Devastated to have to leave the golf club!!

[Basher]

Wait while she's a teenager pal. You'll wish you'd kept up your membership!!!ne:

Seriously though, any self respecting parent does exactly the same thing mate. Good but hard choice, you've made the right one!

 

[HomerJSimpson]

I don't have kids but it seems a no brainer. Enjoy every precious second with them while you can. Golf will still be there and that is what driving ranges a re for. Go there for a bucket and get your fix and then back and look at the unconditional love in your kids eyes

 

[thecraw]

I guess I'm lucky that I'm a shift worker and manage to balance the work life kids balance better than a 9-5 man. Can't really say anything that's not already been said. If its what has to be then sadly that's how it has to be.

Hope it all works out. Lottery ticket this weekend?

 

[PhilTheFragger]

Speaking as someone who gave up a career in banking to become a house husband, I know exactly how you feel

This little person has to become your focus, so you have made the right decision

HOWEVER, it is vital for your sanity, that you still get a little bit of "you" time
How you spend that time is up to you, it may be that just playing once a month drives you insane as you want to get out there more.
or it might be just enough to keep you interested and make you look forward to the next time.

Good luck and dont forget the forum will still be here, so dont become a stranger and if you ever fancy a Friday game at Aylesbury Park, just shout Me or Imurg

Fragger

 

[Captainron]

They say kids are llike farts - you can just about stand your own. I have 2 and I love those little guys so much. I understand your predicament. Time also becomes a major factor and you need to get some time to yourself AND some one to one time with the missus. Spinning all those plates is difficult but rewarding at the same time. Kids are aalso crazy expensive if you send them to Nursery. the wife and I share the £950 per month cost for the boys and I can't wait for Finlay to go to school so that I have some spare cash. 3 months of nursery payments saved means that I can join a top course like Moortown or Alwoodley (assuming they let me in!) and I can't wait. I have justified it to the missus in that she can have the other 9 months worth of cash. Agian, good luck with it all and take ALL your paternity leave!

 

[DCB]

I've been fortunate in that I was able to keep my golf going and play almost as much as I did before my daughter was born. My wife plays as well, she played until she was almost 7 months gone !

Biggest problem came afterwards as my daughter grew up. I worked away quite a lot and missed an awful lot of school shows, parents nights, Christmas concerts etc. Ended up changing jobs so that I was able to be at home more.

They are only young once, so you have to make the most of it because they soon grow up, very quickly.

 

[User20205]

I can sympathise with what you have to do. I gave up membership in 2007 because I couldn't justify the expense on something I was using once a month. I got involved in a really active golf society. This way I managed to play 6-8 times a summer, midweek which didn't really affect family time.

 

[MashieNiblick]

Speaking as someone who gave up a career in banking to become a house husband, I know exactly how you feel

This little person has to become your focus, so you have made the right decision

HOWEVER, it is vital for your sanity, that you still get a little bit of "you" time
How you spend that time is up to you, it may be that just playing once a month drives you insane as you want to get out there more.
or it might be just enough to keep you interested and make you look forward to the next time.

Good luck and dont forget the forum will still be here, so dont become a stranger and if you ever fancy a Friday game at Aylesbury Park, just shout Me or Imurg

Fragger

:thup:

I too gave up my job to be a full time dad while Mrs MN did the daily commute until little Mashie was old enough for nursery. Ended up playing more golf as a result. After 10 hours a day of bottles, burping, nappies and peep-bo, an hour or two on the golf course in the evenings and a regular weekend round was essential to keep my sanity.

It was tough watching my former colleagues' burgeoning careers while I was standing on the sidelines but I don't regret the decision one iota, especially now he's 17 and you realise how precious and fleeting those years were.

Would probably have found it tougher to give up golf than work though. :smirk:

You'll never regret spending more time with your family but like Fragger says don't forget to let yourself have a little "me time" now and again.

 

[JustOne]

Good call, it's Winter anyway!

A few twilights as a members guest will sort you out once the weather picks up.... wrap up warm and enjoy lots of snuggles through the Winter... try and be the husband/father that you wanted to be!


Get the video camera out......Happy Chrimbo!

 

[Alex1975]

I am truly touched at all the responses, thank you all very much! I feel a little silly getting so emotional about golf but it truly is more than a game to me, I am a guy that does not like or not like things, I love them or I hate them in an extreme way and I always need a personal focus, it would seem from the replys that I am not alone. I know this is the right thing to do but not an easy thing to do.


Be ware all who offered me games at their tracks, my company pays for all my fuel so see you soon!!! :thup:


Thanks again for the replys, she is a beautiful little girl like no other and when I see her and my wife together I know its how it should be!

You are truly a great community of people!

Al

PS Doesn't Fundys camera take nice photos!!

 

[PhilTheFragger]

Bless her little cotton socks

Fragger (Soppy Old Git)

 

[robbest3offthetee]

Alex She is certainly worth it mate, and to be honest it wont be forever, just think of the joy she will bring you, especially as you walk the fairways of life together, wish you all the best......

 

[Robobum]

Child neglect alert!!! Have you just propped her up against that tree whilst you knocked a 7 iron back out to the fairway!!!??

You know it's the right thing to do - just to give some light on the horizon, when my daughter reached 3 i took her to the practice ground. The pro got the assistant to knock up a little club out of old bits and bobs laying around (good practice for PGA club making assignment) and away we went. Her favourite part was seeing how many balls would fit in the cup and also having a twix and kitkat picnic half way through. We also took out a buggy and reaced around the course - she loved it!!

The club I've just moved to gives free junior memberships to all children of full members up until they are 16.

 

[One Planer]

I take it she has her mothers looks?

What a cutie!!!

You have made the right choice for sure Al'. The game will still be here when you find the time to give it another go.

 

[Aztecs27]

Be ware all who offered me games at their tracks, my company pays for all my fuel so see you soon!!! :thup:

Sounds good!

As Gareth said, she must have her mother's looks, either that or the milkman has a lot of explaining to do!

 

[JustOne]

Let's not get ahead of ourselves... if he was any good we'd be saying KEEP PLAYING!

 

[Alex1975]

I take it she has her mothers looks?

What a cutie!!!

I am not even sure its my child, I have brown eyes and they should trump any blue eyes but May`s are very clearly blue... I think Ill keep her though!(sleeps 13 hrs, never crys, shrieks with excitement when I come in from work.)

 

[DelB]

....sleeps 13 hrs, never crys, shrieks with excitement when I come in from work.)

Remember the days when the wife used to do the same........................

 

[bluewolf]

Right decision mate. We were faced with a similar decision when our eldest was born. In the end Jules went back to work part time and I transferred onto nights. This meant that there was almost always someone at home. Now that our Youngest has started at Nursery, all I have to do is sacrifice a couple of hours sleep a night and I can play every day, and still be there to pick up the kids from school, The downside of this is that I now look 15 years older than I actually am. Still, totally worth it when I realize that I spend more time with the kids than anyone I know, and still play 3/4 times per week.
Oh, and by the way, kids eye colour can change as they become toddlers....

 

[Evesdad]

I gave up work at Easter to look after my daughter too. I don't regret it at all I'm luckily able to afford next years fees it's the year after I'm worried about!! Hope it all works out for you and as has been said make sure a little time for yourself, it's no fun working all the time with no outlet.