Anyone else get frustrated in Pairs matches?

[Spinn77]

Today playing in our better ball competition i was the lowest h'cap, giving 3/4's to everyone else - my partner getting 8, the other side getting a 6 and an 8 too.

I probably shot a +6 and we lost by 2 holes, i shot -2 for the back nine. My partner didnt come in on a single hole, so i either halved or won the holes myself.....i was getting pretty annoyed but you can't really say anything can you?!

I practically played them on my own!

We're playing the same pair in greensomes next week i think too in the semi final, great...!

 

[Robobum]

Erm, might be worth revisiting this thread after you've had a stinker and your partner has carried you round!!

 

[HomerJSimpson]

Ask HTL. He's carried me all season

 

[pokerjoke]

You win and lose together simple as that,maybe you could encourage your mate a bit and help him relax.If you feel hes the wrong partner for you maybe you should change.

 

[brendy]

To be honest, I see the partner competitions as a bit of a novelty, if you win in the final or lose in the quarters, it doesnt matter. As long as you keep it fun rather than apologising to each other.

 

[Spinn77]

I know what you're saying, but, even if i'm having a bad round, i'll prob still make half dozen pars, or come in on a few holes at least.

I didnt play a great round in the first round, but i came in on about 5 or 6 holes. Need to help each other out all the way round if you can to have a decent chance

Not coming in, during a whole match that runs the full 18 is pretty abissmal. Im just annoyed as I basically played two fella's on my own...given that he's getting the same amount of shots as their 'worse' player he should be able to give them a game on HIS own, without me.


can you tell i'm not happy??
At least the opens hotting up, the Europeans are looking good now - think this leader will drop out of it before this time tomorrow

 

[Spinn77]

Agreed - there's no point constantly saying sorry - no one means to hit a crap shot. Feeling the need to apologise really saps the enthusiasm!

Poker- Not sure i completely agree with the win/lose together idea. Its a nice concept but i reckon you should expect some contribution over a whole round, that'd be an acceptable 'together' score. Wouldnt you feel a bit gutted if you played under your handicap but got zero help and lost. What on earth could you have really done about it?

Not overly bothered to be out, the manner of it was annoying, but i've a lot more interest in the single competitions where you tend to get what you deserve - generally speaking.

 

[USER1999]

That's the 'joy' of team events, which is why I play golf, not footy. This is way worse in proper team sports. Every one is entitled to the odd bad day though. One day, it could be you. Golf has a habit of biting you in the bum.

 

[RGDave]

Every one is entitled to the odd bad day though. One day, it could be you. Golf has a habit of biting you in the bum.

Sorry to be harsh, but if you were 6 over h'cap you can't only blame your partner....
My partner contributes far less than me but when he does, it makes a real difference.
Try to do your best in the next game and if your partner doesn't help you again, find another one.

 

[HomerJSimpson]

HTL played two guys on his on at Maidenhead recently as I had a horrid day shanking on almost every hole and he still took them to the 18th. Actually I lie. I came in on the 2nd and 5th. That was it. Two winning putts on short holes. Big deal.

I think you're being a touch harsh. Its great that you had a great day but I'm sure your partner is at home thinking what a lousy game it is and feeling pretty fed up with golf without you having a pop at the way he played

 

[Leftie]

I probably shot a +6

So realistically your partner didn't have much of an opportunity to shine. Have you even looked at what your partner scored?? It's possible that he might have won or halved some holes if you hadn't. If you shot 2 under your h/cap and still lost by 2 holes then your opponents played and gelled well.

As others have said, you have to take each other's game on the day - win or lose.

 

[jammydodger]

Crikey mate if you cant handle losing then dont enter pairs comps. To put the blame on your partner is not a great thing to do is it ? If he's your mate then it shouldnt bother you how he plays , if hes not your mate then dont play with him next year.

Who cares who scores on each hole , if you win by one hole and your partner only came in on one hole then hes done enough to get you the win.

I dont think i'd like to play with you as my partner as it sounds like you take it all far too seriously and the last thing you need is your partner getting arsey cause youre not playing as well as he thinks you should be.

