Rock and a hard place - any ideas?

[londonlewis]

A mate of mine took up golf a year and a half ago and he is a competent golfer.
His aim is to break 90 and he has come close a couple of times.

but recently his form has gone the other way and he is struggling to break 100 (last two rounds I have played with him has has hit over 110 and over 120 respectively).

during the last round I made a comment about his swing and offered him a suggestion as to why he occasionally hit a wild hook but would hit a slice if he set up to counter act the hook. He didn't take my input too well - fair enough, his call.

But there have been other occasions where he has actively seeked out my opinion and reasons as to why he has hit a poor shot.

So do I never say anything to him unless he asks for my opinion or do I offer him some help as he is definitely going the wrong way if he wants to break 90.

Cheers

 

[One Planer]

A mate of mine took up golf a year and a half ago and he is a competent golfer.
His aim is to break 90 and he has come close a couple of times.

but recently his form has gone the other way and he is struggling to break 100 (last two rounds I have played with him has has hit over 110 and over 120 respectively).

during the last round I made a comment about his swing and offered him a suggestion as to why he occasionally hit a wild hook but would hit a slice if he set up to counter act the hook. He didn't take my input too well - fair enough, his call.

But there have been other occasions where he has actively seeked out my opinion and reasons as to why he has hit a poor shot.

So do I never say anything to him unless he asks for my opinion or do I offer him some help as he is definitely going the wrong way if he wants to break 90.

Cheers

I would say it depends how confident you are in your own advise.

If you're not 100% confident in the advise you give , I'd suggest he get professional help with his game. I wanted to get as low as possible on my own, but in the end opted for lessons after tying myself in knots with the technical side of the game.

Best thing I ever did.

 

[Rooter]

I would say it depends how confident you are in your own advise.

If you're not 100% confident in the advise you give , I'd suggest he get professional help with his game. I wanted to get as low as possible on my own, but in the end opted for lessons after tying myself in knots with the technical side of the game.

Best thing I ever did.

Had a mate in a similar situation to the OP, was a good mate so i bought him a 30 minute lesson for his birthday... up to him if he uses it or buys more..

 

[One Planer]

Had a mate in a similar situation to the OP, was a good mate so i bought him a 30 minute lesson for his birthday... up to him if he uses it or buys more..

I like the idea of that!!

We have a work collegue and playing partner that plays in our group. He's off 28, but has yet to play to 28..... He's been playing the game for 5 years

He had 1 lesson, when he didn't agree, or see instant improvement he went back to doing what he always did.

I don't offer advice to him any more.

 

[Foxholer]

I wouldn't give unsolicited advice - except as p-take/banter. PNWokingham really should swing harder! At least harder than his practice swing!

But I'd offer an observation - starting 'Did you know that....' if I saw something obviously bad.

Likewise, I might ask 'Can I make a suggestion?' where I was similarly confident that my suggestion was sound.

Otherwise, it's really just a case of tolerance and damage limitation imo. And enjoy the other things about a round of Golf!

 

[Andy808]

Some people don't take advice well. Leave him to it if he's not willing to listen to some friendly advice.

 

[groundskeeperwilly]

Nightmare scenario that! I guess if he asks you could just say something like "I'm not sure, maybe if you aim a little left/right/tee forward as that worked for me one time"

Not quite the same but I have a PP who asks "what club would you hit/What club do you reckon..." I hit every club a different length from him!!!!

 

[mcbroon]

Personally, I wouldn't offer advice to anyone who didn't ask for it. And even then, I'd caveat it with "that's only my opinion - your best bet is to get a lesson from someone who knows what they're talking about".