Would it be enough to make you say "I'll take it"

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Afternoon all,
Lots and lots of time on my hands lately with the injury..So im sitting back and putting things in perspective...
Before i go on this post may be a little long but if you stay with me i'll explain all in the hope that there are a good few on here who may have been in a similar position and jumped the fence to see if the grass really is greener!

On numerous occasions i have threatened to change jobs and go working with my intended father in law but I'm just a little nervous to take the plunge.
He works here from Ireland for a big American company and right now the Job is in front of me again if i want it....

Now I'm very good at what i do at the moment but to be honest its really not going anywhere. I'm a panel beater....
Being in a cast now at the moment isn't helping the cause either...

I don't get paid for being out of work, we don't have a pension scheme and don't have health insurance..I'm probably not alone either id say in the current climate..
I work 9-6 and have the weekends off...

The new job would literally take me all over the world with very good money, a great remuneration package and above all a fair chunk of financial security...
The downside is that my partner and my little 'uns wouldn't have me around on a daily basis...
Its the type of job where i could be spending a few days to a few weeks to a few months at the time away....

Do any of you boys have a job that keeps you away from your family for a while at a time?
And if so is it really worth it?

I want the best for my family and would basically do anything to get that but is it worth the trade off?
 
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Financial security is paramount IMO. I think if I was in the situation, I would take the job and make the most of the time I have at home when I'm home. That being said, I don't yet have kids so my opinion may well be different once I do have kids.

But knowing that I'm providing for my family and ensuring they live a comfortable and happy life would still lead me towards taking it.
 
Its the type of job where i could be spending a few days to a few weeks to a few months at the time away....

That part would swing it for me.I'd miss my missus and kids too much.Money and being able to provide is important, but so is day to day life being around your family and helping your kids develop.

Possibly not the answer you were looking for, and it's not something I have personal experience of, so sorry for that!​
 
Adi2Dassler said:
Its the type of job where i could be spending a few days to a few weeks to a few months at the time away....

That part would swing it for me.I'd miss my missus and kids too much.Money and being able to provide is important, but so is day to day life being around your family and helping your kids develop.

Possibly not the answer you were looking for, and it's not something I have personal experience of, so sorry for that!​
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No problem fella's I'm just putting out the feelers.....
I could nearly say that i'll get a 50/50 split here but I'm hoping ill get one or 2 replies where somebody may have been in a similar situation.
 
Not an easy one to answer. My dad was away a hell of alot when I was a lad and in all honesty I cannot say that this did not have an impact on our relationship. That said, the financial stability that it provided sent me to a good school and helped fund me through university and allowed me to get where I am today and want for very little when I was younger. It has taken a while in my later life to build a strong relationship with my dad and I feel that those a bonds that would have formed earlier if he had been around more when I was younger.
 
It should also be noted that I work for the same company as HID so I see her all day, every day...So right now, working away from home for a few days a week would sound very appealing to both of us! :D
 
Three words "Work Life Balance", as a father of three I can honestly say that I'd turn down a much higher paid job which came with a lot less time spent with my family. You have got to get the balance right, you've got to be able to provide enough financial stability whilst making sure that you are not a 'stranger' to your partner and children.

My job gives me a decent level of pay, a fair amount of stress, some long days, some overnighters, some days working from home. So I get a fair mix. If you days away are at an acceptable level and the days you're not allow you to make the most of your time then I'd say go for it. There's nothing worse in life than regretting not doing something, far worse than regretting doing something which can usually be put right.
 
Jobs can, hopefully, be replaced. The missed time with your kids and not seeing them can never be replaced. When it`s gone, that`s it, forever.

Money is good, but not everything.

The time I have missed out with my kids, I`d have it back in an instant if it were possible. Ex-wife; that`s a different story........
 
kid2 said:
Afternoon all,
Lots and lots of time on my hands lately with the injury..So im sitting back and putting things in perspective...
Before i go on this post may be a little long but if you stay with me i'll explain all in the hope that there are a good few on here who may have been in a similar position and jumped the fence to see if the grass really is greener!

On numerous occasions i have threatened to change jobs and go working with my intended father in law but I'm just a little nervous to take the plunge.
He works here from Ireland for a big American company and right now the Job is in front of me again if i want it....

Now I'm very good at what i do at the moment but to be honest its really not going anywhere. I'm a panel beater....
Being in a cast now at the moment isn't helping the cause either...

I don't get paid for being out of work, we don't have a pension scheme and don't have health insurance..I'm probably not alone either id say in the current climate..
I work 9-6 and have the weekends off...

