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Well I played today in stableford comp and the two gentlemen who I was playing with started the round before I had even hit a ball with comments like " 24, I wouldn't give you more than 18" and "the handicap committee were nice to you hay" bearing in mind I did not know these blokes I thought oh so this is going to be interesting or I'm going to hate it. Anyway nothing changed and they could not help but make smarmy remarks so to say it was one round I really did not enjoy. If I played a good shot they fell silent but then when I hit a bad one they made comments. These two blokes were in there 60's and both played off around 10. My question is why do people have to act like this just because I'm a high handicapper and im young. Just for your information I scored 31 points and they scored 26 and 32. I walked away quite upset and to be honest I think after the 4th hole I just wanted to walk off and tell them to shove it. I was looking so forward to this comp as we don't have many stableford comps and I knew I could of played better but I lost interest after the comments did not stop.
 
Darren24 said:
Well I played today in stableford comp and the two gentlemen who I was playing with started the round before I had even hit a ball with comments like " 24, I wouldn't give you more than 18" and "the handicap committee were nice to you hay" bearing in mind I did not know these blokes I thought oh so this is going to be interesting or I'm going to hate it. Anyway nothing changed and they could not help but make smarmy remarks so to say it was one round I really did not enjoy. If I played a good shot they fell silent but then when I hit a bad one they made comments. These two blokes were in there 60's and both played off around 10. My question is why do people have to act like this just because I'm a high handicapper and im young. Just for your information I scored 31 points and they scored 26 and 32. I walked away quite upset and to be honest I think after the 4th hole I just wanted to walk off and tell them to shove it. I was looking so forward to this comp as we don't have many stableford comps and I knew I could of played better but I lost interest after the comments did not stop.
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Unforunately there are a few prats in all walks of life just got to learn to deal with it the best way you can me old mucker.
 
Darren24 said:
Well I played today in stableford comp and the two gentlemen who I was playing with started the round before I had even hit a ball with comments like " 24, I wouldn't give you more than 18" and "the handicap committee were nice to you hay" bearing in mind I did not know these blokes I thought oh so this is going to be interesting or I'm going to hate it. Anyway nothing changed and they could not help but make smarmy remarks so to say it was one round I really did not enjoy. If I played a good shot they fell silent but then when I hit a bad one they made comments. These two blokes were in there 60's and both played off around 10. My question is why do people have to act like this just because I'm a high handicapper and im young. Just for your information I scored 31 points and they scored 26 and 32. I walked away quite upset and to be honest I think after the 4th hole I just wanted to walk off and tell them to shove it. I was looking so forward to this comp as we don't have many stableford comps and I knew I could of played better but I lost interest after the comments did not stop.
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Some people are just permanently miserable.
 
Darren24 said:
Well I played today in stableford comp and the two gentlemen who I was playing with started the round before I had even hit a ball with comments like " 24, I wouldn't give you more than 18" and "the handicap committee were nice to you hay" bearing in mind I did not know these blokes I thought oh so this is going to be interesting or I'm going to hate it. Anyway nothing changed and they could not help but make smarmy remarks so to say it was one round I really did not enjoy. If I played a good shot they fell silent but then when I hit a bad one they made comments. These two blokes were in there 60's and both played off around 10. My question is why do people have to act like this just because I'm a high handicapper and im young. Just for your information I scored 31 points and they scored 26 and 32. I walked away quite upset and to be honest I think after the 4th hole I just wanted to walk off and tell them to shove it. I was looking so forward to this comp as we don't have many stableford comps and I knew I could of played better but I lost interest after the comments did not stop.
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Its a shame that there are these [put your own words in here] at every club, its what gets spoken about more than the positives and as such probably deters many younger golfers from joining clubs, they are a hinderer to clubs and not an asset in any way, the quicker the flag is at half mast for these blinkered and insular individuals the better!
 
I certainly did not buy them a drink I didn't even sit with them as I would do with all other playing partners. Found out they are both on the handicap committee. I for sure will not be putting my name down in a comp with them again.
 
Darren24 said:
Well I played today in stableford comp and the two gentlemen who I was playing with started the round before I had even hit a ball with comments like " 24, I wouldn't give you more than 18" and "the handicap committee were nice to you hay" bearing in mind I did not know these blokes I thought oh so this is going to be interesting or I'm going to hate it. Anyway nothing changed and they could not help but make smarmy remarks so to say it was one round I really did not enjoy. If I played a good shot they fell silent but then when I hit a bad one they made comments. These two blokes were in there 60's and both played off around 10. My question is why do people have to act like this just because I'm a high handicapper and im young. Just for your information I scored 31 points and they scored 26 and 32. I walked away quite upset and to be honest I think after the 4th hole I just wanted to walk off and tell them to shove it. I was looking so forward to this comp as we don't have many stableford comps and I knew I could of played better but I lost interest after the comments did not stop.
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Head up mate, don't let the miserables sods win!
 
Old Skier said:
Darren, best way to deal with it was to sit with them and suggest their handicaps are to low and they must have been dealt harshly at the review.
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Exactly, 1 of them shot 10 over and the other 4 over and you, a relative young newcomer only shot 5 over and yet they have many, MANY years under their belt, so for me, you had the better day :smirk:
 
Thanks fellas for the kind words just can't get my head round why people who play the sport can be so bitter and nasty over a handicap. For all they know I could off been a complete novice and never played in a competitive comp before. It was and kinda still is disheartening for me. I'm a nervous golfer anyway and this doesn't help me. Going to try and forget about it and hopefully enjoy the next comp.
 
