Getting Bored!!

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Imurg

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This post is not aimed at anyone in particular - just everybody!!

I'm getting a bit bored with logging on to this forum and reading petty squabbles between us. Sure lets debate, ask questions, make comments and have banter.

But lets draw the line. Everybody needs to read a post properly before replying. We all like a joke but make sure that your comments don't rattle the cage too much. And if you get a reply you don't like, then debate it, put your side of the story. Or don't put it at all - just leave it.

There's always going to be posts that upset or anger. But please, think before you post. I like the forum - I've got 500+ posts. But if we keep getting these "fights" then I'm just not going to bother.
 
Was thinking the same earlier after reading a post from earlier and a couple of the responses to it.

Why do people sometimes feel the need to be arsey when maybe the post is going over an old subject or something that they dont feel has a point. If thats the case, move on, ignore the post and get on with your life. This is a forum for golfers to discuss whatever golf related subject they wish to cover.

Maybe im more chilled out than some others but I have never read a post on here that has angered me or upset me, life is stressful enough without getting uptight about a golf forum post.
 
I understand your feeling , I've been a member here for a long time , not a prolific poster but i'm always here and i've seen it all over the last few years.
I think there are quite a few members who in the past have been very active, interesting posters that post far less than they used to for those reasons .
And it often makes me very reluctant to offer an opinion on a post , it does seem to occur more on the Out of bounds section ,the golf side of things seems to tick along quite amiably even when opinions differ
 
Jesus that spotlight is bright!

Am sorry if anyone feels I was out of line in the other post for replying to DHM's comments. I wasn't trying to be arsey but point out that the thread had cause. If you knew me, you would know I am very polite and very laid back. My response was in this manner.

I have seen enough people shoot down posts because it has been covered before, I cant count the number of times I have posted comments on Custom Fit, but they are mainly for new members and we always get a great spin on the subject when new names join in.
 
Imurg,
Now you have everyone paranoid thinking..."Hmmm wonder if he means me".
I do understand what you're saying but people are on here cos they're bored, well I am cos it's been snowing all day. To get rid of boredom requires stimulus, debate is a stimulus and debate by it's very nature causes argument, arguments get people riled, riled people say things they shouldn't....then other people get riled and say things they shouldn't, that's what a forum does.

I wouldn't stress about it.

If it was all nicey nicey all the time it's be dull as.
Call it juvenile or whatever but these little spats on here normally make quite entertaining reading with the odd exception.....don't they?

Email is a bad way of communicating but it's all we've got on here. Messages are misconstrued all the time because you don't know what the poster is really saying because you can't see body language or hear tone of voice which is probably 90% of communication. I try to be humourous on here but it rarely works :)
 
No posts on here are personal to anyone....they prompt opinions. When you use references like WGAF in a post this is obviously quite a agressive way to respond to a post that is 9/10 times a simple question.

I cant say that anyones opinions on things have that much of an effect on me that I feel the need to have a moan. I just don't respond.

What does annoy me is people who do. I will use my post on driving as an example....I was sure that the way it was written wouldn't be taken to seriously and it was a simple question. I nearly went into more detail as to the significance of a short game and other aspects apart from driving but thought......na surely people can't be that silly to think that by asking this question I don't understand the complexity of the hole game????

I don't argue with anyone but sometimes comments fustrate me. We need to relax and enjoy.........
 
This post is not aimed at anyone in particular - just everybody!!

I'm getting a bit bored with logging on to this forum and reading petty squabbles between us. Sure lets debate, ask questions, make comments and have banter.

But lets draw the line. Everybody needs to read a post properly before replying. We all like a joke but make sure that your comments don't rattle the cage too much. And if you get a reply you don't like, then debate it, put your side of the story. Or don't put it at all - just leave it.

There's always going to be posts that upset or anger. But please, think before you post. I like the forum - I've got 500+ posts. But if we keep getting these "fights" then I'm just not going to bother.
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I'm with stupid above.......

The problem is that the forum is now more popular than it was so the original 'clique' for want of a better word has to dealing with new interlopers such as myself....it's a GM forum but no-one from GM actually acts as an Adminstrator or a Moderator and so we get numerous duplicate threads starting - Skycaddie, the 4 boys who did/didn't go to Princes yesterday are just 2 to mention and also using other websites material without links, quotes or acknowledgement......GM need to get hold of the monster before it eats itself...