The new job would literally take me all over the world with very good money, a great remuneration package and above all a fair chunk of financial security...
The downside is that my partner and my little 'uns wouldn't have me around on a daily basis...
Its the type of job where i could be spending a few days to a few weeks to a few months at the time away....

Do any of you boys have a job that keeps you away from your family for a while at a time?
And if so is it really worth it?

I want the best for my family and would basically do anything to get that but is it worth the trade off?
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wow the inlaw is letting you marry his daughter and give you a job!! does he play golf aswell. if not 2 out of three is not bad. is there career prospects with the job. best you and the soon to be wife talk it over then the three of you talk it over.
but its your descion, i wish i had went chasing the dosh instead of wasting 10 years partying.
 
Tough call, As a young man I would have jumped at the chance, wheather that would have had a detrimental effect on my relationship with wife and kids I don't know but the money would have made a huge difference.
I guess in the end you'll have to go with your conscience if being away a lot makes you and yours unhappy then stay where you are. Having said that many servicemen, fishermen, oil rig workers el al seem to adapt and not end up with disfunctional families.
 
Had seven years overseas, the last two after my boy was born.

Home was in Rwanda and I travelled over Africa and the ME earning obscene amounts of USD.

It was very difficult knowing my lad was at home and I might get dead and not see him again.

Didn't miss the wife one bit (but that's another story).

My lad and I came back to the UK five years ago, and had to start from scratch.

Permanently pot-less now, work five days a week and spend loads of time with my lad who lives with me.

Best decision I ever made.

HTH

Cheers

Steve...
 
By choice ?.... A single mans job id say . for me.. Herself & the kids will always come 1st , working away from home for long periods of time doesnt work , they will be grown up in no time & you will have missed the bond that being there creates .. some people dont have any choice but to work away from home so its not a critisism only a personal preference ..
 
I wouldn't even commute!

If you offered me 100K to work in London I'd ask for 40K and just work Monday and Tuesday!

Life isn't about the money... well not for me. I put my kids first and apart from not buying them quad bikes and ponies we do alright. Tell your missus to take the job.... so you can stay home and play 9 holes of golf every day ;)
 
Doc said:
Had seven years overseas, the last two after my boy was born.

Home was in Rwanda and I travelled over Africa and the ME earning obscene amounts of USD.

It was very difficult knowing my lad was at home and I might get dead and not see him again.

Didn't miss the wife one bit (but that's another story).

My lad and I came back to the UK five years ago, and had to start from scratch.

Permanently pot-less now, work five days a week and spend loads of time with my lad who lives with me.

Best decision I ever made.

HTH

Cheers

Steve...
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my sister flies out to rwanda on saturday, part of her job is to live with the locals and help out. she works for the British Government, bit unclear what she actually does she pretty vague when asked
 
Stay home with the family and enjoy life albeit not with the extra luxuries the job would bring for they are material things only and can't bring happiness. Sure a lack of them can make it an unhappy life but it sounds like you do ok where you are now.
 
Personally, and I have two young kids, these sorts of opportunities come along very rarely and I would think very carefully about the 'long game'.

Firstly, and I do not know your qualifications, but it appears you have a well-paid job offer without interview/reference etc a position thousands would like - will another opportunity come along such as this?

Secondly, think of the security it will provide to your family. If you fall ill now, can you survive with no income?

Thirdly, and lastly, you have a trade which you can always return to if this does not work out - a strong asset.

This is a tough decision and I wish you luck - but personally I would take the job given the reasons above.
 
bigslice said:
my sister flies out to rwanda on saturday, part of her job is to live with the locals and help out. she works for the British Government, bit unclear what she actually does she pretty vague when asked
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She'll be with DFID probably, it's a lovely country and great people.

The cleanest capital city I have ever been in.

Mandatory community service for the entire population one Sunday per month called Umuganda.

Great coffee, good food and fantastic scenery, the gorilla trek in the Virunga volcano park is awesome.

The genocide memorial sites are heartbreaking and the whole country goes into mourning during April which can be distressing and difficult.

But overall I'm sure she'll have a great time.

Cheers

Steve...
 
The kids grow up really quickly - like miss a week and you wonder how they grew another couple of inches and are behaving like teenagers.
For me, i forsake a travelling career which is available to me, because i have a work-life balance that works for me. I still work hard(ish) but i really work hard to balance it all
BUT - even with strong family ties, you have to do what is right for you
What do YOU want to do ?
 
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