How to handle......

[spawn_ukuk]

playing with new people that have a very high handicap and also having a very bad day.

Today i joined up with 2 fellas because i was on my own and it was a long busy day so joined up with a few people.
They told me they wasn't that good right away and that was fair enough, it was obvious they wasn't very good after a few shots and it was all fine having a laugh and joke about there shots and that.

But the bad shots continue to come from them hole after hole and the laughing and joking starts to stop.
I was having a really good day which and i felt i couldn't celebrate my shots because how badly they were playing i didn't want to risk coming across as abit of a nob

Half way around the course for a few holes it was just silent and awkward, I'm glad they had a few Ok holes towards the end and the chat picked up again.

I don't think i could have done anything about it, What would you have done?

 

[scottbrown]

I think it depends on the person, some guys I play with I would literally have laughed and taken the mickey as I would expect it in return if it was the other way round.
Others just try and chat about anything and tell them to keep head up etc.

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Just try and encourage and just enjoy the banter. Give them a few well dones and unlucky

it is hard though

 

[Oddsocks]

I've got no issue playing with any level of player, period.

What I do have issues with is bad etiquette that can sometimes arise, I used to play a society with a guy who played off 26, nice enough guy but completely oblivious to any form of etiquette , he would hit monster slices, not watch he's ball, expect you to find it hole after hole and if you was unlucky enough to hit a bad one would walk on and let you look on your lonesome.

One day I flipped, 3 out of our four had hit slices to the right in deep rough, I had a rough line on all of them, we walked up found he's first and after he had played he's, he continued to walk off leaving the three of us to look for the other two. The cross words that followed were to the point and We haven't spoken since,

 

[golfdub]

I've got no issue playing with any level of player, period.

What I do have issues with is bad etiquette that can sometimes arise, I used to play a society with a guy who played off 26, nice enough guy but completely oblivious to any form of etiquette , he would hit monster slices, not watch he's ball, expect you to find it hole after hole and if you was unlucky enough to hit a bad one would walk on and let you look on your lonesome.

One day I flipped, 3 out of our four had hit slices to the right in deep rough, I had a rough line on all of them, we walked up found he's first and after he had played he's, he continued to walk off leaving the three of us to look for the other two. The cross words that followed were to the point and We haven't spoken since,

You probably done yourself a favour doing that as you won't have to play with him again did you ever hear if he changed or not ?

 

[HomerJSimpson]

We have a wide array of handicaps in our roll up including some high handicappers. I've never had a problem. I've a mate who has just started. Still getting to grips with etiquette but he's learning. Played with him last week and he was a joy to play especially when he hit good ones

 

[richart]

Ask them to give you the dates they will be playing for the rest of the year, so you avoid the course like the plague. :mmm: Remember to have a twinkle in your eye or they might smack you one.

 

[Oddsocks]

You probably done yourself a favour doing that as you won't have to play with him again did you ever hear if he changed or not ?

Shortly after a flipped my lid, several others in the society followed.....

 

[Mark_G]

Silence is never good, if I hit a bad shot I would rather someone lightened the mood by making a joke than feel awkward, likewise if I was playing badly with someone I had just met, I would also try to make a joke of it to avoid them feeling awkward at my mistake. A pro told me to switch off between shots and talk about anything other than golf, if things are really going badly the "in thing" to talk about is Koi carp, something none of us know about, but is our signal we need to make ourselves lighten up a little.