Golf with a Stoma (no banter please)

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Had some bad news yesterday so going in for some major surgery.

Just wonder if anyone else has been through this type of Op and what recovery is like and ability to play again.

Happy to correspond by PM as I know this is quite a personal thing to go through and discuss.

Still trying to get my head around it at the mo . o_O:eek:.
 

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What a shock that must have been.
I have worked in healthcare all my life, and can say the support you will be given will be excellent. Stoma nurses are fabulous and will guide you through your journey.
My sister in law had a stoma at the age of 60 (ish) and carries on life as normal, doing TaiChi and yoga.
Good luck buddy.
 

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SB59, am not gonna pm you because there is a certain sigma attached to people with stomas, and there should not be. Being open helps to tear down misconceptions.
I would hope that you will be pleasantly surprised by the improved lifestyle you may have. Missis T worked in urology outreach ( in essence a district nurse that specialised in waterworks). At her hospital there was Stoma care nurses that did exactly the same as Missis T. They were fantastic. They were able to offer advice re the individuals needs and the equipment you will need to carry out your day to day living. It is paramount to the individual to lead as normal a life as possible. My first advice would be to see if they have such nurses at your local hospital.
Don't know your circumstances, but an ex PP had an op to have the Stoma bag fitted, but a year later he had the reversal. He was down about it initially but a few months later he could not understand why he had got depressed about it. He said the Unknown was maybe the problem, the initial shock, but he just could not work out why he beat himself up.
Missis T has buggered off to Austria for five days, she is back tomorrow. Will have a natter with her me man to see if she can offer advice.
All the best SB.
 
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I was diagnosed with bowel cancer 5 years back but minor surgery was able to remove it and was given the all clear.Been on yearly monitoring and this year was meant to be the big all clear but one of the scans has shown a shadow. Had some more diagnotic scans and it is back but localised so they intend to do a resection and I'll have a bag but with be reversible. May have to have chemo depending on histology.
All a bit daunting but the consultant says his stoma team are excellent and I will meet them prior to op.
Just want to start looking for the positives at the mo, was a bit low yesterday.
 

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No idea about a stoma but just wanted to say fingers crossed and thoughts with you during such a horrible terrifying time in your life - many of us on here only know each other via posts and avaters but we are always here for some light relief or advice or even just to let some steam off when you feel down or need a cheer up

Good luck to you and never ever feel that you need to hide anything in regards an illness that needs more and more work - never feel ashamed
 

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Just echoing what Phil wrote. I hope everything goes well. I wouldn't worry about the stoma. Just concentrate on kicking cancer's arse again and know that we'll all be sending positive vibes your way 👍
 

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No idea about a stoma but just wanted to say fingers crossed and thoughts with you during such a horrible terrifying time in your life - many of us on here only know each other via posts and avaters but we are always here for some light relief or advice or even just to let some steam off when you feel down or need a cheer up

Good luck to you and never ever feel that you need to hide anything in regards an illness that needs more and more work - never feel ashamed
Exactly what Phil said.
Chin up, fella.
 

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Mate of mine had it done about 15 years back. He played golf ok afterwards, and the reversal went well too. Mind you, it didn't cure his slice.

Good luck.
 

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Although I have no experience of it, a female YouTuber I follow had a Stoma just over a year ago and she documented everything after surgery etc. She’s a young 20-something so recovery times may have been a bit quicker potentially...but it does take work, patience etc.

If you want to look her up, her YouTube account is HannahWitton.
 

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I was diagnosed with bowel cancer 5 years back but minor surgery was able to remove it and was given the all clear.Been on yearly monitoring and this year was meant to be the big all clear but one of the scans has shown a shadow. Had some more diagnotic scans and it is back but localised so they intend to do a resection and I'll have a bag but with be reversible. May have to have chemo depending on histology.
All a bit daunting but the consultant says his stoma team are excellent and I will meet them prior to op.
Just want to start looking for the positives at the mo, was a bit low yesterday.
Good luck with it all and I can only reiterate what Robin Hood and Tashyboy have said about the quality of the stoma nursing staff and the work they do.
 

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My youngest had a stoma after emergency surgery due to a major flare up with her Crohns desease. She was 23 I think when she had the bag fitted, although had a reversal 8 months later.
She hated it initially, but got very used to it and when she was told she could have it reversed, she actually considered keeping it.
As she said, better the bag than dead.
The only thing is remember what you can and cant eat. Also, the bag contents smells nothing like when it normally naturally leaves you;)
Ask me or pm me if you want to ask anything m8.
 
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My youngest had a stoma after emergency surgery due to a major flare up with her Crohns desease. She was 23 I think when she had the bag fitted, although had a reversal 8 months later.
She hated it initially, but got very used to it and when she was told she could have it reversed, she actually considered keeping it.
As she said, better the bag than dead.
The only thing is remember what you can and cant eat. Also, the bag contents smells nothing like when it normally naturally leaves you;)
Ask me or pm me if you want to ask anything m8.
Thanks mate .👍
 

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Hope everything goes well for you. Keep a positive mind set and you will soon be out on the course again.
 

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I don't have one yet, but once the drugs i am on finally stop working its highly likely i will have one. I am not playing golf these days, but do a lot of running and triathlon, a few groups i am part of, loads of the guys and girls have Stomas and still continue to run marathons, do ironman triathlons etc etc. I am sure you will be fine once you have it! Fingers crossed for your op.

And as Tashyboy says, there should be no stigma these days! There was a chap who flashed his and got his picture picked up at the end of a parkrun this week, has been great for awareness! News story here:

https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/wales-news/people-furious-mans-parkrun-picture-16084090
 

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Mum has one... she has to watch what she eats and sometimes it needs a "pit-stop" at unplanned times.... but it is the difference between here being alive and not! In truth, she has good days and bad days...

So fight the fight... and afterwards do whatever you can do.. run marathons, jump out of aeeoplanes, play golf, or sit on a bench and look at to sea and just feel the wind on your face!

Al the best!
 

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Oh and get used to liking marshmallows! From what i hear they are very good at helping! Seriously!
 

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Oh and get used to liking marshmallows! From what i hear they are very good at helping! Seriously!
Defo......and nothing too hot or spicey, or anything with too much fibre or with shells (peas, sweetcorn etc)
That applied to my duaghter anyway, who had her bag on her right for the small bowel.
 
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