New Father Tips

[Deleted member 15344]

As we all know this place smashes mumsnet when it comes to giving our advice for every single situation in life so...

In May I'm going to become a father for the first time to a little girl

What tips , hints , helpfully antidotes , things to buy , etc would a new father need ?

 

[Bazz]

This thread could be gold.

We're 13 days in and it's fantastic. We've found that we're writing down how much he drinks and when, easier than trying to remember.

Phil, one thing that has been an absolute God send, is Shaun the sheep. Gives off sound that replicates what it's like for the baby in the womb. My little man was having a bit of a whinge and stopped as soon I switched Shaun on. Check it out.

Also, lucky to be able to take 3 weeks off. Felt I've needed it, not just from a sleep deprivation angle but from just being around to help the wife.

 

[Pin-seeker]

Don't try & do everything by the book.
All babies are different.

Don't buy one of those things that strap the baby to you,they look redicelous.

Be prepared to play less golf & your post count on here could go down.

 

[Deleted Member 1156]

Spend all your time at the golf club and let Mrs Liverpool get on with it as everything you do will be wrong. I know, I'm talking from experience :rofl:

 

[SocketRocket]

The first 40 years are the worst.

 

[Dando]

cherish every day and make sure you take loads of photos so you can embarrass them when they are older!

my little monkey is 18 in a few weeks and its flown by.

 

[Snelly]

If you want my advice, resign from the golf club and spend the first ten years of weekends with your kids rather than on the course.

That is what I did and I think it was the right thing to do in hindsight. They are only young once and it goes past in what seems like the blink of an eye.

 

[Doon frae Troon]

Congratulations, children are a great joy for 98% of the time.:lol:
Be prepared for big changes to your life. Babies are pretty resilient, they don't break easily.


Best tip I was ever given was for young teenage girls [upwards to 40 years old]............Never be angry or upset if they ring and ask for an unexpected lift home.

 

[ger147]

If you want my advice, resign from the golf club and spend the first ten years of weekends with your kids rather than on the course.

That is what I did and I think it was the right thing to do in hindsight. They are only young once and it goes past in what seems like the blink of an eye.

That's pretty much what I did and I have no regrets.

 

[Hobbit]

If you want my advice, resign from the golf club and spend the first ten years of weekends with your kids rather than on the course.

That is what I did and I think it was the right thing to do in hindsight. They are only young once and it goes past in what seems like the blink of an eye.

Having not stopped playing at least 4 times week when my first brood arrived, and experiencing divorce because of my selfishness, I'd recommend you really do consider the balance... if I had the chance again I'd do things very differently.

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Having not stopped playing at least 4 times week when my first brood arrived, and experiencing divorce because of my selfishness, I'd recommend you really do consider the balance... if I had the chance again I'd do things very differently.

I work shift so already work a good number of weekends but have plenty of time off in the week. We have a rough plan for the weekends as she wants to go back to playing hockey. Golf will naturally be cut down but the wife forbids me from stopping

 

[Papas1982]

First thing to remember is once they're a year old, if anyone asks their age. You stop giving it in weeks! 😄😄😀

Id start stockpiling sleep now, and except for first few months if little one is breastfed. Help on the night duties. I know quite a few her "sleep" through the elbows when the little ones wake. If you get up and help out the brownie points will come in handy when you don't want a guilt free round.

Imstarted golfing after kids my first was born and think as long as they always have priority. A bit of time out is fine. You don't need to live in each other's pockets. Just make sure it's not always yu out getting away.

Treat the missus to us to a spa day/shopping etc when you have little one to yourself.

 

[guest100718]

I'd ignore the sanctimonious on here and find your own way. it much easier 2nd time and the 3rd is doddle.

 

[Stegsie]

Only advice I'd give is to enjoy it! Take it slow, try to relax and remember that these are the days you'll build some great memories.

My eldest is 15 now and it seems like yesterday we were bringing her home from the hospital in her car seat. The years honestly do fly by (it's a cliche but really it's amazing how it goes!)

Congratulations, and enjoy the best job in the world.

 

[Imurg]

On the big day take provisions for yourself.
She won't care but you'll be starving coz you're going to be there forever...

And expect to get thumped or your hand broken😂

 

[richart]

As we all know this place smashes mumsnet when it comes to giving our advice for every single situation in life so...

In May I'm going to become a father for the first time to a little girl

What tips , hints , helpfully antidotes , things to buy , etc would a new father need ?

Pray she takes after her mother.

 

[Deleted member 18588]

Remember children don't come with an Instruction Manual. Listen to all the advice but at the end of the day it will be down to you and your wife to make the decisions.

You will, inevitably, get some things wrong but I am absolutely certain that you and Mrs LP will get far more right than wrong. Trust your instincts.

And finally there are two things that will be the most valuable to your daughter and others that may follow. Your time and your love!

 

[Hobbit]

Kids are not just for Christmas!

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Pray she takes after her mother.

Always one smart reply - just amazed it came from you

 

[sawtooth]

Congratulations again Phil.

Best tip ever, when she won't sleep take her out for a spin in the car she will soon nod off.