Friends

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

In the days of Facebook friends having to number in the hundreds or you are deemed a social inept - how many true friends do you feel you have - and I mean those with whom you'll confide your innermost fears and about whose life you care about deeply - though such feelings may not, and need not, be mutual or reciprocated.

It's curious when you think about friendships in this way and you realise how many friends are actually only acquaintances. The Bible suggest we might only have one of two - which sounds a bit mean - but maybe it's right, and I'm thinking that's probably me as finding a third is proving a little difficult.

But I needn't desperately seek that third friend since being over 50 it is suggested that that's a bit late in the day for developing any more 'true' friendships - that being something that can only really develop over a long time - and if he or she was there I'd already know who the 3rd man or woman was.

 

[Rooter]

I binned facebook, I hated the liking of photo's, the silly comments from couples etc etc. I think i had about 600 "Friends". How many of them would i ring at 2AM to get me out of some bother? 3. One of them is living in Dubai now and the other in Atlanta, So 1. I have plenty of acquaintances and 'mates', but in your context of friends, 3. And i went to school with them all so have known them all for 25 years +

 

[Slab]

Its a short list... my wife's name is on it... that is all

Everyone else is a mate type of friend



edit to add: after getting over my initial disappointment on the thread topic... my favourite was Rachel

 

[Piece]

Probably got 2, maybe, 3 really close friends, all of which play golf.

 

[Imurg]

Short list
I hate everyone and everyone hates me
C'est la vie..

Probably no more than 2...

 

[Deleted member 15344]

Have a group of us including wives who are all close friends - 12 of us in total

No idea how many Facebook friends etc but it allows me to keep in touch with old RAF mates

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

My wife is one (I wonder if spouse counts as such a friend ) - then a guy I met 30yrs ago when he joined my department at work. I was his best man and though we don't keep in touch that much - I just know he is. I've got another mate of identical longevity - and he probably is - but since I'm wavering that suggests maybe not. And that's it.

 

[Khamelion]

3 close friends 2 of which I would share personal info, one of which I've known since we were at primary school and that's 41yrs now, I was best man at his wedding. Other than that I know a few people, golfing mates, work colleagues etc... of which I'd go out for a beer with most of them, whether they would with me is another question.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Like this thread, but to turn it on it's head, how many people would class you as the friend we look for?
As Phil alluded to being in the Forces I've got mates going back 30+ years that I could rely on or they could ring me, some I've probably not seen for 10 years, but are they friends in the way you asked.
Now owning my own home and no longer moving with the Army I joined my local club and observing members, I will freely admit to pangs of jealousy watching blokes chat to each other who grew up together and still live within a few doors of each other.
Hell of a bond within the forces but true "friends" dificult one!

PS. Rachel was my favourite as well😃

 

[c1973]

Like this thread, but to turn it on it's head, how many people would class you as the friend we look for?
As Phil alluded to being in the Forces I've got mates going back 30+ years that I could rely on or they could ring me, some I've probably not seen for 10 years, but are they friends in the way you asked.
Now owning my own home and no longer moving with the Army I joined my local club and observing members, I will freely admit to pangs of jealousy watching blokes chat to each other who grew up together and still live within a few doors of each other.
Hell of a bond within the forces but true "friends" dificult one!

PS. Rachel was my favourite as well😃

Good post, good points.


P.S. I'd have done any of the three.

 

[Deleted member 16999]

Good post, good points.


P.S. I'd have done any of the three.

Joey, Ross and Chandler!!!😃

 

[Deleted member 18121]

3.

I'll take the rest of my post to the moaning thread :thup:

 

[c1973]

Joey, Ross and Chandler!!!

Oi! Less of that.

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

The lasses seem to be much better at keeping in touch with their friends - closest and next group. And I'm wondering whether we blokes take our very closest friends for granted - and if as, might seem likely, there are only one or two of them and then all of a sudden they weren't there...

 

[bladeplayer]

2 i would think .. loadsa mates & a fair weather friends ..

Remember hearing a definition of friendship years ago

A good friend is someone you ring to bail you out at 3am
Your best friend is the one sitting beside you saying how long do you think he will be

 

[Rooter]

The lasses seem to be much better at keeping in touch with their friends - closest and next group. And I'm wondering whether we blokes take our very closest friends for granted - and if as, might seem likely, there are only one or two of them and then all of a sudden they weren't there...

I think with blokes though, you just know they are there. You don't need to go for a group wee with them etc. I havent spoken to one of my 3 in about 3 months, no reason other than we are just busy, but could call him now and ask or tell him anything.

 

[bladeplayer]

I think with blokes though, you just know they are there. You don't need to go for a group wee with them etc. I havent spoken to one of my 3 in about 3 months, no reason other than we are just busy, but could call him now and ask or tell him anything.

Yep & sorry to the girls on here but i find alota women make more passing /short time friends & trust other women quicker
where as blokes dont , blokes are not as open with stuff so will have fewer close friends but , close friends are like family as a result ..

Probably worded badly but i hope ye get the jist ..

 

[Rooter]

Yep & sorry to the girls on here but i find alota women make more passing /short time friends & trust other women quicker
where as blokes dont , blokes are not as open with stuff so will have fewer close friends but , close friends are like family as a result ..

Probably worded badly but i hope ye get the jist ..

Not all are like that though, my mrs is very similar to me, has probably 5 proper friends, not a huge amount of 'mates'. But my mrs must be weird, she married me for christs sake!

 

[patricks148]

Good post, good points.


P.S. I'd have done any of the three.

Who, Ross, Chandler and Joey?

 

[SwingsitlikeHogan]

I think with blokes though, you just know they are there. You don't need to go for a group wee with them etc. I havent spoken to one of my 3 in about 3 months, no reason other than we are just busy, but could call him now and ask or tell him anything.

Oh - just like me. And that's really what I'm getting at. We are only talking about a very small number of people - and life is too busy to pick up the phone every so often for a wee chat. Yes - I know we blokes don't do that sort of stuff - I don't for all reasons you and others have said. But maybe I should - just a little bit more. As I hinted at - we could all go tomorrow.