Perspective

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

We all have our moans, gripes and grumbles about love, life, work and play - and that's all fine - but sometimes you hear something that puts the rest of our stuff into perspective - and I heard one such thing this morning.

My wife is a breast cancer nurse specialist and this morning she has to be with her consultant when a 41yr old woman is told that her cancer is such that she has less than a year to live.

My wife didn't sleep well last night thinking of the poor lass and her family.

I remind myself to maintain perspective in all things when I get het up over something.

 

[Jay1]

As a fairly habitual "moaner" we got a dose of such perspective at the end of last year when my wife was diagnosed with a large brain tumour that it will not be possible to fully remove. This is her second brain tumour now and she's only 35 This really has given me something to moan about

It is often a very sad and unfair world we live in and often we spend time moaning and dwelling on some pretty insignificant rubbish.

Moral of the story is, cheer up everyone and make the most of whatever hand your dealt, you only get one go at it.

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Cancer is an awful thing

My cousin had breast cancer at 21 , battled for 10 years until she passed away.

A very good blog is the one the Radio DJ has started - she has made a choice to have both breasts removed at the age of 24 I think - very heartwarming to read

 

[Hacker Khan]

Cancer is an awful thing

My cousin had breast cancer at 21 , battled for 10 years until she passed away.

A very good blog is the one the Radio DJ has started - she has made a choice to have both breasts removed at the age of 24 I think - very heartwarming to read

Wife currently has/hopefully had it, found a lump one day last December, 7 days later she was being operated on. Kind of puts the problems I had with my duck hook in perspective.

I was reading that blog and whilst her actions did seem a little strange with regards to the mental side of what she will be going through and how she is doing it all in public. But I suppose everyone has their own way of coping with it so best of luck to her. And if it helps with the Kylie effect which encouraged a lot of young people to check themselves out more often, then then all the better. As as I can't state enough, the earlier you catch it the better.

 

[Doon frae Troon]

Wife currently has/hopefully had it, found a lump one day last December, 7 days later she was being operated on. Kind of puts the problems I had with my duck hook in perspective.

I was reading that blog and whilst her actions did seem a little strange with regards to the mental side of what she will be going through and how she is doing it all in public. But I suppose everyone has their own way of coping with it so best of luck to her. And if it helps with the Kylie effect which encouraged a lot of young people to check themselves out more often, then then all the better. As as I can't state enough, the earlier you catch it the better.

Hacker if it is any help my wife had it in 1990 at the age of 39.
We had a couple of desperate years but thankfully she eventually made a full recovery.

She is very active and busy person with lots of interests and friends.
As Hogan said, it puts things into perspective and I sometimes wonder if her experience has in some ways enhanced her later life.

If they have a Breakthrough Breast Cancer group in your area I suggest you join, we found it very helpful

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

I hear so much sadness around BC that my thoughts are with all who have family, friends or relations struck with the illness. But I also hear many stories from my wife that give a lot of hope; stories of women many years into remission and living full and active lives. I myself know personally a few such women, and I am sure many of us do. A diagnosis of BC is awful and shattering - but it is not the end of the world. Just unfortunately for the woman my wife was going to be 'counselling' today - the hope is a dimming light - but it is nonetheless a light that has not gone out.

 

[NWJocko]

Many things provide perspective.

Even when you're dealing with things within your own family there are always many people worse off who would swap places with you in a heartbeat.

Does make me smile how serious some people take their golf all things considered!

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Many things provide perspective.

Even when you're dealing with things within your own family there are always many people worse off who would swap places with you in a heartbeat.

Does make me smile how serious some people take their golf all things considered!

Aye - you are right there!

 

[upsidedown]

Alas brought home to us today !
Chap in our fiddle collapsed in the group in front of us, no obvious signs of being in distress apparently, didn't lose consciousness and luckily one of his PP's is a surgeon so immediately phoned for ambulance.
Last we heard he'd been taken to A&E for tests.

My SiL had BC 30 years ago and had both breasts removed then a week short of being cancer free for 10 years suffered a stroke ! Happily will celebrating her 50th wedding anniversary later this month

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Alas brought home to us today !
Chap in our fiddle collapsed in the group in front of us, no obvious signs of being in distress apparently, didn't lose consciousness and luckily one of his PP's is a surgeon so immediately phoned for ambulance.
Last we heard he'd been taken to A&E for tests.

My SiL had BC 30 years ago and had both breasts removed then a week short of being cancer free for 10 years suffered a stroke ! Happily will celebrating her 50th wedding anniversary later this month

Good news stories :thup:

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Lost both parents to cancer and spent the last two years of my mums life doing everything I could to make it more than an existence. Working in a hospital and having contact with patients everyday going through treatment, not always with the outcomes they want I know what an insidious disease it is. It's become one of only a couple of charities I support now as we need to find a cure NOW

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

Mrs SILH had a difficult day yesterday - having to support lass and her husband after she was told she had multiple-site secondaries - including the brain Husband was totally distraught - and Mrs and consultant really struggled to keep tears at bay. Tough job at times.

 

[Hacker Khan]

Hacker if it is any help my wife had it in 1990 at the age of 39.
We had a couple of desperate years but thankfully she eventually made a full recovery.

She is very active and busy person with lots of interests and friends.
As Hogan said, it puts things into perspective and I sometimes wonder if her experience has in some ways enhanced her later life.

If they have a Breakthrough Breast Cancer group in your area I suggest you join, we found it very helpful

Cheers, we know a few people who have done the same so there are some good news recovery stories out there. I also know one girl from university who has had cancer 3 times now, first time when she was at uni. And it has certainly changed her perspective on life and she makes the most of it.

 

[Doon frae Troon]

Cheers, we know a few people who have done the same so there are some good news recovery stories out there. I also know one girl from university who has had cancer 3 times now, first time when she was at uni. And it has certainly changed her perspective on life and she makes the most of it.

The chances of survival are so much higher these days.
This is mainly due to the thousands of groups and individuals who fund raise to allow new research
Please put your loose change in the can next time you see someone fund raising.

 

[Adi2Dassler]

I'm convinced there is the capacity to find a up for cancer. But the major drug companies make far too much from this dreadful illness.

The nurses, doctors and carers who provide care for those poor souls suffering from cancer really are angels. St colombas hospice in Edinburgh being a great example.

 

[vkurup]

I got a shock couple of years ago when I heard about an old friend had spinal + lung cancer. I hadnt met him in about 8 years. Both of us had come to love golf. So took a flight to go and meet him and play a round if possible. Played about 25 holes over 3 days and he was really enjoying it. Had a great few days out in NY with him. Unfortunately, he lost his battle earlier this year. The last few holes I played with him was his last outing.. Very special for me...
... puts all my moaning in perspective.

Unfortunately, also lost a good mate in Feb to a Cardiac arrest.. He never got around to celebrate his 40th. In my line of work, with all the stress and strain, he is the 3rd guy to kick it before his 45th. Everytime I moan - and I know I will get some kicking and some love on the forum - I dont know where the icy hands will come over. but that does not stop a moan..