What a dilemma?

[pokerjoke]

Hi all
Dont know if you remember my post about catching a playing partner cheating and telling him i would not sign his card or play with him again.Well the said person went awol for the last 6 mths and everyone said they would have done the same and would not play with him again either,and of course as he was not around no more they were all balshy about it.I have been playing with a guy now regulary for the last 18 mths and he is always talking tough when no ones around,however the guy who cheated is now back and my playing partner has started to play with him again[2 faced]i cannot and will not play with him out of principal and being a man of my word,of course now there is going to be friction between me and these other players who have gone back on there word.Whats your view please?

 

[USER1999]

Jeez, that's difficult. If you don't go back, who will you play with? If you do, then it will be awkward. I think you'll probably have to play with them, but if you get drawn with the cheat, it could get messy. I guess the opening gambit of 'no hard feelings eh?' is going to go down well.

I guess this time around the others will be watching him to see if he's up to his old tricks.

Second chance and all that? 6 months out, time served, etc?

 

[p1pete]

Tough call mate.

By changing clubs or not playing in comps if he is your cutting your nose off to spite your face....its you that suffers, not the cheating git.

Probably best to swallow your pride and play with them but keep an eye on the cheat, everyone who knows must have this in the back on their minds even though they are playing with him again and chances are he may not try it on knowing people are watching him for the next time he tries it on.

Is there any way to speak to the person who does the draws and put your issues forward so you dont have to play with this guy again?

 

[The_LHC]

I don't think you can say anything to your mates about their decision, most people won't back up their words with deeds, so you'll have to accept their decision in the same way they'll have to accept yours. You can avoid a friendly foursome with him easily enough, just make it clear to them that you won't play with him. When it come to comps though, unless you're prepared to walk off the tee when you realise who you're drawn with (which would be unfair on your partner if it's a pairs comp) you'll just have to front up to him and tell him you'll be keeping a very close eye on him. If he doesn't like it it's his problem.

Just out of curiosity what was it he did?

 

[USER1999]

Ate the last rolo?

 

[muttleee]

Who better to play with a cheat than a guy who'll be watching his every move and isn't afraid to call him on any indiscretions?

 

[Smiffy]

Stuff 'em and find somebody else to play with.
Despite my knobiness, I am a man of principles and will not bow to pressure if I think something is right/wrong.

 

[USER1999]

Stuff 'em and find somebody else to play with.
Despite my knobiness, I am a man of principles and will not bow to pressure if I think something is right/wrong.

Says the bloke who has played with a known cheat for years.

 

[Smiffy]

Stuff 'em and find somebody else to play with.
Despite my knobiness, I am a man of principles and will not bow to pressure if I think something is right/wrong.

Says the bloke who has played with a known cheat for years.

And called him numerous times....
but not any more

 

[Farneyman]

If it was me I would play in bounce games with him but refuse to even mark his card or play him for money and remind him why. Not knowing the full story was it proper cheating or could he have misunderstood a rule ets?

Remember this game is fun. Dont worry what he gets up to, you just play your game. If he wants to cheat let him carry on.

As for competitions thats easy just avoid him.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

I would probably play with him so I could still play with my mates in friendly games and not play in medals with him. Are your medals drawn or do the same mates play together in every event. I have seen that happen and it seems a cheats charter. Before anyone shoots me down, there was a guy at my old club who played off single figures but always played with two old boys in comps. Whenever he hit it in trees he'd always find it and have a swing by the time the old guys had caught up. Suffice to say he was always in the buffer and knocking on the door of winning (certainly picking up plenty of vouchers for top 3's). Everyone knew it sucked. In the end the captain followed him around discreetly and watched him put balls down and kick it out of trouble. When confronted he did a long term bunk from the club.

My argument is that mates can forget to play to rules usually through laziness or because its a mate. I know not everyone is like it and mates groups works perfectly well at many clubs. However in the case of the OP there has already been a case and so I'd doubt a leopard has really changed his spots and the guy in question will be thinking it has all blown over.

You can either play and watch him like a hawk which will kill your own game, refuse to play, see if you can join another group for comps or go into the drawn part if your club has one. You pays your money and takes your pick

 

[Mattie]

He should atleast apologise!

 

[mansell]

Hi all
Dont know if you remember my post about catching a playing partner cheating and telling him i would not sign his card or play with him again.Well the said person went awol for the last 6 mths and everyone said they would have done the same and would not play with him again either,and of course as he was not around no more they were all balshy about it.I have been playing with a guy now regulary for the last 18 mths and he is always talking tough when no ones around,however the guy who cheated is now back and my playing partner has started to play with him again[2 faced]i cannot and will not play with him out of principal and being a man of my word,of course now there is going to be friction between me and these other players who have gone back on there word.Whats your view please?

He cheats, you try to get something for nothing! That sounds the perfect match to me!

 

[Region3]

I wouldn't play with him, even if that means not playing with my mate.

Play in a few roll ups and get pally with more people to find new regular partners if your competitions aren't drawn.