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How do you deal with a playing partner thats has a pretty short fuse and throws his toys out of the pram when he isnt playing well?

I'm just curious to know is there a way to combat it.

As laid back as i am it's hard to go a whole round without it affecting me a small bit.
 
One of the group at my old club used to invite his wife to join us and she had a foul temper. Actually hit my brother with a flying club and nearly broke my ankle with a ball hit in anger (it hit my trolley at high speed about an inch from me). Eventually we just approached her as a group and let her know that she would not be welcome unless she calmed down. Following week she acted in the same way so we stopped inviting her to join us. We gave it a month, invited her to join us again and she was better (not perfect but better).

Simple fact is that unless the issue is raised the person will not change.
 
Walk on the other side of the fairway.
That's what my playing partners do when I lose it!:o

Mind you I've also picked up some Spanish expletives from playing with another toy-thrower!
 
GB72 said:
One of the group at my old club used to invite his wife to join us and she had a foul temper. Actually hit my brother with a flying club and nearly broke my ankle with a ball hit in anger (it hit my trolley at high speed about an inch from me). Eventually we just approached her as a group and let her know that she would not be welcome unless she calmed down. Following week she acted in the same way so we stopped inviting her to join us. We gave it a month, invited her to join us again and she was better (not perfect but better).

Simple fact is that unless the issue is raised the person will not change.
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Well this happens to be my Dad.....
He is like this though in most aspects....Same when he is in the car.....Its like that if it isnt being done the way he would do it then its wrong....

Case in point.......We're both on a green today.....Both putting for a par......Practically equal distances from the hole (20ft)......He putts first but runs the ball 6ft past the hole.....Its stops on the line of my putt....So i say to myself he'll mark this.
No....instead of letting me putt he addresses his ball and misses the putt back.....That's 4...Then leans over the hole putter in one hand to tap it back towards him a ft...Misses that....this went on for 4 more tries....He walked off with an 8.....That was all before i got to have a putt for par.....:confused:


That was only 1 incident of at least 10 that i could count this morning.
 
As someone who has had anger issues in the past I now realise what a pain it can be now. These days if I chop it round I'll try and battle and get as close to the buffer as I can. If its that bad then the buffer has gone I'll just try and avoid three figures, and hope for that one good shot that you always remember from any round. I don't get too wound up anymore.

My partner tends to have a stock phrase he utters everytime he hits a stinker which I can hear on other holes even if I'm not playing with him so I can guesstimate how well he's doing by the number of times I hear him. If its someone I don't often play with and they lose it unless it becomes an impact on my game somehow I just let them get on with it and chuckle to myself and remember I use to be like that
 
How about finding another playing partner? And as the culprit is your father, you should be able to explain to him that his behaviour is putting you off your own game.
 
kid2 said:
Well this happens to be my Dad.....
He is like this though in most aspects....Same when he is in the car.....Its like that if it isnt being done the way he would do it then its wrong....

Case in point.......We're both on a green today.....Both putting for a par......Practically equal distances from the hole (20ft)......He putts first but runs the ball 6ft past the hole.....Its stops on the line of my putt....So i say to myself he'll mark this.
No....instead of letting me putt he addresses his ball and misses the putt back.....That's 4...Then leans over the hole putter in one hand to tap it back towards him a ft...Misses that....this went on for 4 more tries....He walked off with an 8.....That was all before i got to have a putt for par.....:confused:


That was only 1 incident of at least 10 that i could count this morning.
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Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but there's no mention there of it putting him in a foul mood or chucking clubs or the like, and in a medal you're perfectly entitled to 'finish off' after a putt, if you want to.

Regarding the original question, if anybody behaves like that I will leave them alone. I used to try to make them feels better but it gets you nowhere so now I just let them stew and walk off.
 
Region3 said:
Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but there's no mention there of it putting him in a foul mood or chucking clubs or the like, and in a medal you're perfectly entitled to 'finish off' after a putt, if you want to.

Regarding the original question, if anybody behaves like that I will leave them alone. I used to try to make them feels better but it gets you nowhere so now I just let them stew and walk off.
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This definitely added to his mood Region.....Missed putts and slices and short drives in the wind... topped shots....Fats....He gets em every round now....And id normally have no problem with the putts but he is constantly preaching to me that if i miss a putt past the hole to mark it and compose myself and wait my turn.....But yet he wont take his own advice!
 
My twin brother has a bit of a temper. I've actually seen him pick up his bag & throw it.............and it was still attached to his trolley!!!
I generally take his temper as a compliment as it usually means I'm playing better than him. I never mock him, I never berate him, I just try to calm him down & tell him to be patient as his golf is not likely to improve during one of these mind sets.
When we were younger I used to laugh at it, but now we're older I'd much sooner see him happy & playing well. We're off to Spain soon and he's currently in a poor run of form so I'll maybe have to have a little chat with him, or maybe spend a morning at the range to see if I can help sort his game out.
His happiness is as important to me as my own, I think it's maybe a twin thing.

Slime.
 
Yes it's difficult if it's a family member. A regular partner or random competitor it's easy to ignore them, but maybe a brother or father it might be best to have a word away from the course when they're a bit more chilled.
 
I had a similar problem with a playing partner of mine last year, a good friend who's 7 years younger than me so still had a lot to learn but since his dad passed away a few years back I have been somewhat of a big brother to him. We joined the club together and as I knew no one else at the club I'd only play with him as I am a bit shy at times. He was terrible, he'd have one bad shot on the 1st and he'd be in a mood the whole way round the course, he couldn't and still doesnt let it slide although is much better nowadays. He's never really been a club chucker although has on occasions, he just gets really grumpy, won't talk to you, grumbles to himself and just generally makes the whole round quite unpleasant.

The way I got through to him in the end was by being brutally honest, basically said that his temper affects my game, makes me not enjoy the round and that if it continued then I'd have no choice but to find another playing partner. I then turned him down on a couple of invites out which I think struck a chord with him. Nowadays although he still loses his rag, he seems to be controlling it a bit more and has learnt that golf at this level isn't about perfection and making pars and birdies every hole and that he's going to hit bad shots. He has his moments but in general is much more enjoyable to play golf with. If he throws his toys out of his pram now I just tell him to calm down or take the piss out of him which seems to work 80% of the time.
 
I have a theory that 50% of golfers on a golf course are not enjoying the experience.

In match play if my opponent shows any signs of temper I know that I will win the match. It gives me a big confidence boost as I know exactly how to play against those guys.
 
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