 

[Imurg]

I got frustrated playing a doubles with CVG earlier in the year. I was giving shots away and we lost on the SI 2 hole. Giving only 2 shots to their "best" player he had one on this hole.
I need a shot on this hole. Its an uphill 400+ yarder. Its hard. Knowing that he was going to probably nett par it meant I had to go for a par. CVG tried but missed a putt. I made a decent 5 and we lost.

Its a team thing though. We both contributed and messed up too. If you can't accept someone not playing well then you're better off not going in for the team events.

 

[Spinn77]

Every one is entitled to the odd bad day though. One day, it could be you. Golf has a habit of biting you in the bum.

Sorry to be harsh, but if you were 6 over h'cap you can't only blame your partner....
My partner contributes far less than me but when he does, it makes a real difference.
Try to do your best in the next game and if your partner doesn't help you again, find another one.

Not harsh at all - I was 6 over, gross. Playing off 8, so i did okay. Which was my point, i wish he'd have come in to make the difference like your fella does

 

[Spinn77]

Crikey mate if you cant handle losing then dont enter pairs comps. To put the blame on your partner is not a great thing to do is it ? If he's your mate then it shouldnt bother you how he plays , if hes not your mate then dont play with him next year.

Who cares who scores on each hole , if you win by one hole and your partner only came in on one hole then hes done enough to get you the win.

I dont think i'd like to play with you as my partner as it sounds like you take it all far too seriously and the last thing you need is your partner getting arsey cause youre not playing as well as he thinks you should be.

I didn't get arsey once. that's a bit presumptious. I was quite encouraging in fact, im quite a mature adult and would dream of throwing clubs or making snide comments. I like to win, but more importantly its nicer to do yourself justice and make an effort.

 

[HawkeyeMS]

You're talking like you've never had a bad round. Pairs events are difficult for several reasons.

Firstly, we are club golfers and have bad rounds. No matter how good your partner is you can't rely on him bringing his A game.

Second, to win you either have to both play well or hope that you dovetail so that you don't have good or bad holes at the same time. This happening is down to luck and completely out of your control. I played 2 rounds yesterday, they weren't pairs but lets say for example they were. In the morning I played well, 38 points with a blob. In the afternoon I played very inconsistenly, 25 points with 7 blobs (off of 8). Either of those rounds could have contributed briliantly to a pairs match but it would depend entirely on what my partner did.

Third, playing pairs puts pressure on because people don't want to let their partner down, as a result, they may not play as well as you know they can, a bit like some players struggle with a card in their hand.

The best players don't always win, sometimes the luckiest ones do. You need a change of attitude and to give your partner a break. I hope he doesn't read this messageboard cause if I was him I'd be a bit miffed reading your post.

 

[Spinn77]

Have my posts been critical of him - Im not sure they have been. I've only really spoken about my own frustrations. Re-read my post perhaps. I have; i mentioned not coming in at all over 18 holes being abissmal - that's not aimed at him, thats a fact for any of us.

Feel like i'm being overly defensive now, and that i havent put anything which needs to be defended...

 

[HawkeyeMS]

Have my posts been critical of him - Im not sure they have been.

This is quite critical of him...

I probably shot a +6 and we lost by 2 holes, i shot -2 for the back nine. My partner didnt come in on a single hole, so i either halved or won the holes myself.....i was getting pretty annoyed but you can't really say anything can you?!

 

[RGDave]

Now I understand...you were 6 over GROSS. That changes things somewhat....
Well played.... , bad luck.

 

[Spinn77]

Have my posts been critical of him - Im not sure they have been.

This is quite critical of him...

I probably shot a +6 and we lost by 2 holes, i shot -2 for the back nine. My partner didnt come in on a single hole, so i either halved or won the holes myself.....i was getting pretty annoyed but you can't really say anything can you?!

Are you sure?

"My partner didn't come in on a single hole". That's a fact, not a critism.

"i was getting pretty annoyed but you can't really say anything can you?". Not critical of him at all - critical of myself more than anything.