Marriage & golf

[palindromicbob]

In 4 days time I'm getting married. Hoping this won't have to much of an effect on the golf but that could be a naive attitude to enter married life with.

How do any of you married guys strike a balance.

 

[brendy]

Play early on Saturdays and earn brownie points...lots of brownie points. One such earner would be turning up at the correct church...

 

[North Mimms]

My husband gets playing much more golf since i took the game up too.
He now gets golfing holidays instead of being dragged round French chateaux and cathedrals

I also now longer nag about how muddy his clothes get as I now understand it!

 

[GB72]

Playing early in the morning and spending the rest of the day with my wife helps. Also never bail on something she wants to do to play golf. To be honest my wife is happier now that I play golf. When I played rugby I would leave on Saturday morning get back wasted in the early ours of Sunday morning and spend the rest of the day bruised and hungover. That is a recipe for a short marriage

 

[zlinuk]

Probably wont affect your golf too much, but it will certainly be the beginning of the end of your sex life. Or at least that's what happened to my mate.

Congratulations in any event.

 

[GOLFBALL_WHACKER_GUY]

It can be hard work, i try to play sunday mornings but theres always something that needs doing around the house, or some family thing planned. You just have to roll with the punches mate, and sneak out for a bit of twilight while the suns up and pretend you're working late!

congratulations by the way

 

[Fish]

Playing early in the morning and spending the rest of the day with my wife helps. Also never bail on something she wants to do to play golf. To be honest my wife is happier now that I play golf. When I played rugby I would leave on Saturday morning get back wasted in the early ours of Sunday morning and spend the rest of the day bruised and hungover. That is a recipe for a short marriage

Ditto, I'd leave on a Saturday and ring her from somewhere remote on Sunday saying I'd be back Monday!

My wife encourages me to play and go to the golf club rather than the local boozers or going to footy, but, I have been known to "pop in" the local on the way home

 

[Chrisb83]

Marriage is the easy part throw a new born into the mix and that's when the fun begins. I tend to try to get off early on a Saturday morning and be back in for lunch to give us the rest of the weekend to spend together. Fortunately the mate who I play with has a season pass for football so he's happy to fall into this plan.

 

[chris661]

Get her a couple of horses so that when you get back from playing you can muck them out to earn the required amount of brownie points for the next game

Well that is the way it seems to work for me

P.S. You do know where you are supposed to go on the day don't you :rofl:

 

[AmandaJR]

Congratulations - it's a fine institution :cheers:

Before I played golf David used to do as the ther guys have stated and play early on a Saturday or Sunday morning so he was home by early afternoon and we could still do something with the day. He seldom played more than once a weekend and to be honest I think I moaned a bit if he did!! Now I play he's never played so much golf, plus golfing holidays - perhaps your new Mrs will take up the game?!

 

[HomerJSimpson]

My wife has been great before and since we got married. She knew how important it is and is happy for me to do what I want in terms of playing and practicing as long as we have some decent quality time together too. She has her own interests and gets on with these while I'm playing so everyone is happy

 

[Hobbit]

My wife and I reached an understanding - we divorced...

Wife #2 went through a phase of moaning but when I got the youngest lad playing she was happier. Now she works Saturday afternoon, and I play then.

 

[Andy808]

Not a problem after 15 years of marriage she's happy I'm out of the house and when she does get in a strop about it then she hits the housework even harder to "prove a point" so I don't get nagged while I'm playing and the house is spotless!!!!
It does help when two of our children now play and I can get two of the little brats (15 and 11) out from under her feet.
Flowers every Tuesday and Thursday seem to keep the status quo when all else fails.

 

[Phil2511]

Fortunately mine works weekends and my mum has kids on Saturdays and Sundays they are in Sunday School/Church while wife gets a lie in.
Weekday evenings I only go usually once for 18 to do midweek and an odd 9 when she's at her mums or sisters places.

Think I'm quite fortunate tbh. Especially compared to some at my place. One guy I know is only allowed to play once a week on Saturday or Sunday morning but it has to be early. He doesn't even have kids and is in his 40's too.

 

[Phil2511]

Forgot to say... All the best for the big day mate. Hope you get some nice weather for the photos.

 

[Shiny]

Easy, get her into golf. She only moans now if its a mens only competition. We are getting married in october and having a golf honeymoon too.

 

[ColchesterFC]

A lot of people on here seem to have very understanding wives/husbands but you might not get that lucky. What you need to do is decide whether your future wife or golf is the true love of your life and if you decide it's golf then bin the wedding and book yourself a game at a really top course with a tee time whenever the service was due to start. And then jet off on holiday (what would've been your honeymoon) with your best man for a lads golfing holiday. I assume the best man plays golf otherwise he's not really the "best" man. If he doesn't play then ring round the bridesmaids and see if any of them play instead. Hope I've helped.

Good luck with the big day and I would recommend checking out GM's top 100 courses for which course you're going to play.

 

[HotDogAssassin]

If you're worried about how being married will affect your time for playing golf, just wait until you have kids!

 

[One Planer]

In 4 days time I'm getting married. Hoping this won't have to much of an effect on the golf but that could be a naive attitude to enter married life with.

How do any of you married guys strike a balance.

Here's what I get away with.

Monday: Range
Tuesday: 9 holes after work
Wednesday: Range
Thursday: Nowt
Friday: Range
Saurday: 18 holes
Sunday: 9 holes

I work it all around my family though. Let me explain.

The range I use is 5 minutes drive from where I work. I'll pop down there 3 times a week for 50 balls in my lunch hour. Straight home from work.

I finish work at 4.30pm so getting 9 holes in post work, I'm normally home by 6.45pm.

Saturday is my day for golf. We have this understanding. Even so, I'm normally back in the house for 12.45pm.

Sunday, I go at the crack of dawn to play 9 and get back in time to get my little boy up so the wife can have a lie in.

Working it this way means I get to spend plenty of time with my wife and son, and also practice and play quite a lot. However if we have something on or my wie needs a little help, I'll always work around them.

It's all about balance.

 

[Hacker Khan]

Isn't it all a bit 1950s, wifey at home doing the cooking and cleaning and husband only can go out once a week as soon as you get married? Once you are married it should not make any difference what so ever, it's only a legal thing and not the cause of any sudden change in attitudes for both people. Surely she knows you play golf already and the amount of golf you play has obviously not upset her too much as she is marrying you?

As already mentioned, kids are the game changer.