Darren24 said:
Thanks fellas for the kind words just can't get my head round why people who play the sport can be so bitter and nasty over a handicap. For all they know I could off been a complete novice and never played in a competitive comp before. It was and kinda still is disheartening for me. I'm a nervous golfer anyway and this doesn't help me. Going to try and forget about it and hopefully enjoy the next comp.
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Where do you play Darren?
 
I get it quite a lot Darren. Just play your game and smile.
I haven't been in comps for a while now (leaving of one club and brief break and now back at another) so playing got better but handicap hasn't had the chance to go down yet. Im sure over the course of the next few comps I will get it and I'm fine with that because we're all out there enjoying our day and doing what we love to do when we have free time and I won't let people like that take that away from me, I work too bloody hard for me to think to hard about their thoughts and comments.
The word bandit gets thrown around like wildfire - and being fairly young and having a relatively decent swing it's commented at me numerous times from the 1st tee onwards…
When your single digits and you push hard to get close to 36pts on a stable ford only then will none of the above happen! So just smile and play your game and ENJOY!!!!!!
 
Same thing happened to me last year...Got to the point where someone started a rumour that I used to play off 4 when I was a teenager and just handed in 3 crap cards to get a high hcp!

But as a previous poster said you get these types of people in all walks of life. Fair play for sticking it out and you now know to avoid them :thup:
 
There is a breed of golfer who can see nothing other than, or be remotely impressed by, anyone on the course other than themselves or their mates.

Golf, more than other games, is apt to bring out the green-eyed envy monster in those who are self-obsessed and deluded by their own misperceptions regarding their (quite often) somewhat ordinary abilities.
 
Like most of you have said, just enjoy it. That is what gets me I go out to enjoy it that is why I pay my membership so I would of thought everyone if not most are in the same boat. To me they are paying for a hobby to slate anyone with a high handicap. Surely they don't get enjoyment out of that. I play at Curzon park Chester. Oh I also forgot to mention one was a master of rules and reminded me of any rules I could of possibly broke if I do this that or the other when I was not going to do this that or the other. I will well and truly be avoiding these blokes for future comps.
 
Darren24 said:
Like most of you have said, just enjoy it. That is what gets me I go out to enjoy it that is why I pay my membership so I would of thought everyone if not most are in the same boat. To me they are paying for a hobby to slate anyone with a high handicap. Surely they don't get enjoyment out of that. I play at Curzon park Chester. Oh I also forgot to mention one was a master of rules and reminded me of any rules I could of possibly broke if I do this that or the other when I was not going to do this that or the other. I will well and truly be avoiding these blokes for future comps.
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Sounds like you got stuck with two absolute edjits and the sort of golf snobs that give the game a bad name. The lesser spotted potential rule infringement warner is more often than not the club's biggest pillock.
 
Darren24 said:
Like most of you have said, just enjoy it. That is what gets me I go out to enjoy it that is why I pay my membership so I would of thought everyone if not most are in the same boat. To me they are paying for a hobby to slate anyone with a high handicap. Surely they don't get enjoyment out of that. I play at Curzon park Chester. Oh I also forgot to mention one was a master of rules and reminded me of any rules I could of possibly broke if I do this that or the other when I was not going to do this that or the other. I will well and truly be avoiding these blokes for future comps.
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Well if you're up in the NE, please drop me a message and we can enjoy a relaxed game up here.
 
6inchcup said:
no man should get more than a shot per hole and no one under 16 should play in mens comps.END OF THREAD.
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At my last clubs we had 13 year olds in cat 1.... Do you feel embarrassed watching a kid show you how easy the game is?
 
TopOfTheFlop said:
I get it quite a lot Darren. Just play your game and smile.
I haven't been in comps for a while now (leaving of one club and brief break and now back at another) so playing got better but handicap hasn't had the chance to go down yet. Im sure over the course of the next few comps I will get it and I'm fine with that because we're all out there enjoying our day and doing what we love to do when we have free time and I won't let people like that take that away from me, I work too bloody hard for me to think to hard about their thoughts and comments.
The word bandit gets thrown around like wildfire - and being fairly young and having a relatively decent swing it's commented at me numerous times from the 1st tee onwards…
When your single digits and you push hard to get close to 36pts on a stable ford only then will none of the above happen! So just smile and play your game and ENJOY!!!!!!
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Slightly Off Topic....
Having seen you play close up, then 'bandit' is certainly a word that I can imagine springs to mind - but, for me, only in the best possible way! It's not up to you to feel guilty about the system not being able to keep up with your improvement - there are ways for it to do so and I hope you keep exercising them! I'm sure you will enjoy Blackmoor too - good choice!

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Unfortunate that you got paired up with a couple of prats! Did you ask them for the basis on which they decided they'd only allow 18? As others have posted, there's vain idiots like this at almost all clubs, probably still clinging to the hope that they can continue to be competitive - by knocking other players! More congrats on persevering too! Avoiding them in the future is the diplomatic way to handle it!
 
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