It's a forum so there is always and should be disagreement - this 'feeling the love' is bollocks if you ask me but everything should be done as golf should be in a 'gentlemanly fashion'.....

I reckon GM need to sort out..... .....

Moderators to look at/monitor posts

More categories to make it easier to post in the right place ie - Clubs, Courses, Footwear, Clothing, Accessesories, Meets etc etc

Code of Conduct (to be implemented by said Moderators)
 
I don't think we need more categories (we went through that argument when we expanded to three), just a bit of self discipline to post in the right place (strictly this thread belongs in OOB)

ripping material without acknowledging possible copyright, not quite sure how that applies on the web where there is no intention to profit, though it certainly does in my job. it's certainly good manners aside from any legal requirement.

we need (have) to be self-moderating, ie use a bit of common sense; if GM need to constantly monitor and has to expend too much time (and labour) the short answer will to shut down the forum.
 
I have viewed the site for over a year now. I started posting in the depths of winter, earlier this year.
Around this time WW3 erupted with "Benny" and his lewd comments that "upset" a few members to the point that hey were ignoring him. From what I remember he had significantly contributed and posted a lot, but either got bored with the forum or felt it needed a shake up.
It only takes one to upset the apple cart but then life goes on and the forum moves on.

Don't get so uptight about things. I don't think it is a coincidence that the ladies are not posting as much these days
 
The reason the GM lads dont moderate the forum is that they find some of the arguments 'funny' and they are expected... the ones which are OTT... "DO" get removed form the forum, every couple of weeks or so there is a thread with a big argument ...swiftly followed by a thread like this one! We have all been there as opinions often clash. I expect to see them in the future as its just what happens! even more so now as there are more forum users and more opinions clashing
 
One thing that definitely helps keeping things IN CONTEXT is meeting up in person and seeing peoples characteristics and senses of humour. We have had some great forum days out and there has been one hell of a lot of banter and sledging going on but because we are there and see the context in which remarks are made and we don't get wires crossed. Now if any the guys from a forum meet have a dig at me or slap me down I can see their intentions were from humour and nothing sinister. I am sure the guys from the south who have had a gathering will agree that if one of them makes a comment they can imagine the context that person would have intended it to be made whereas I (a stranger in person) may not.
 
When I first joined the Forum I was shot down in flames as my first post was notifying everbody of some good deals on a website that i had used a few times, I got replies like "Homer's gonna get ya" and I to be honest I thought why the hell was I bothering. As i stated in my opening post I was not spamming etc etc but I still got about three or four posts which were a little hostile.

It was only until getting more involved in the forum that I realised how much dislike that there is for spammers as about three or four posters e.g. Mr TaylorMade and the guy selling a holiday and wish that I had made my opening post something different, If it wasnt for the fact of a couple of half decent replies and Homer stating that he thought that I should be given a chance that I continued to visit. It did certainly feel like a 'pack of wolves' scenario, and being a West Brom fan, i hate Wolves!

Having been on here for a little while now I must admit that I am glad that I stuck with it as I have had some very good advice and hopefully contributed a little too. Other than the above it's a good place to be :)
 
One thing that definitely helps keeping things IN CONTEXT is meeting up in person and seeing peoples characteristics and senses of humour. We have had some great forum days out and there has been one hell of a lot of banter and sledging going on but because we are there and see the context in which remarks are made and we don't get wires crossed. Now if any the guys from a forum meet have a dig at me or slap me down I can see their intentions were from humour and nothing sinister. I am sure the guys from the south who have had a gathering will agree that if one of them makes a comment they can imagine the context that person would have intended it to be made whereas I (a stranger in person) may not.
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We should definitly pair up Mad :D
 
That's two people who have said Homer was really friendly when I joined. I must be losing my touch. Actually PPE it is great you have stuck around and to be fair it seemed from your post that there was more to it than a blatant plug (even if it could have been worded better!!!). I'm all for giving people a chance on here but it is those that are blatant freeloaders I have a problem with. As for spats amongst ourselves, that is always going to happen on a forum and when it next happens would be better if it could be sorted out via PM but if the protaganists want to slug it out on here be aware that both parties will get singed in the resulting flaming (not necessarily by me but definitely by someone).
 
when it next happens would be better if it could be sorted out via PM but if the protaganists want to slug it out on here be aware that both parties will get singed in the resulting flaming
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What if the person concerned doesn't have the decency to answer PM's?
:rolleyes:
 
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