Maybe in future your invites should clearly state any no shows will be responsible for reimbursing the cost per child. Why stop there, demand your mobile text cost returned if you have to text a 'where are you' message, and the wear and tear on shoe leather, not to mention the emotional stress and anxiety of organising a 5 year olds party:whistle:

we clearly think differently about who is ultimately responsible for anything to do with a party I organise. The rest is down to good manners and empathy.
 
So if the kid did turn up to the party, she would still have paid the same amount as she had budgeted for .. so there is no extra overall cost to the person throwing the party .if you cant afford the party DONT have it


If a load of extra people turned up that the organiser had not allowed for and it ended up costing them more than they had budgeted for, and mayb cant really afford then i can see issues with funds , but it would want to b at least 4 or 5 more
 
I would expect to be OFFERED payment if an invited child was not able to make it for any reason.....I suspect that if the parents of the non-attending child had done this there wouldn't have been an issue. Of course, they say they let the organising parents know before the payment deadline and it's therefore not their problem. If true, fair enough but who knows what really happened?!?!?
 
Any parent that arranges a party at £15:95 a head at a dry ski slope isn't short of a few quid, so suck it up and don't do it if you can't afford it.

i can understand it if they were out of pocket but they weren't. They had budgeted for a set number of kids to go and we there that kid turns up or not get have still paid out what they budgeted for.
 
jp5 said:
Is the correct answer :thup:

If you're that offended by a 5 year old not turning up, for whatever reason, then have a party where the cost is irrelevant of numbers.
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I would have had the no-show kid knee capped on dinner break. That'll teach him.
 
jp5 said:
Is the correct answer :thup:

If you're that offended by a 5 year old not turning up, for whatever reason, then have a party where the cost is irrelevant of numbers.
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I think the issue is more with the rude parents of the child not turning up.

With so many ways of getting in contact with someone, it's just rude to not show up and expect everything to be ok. If they have promised they will be there, then they should be there. The Grandparents thing is rubbish. Parents showing real lack of manners and class for first of all not showing up, then running to the press.

(and no I don't agree with the invoice, but it sounds like the mother already tried to speak to them at the school gates, and the mother of the missing child "dashed off" and ignored her)
 
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