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Played a tie last night against a guy who didn't say a word other than "flag out OK?" until the 10 green.

walked off after his tee shorts and stood by his ball, except on the 7th when i was in front of him, got to my ball he was still buggering around on the tee a good 250 yards behind me, so had to wait for him as his ball was just a bit further back than i so him to go first.

He was off 5 as well so no shots.. once he was 2 up a different guy???

I tend to treat any ties as i would a bounce game with a mate and am quite chatty, so this was very strange!!!


what would you do in these situation ?

PS lost on the 19th:(
 
I ask LOTS of questions to people like that, no need for that sullen behaviour on the amateur golf course.

We do this for fun and enjoyment and its not only pleasant but manners to 'chat' with the person you are complied to play with for 3-4 hrs. Anything else is just plain rude!
 
patricks148 said:
Played a tie last night against a guy who didn't say a word other than "flag out OK?" until the 10 green.

walked off after his tee shorts and stood by his ball, except on the 7th when i was in front of him, got to my ball he was still buggering around on the tee a good 250 yards behind me, so had to wait for him as his ball was just a bit further back than i so him to go first.

He was off 5 as well so no shots.. once he was 2 up a different guy???

I tend to treat any ties as i would a bounce game with a mate and am quite chatty, so this was very strange!!!


what would you do in these situation ?

PS lost on the 19th:(
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Hope you didn't have to wait too long to get off on the 19th..... :whistle:

Seems weird. I play golf as much for the social/enjoyment side of things as much as the competition. Would just have got on with it but would think he was a bit of an oddball. Or takes his golf way too seriously!
 
Luckily these types are few and far between. I always try an initiate chat.

If I knew the guy was trying to stay in his own little bubble I would try even harder to talk to him about anything - Weather, holidays, what clubs he used, where he's played in the past, what school he went to etc.
 
Would talk to him - have had it before in a club match where my partner was a mute and just ignored the great banter that was going on - I had a great time with the other two and they enjoyed the banter. They did ask why he was so quiet - I don't really know as we all tried to encourage him but it appears he wanted to concentrate on his game ?!
 
some people are just strange fish! n.b. not our fish ;)



you could use the old lee Trevino line... “I don’t want you to talk. I just want you to listen.”
 
When they're like that I tend to talk to them (a lot), ask questions, make small talk as much as possible. I basically become like a hairdresser "where you going on holiday?", "nice weather for the time of year" etc etc etc.
I figure it's more interesting than just wandering about in silence, otherwise I may as well just put my iPod on.
 
some like to chat, others dont. To try and force them into a chat just because it suits you is wrong.
 
in a social game i dont mind a bit of banter about anything any everything,but in a comp i would not expect to have 18 holes of drivel,yes polite comment on a good shot or putt,but apart from that i like to concentrate on the game and i have told people this in the past when playing in county knock out comps.
 
Definitely try to noise him up by asking lots of closed questions where he'd have to give a sensible answer. If he still wouldn't talk....... I'd find some other way to p him off :o
 
6inchcup said:
in a social game i dont mind a bit of banter about anything any everything,but in a comp i would not expect to have 18 holes of drivel,yes polite comment on a good shot or putt,but apart from that i like to concentrate on the game and i have told people this in the past when playing in county knock out comps.
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so you would happily walk round with someone for 3 hours without speaking to them then?
 
if I am spending the guts of 4 hours with someone wandering around a field I would expect at least some polite conversation while we walked together. its only polite.

if the guy doesn't want to talk, he could at least humour you until you break off to go get your ball. stomping away down the fairway on your own for 18 holes is plain rude!

respecting his right to silent concentration when its comes to getting ready for his shot is obligatory.

imagine 3 of these guys in your normal 4 ball! :mad:
 
Gil_Emott said:
When they're like that I tend to talk to them (a lot), ask questions, make small talk as much as possible. I basically become like a hairdresser "where you going on holiday?", "nice weather for the time of year" etc etc etc.
I figure it's more interesting than just wandering about in silence, otherwise I may as well just put my iPod on.
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You nailed it Gil!! I am assuming it was some sort of tactic, or even if not, your chatter would irritate the hell out of them.
 
6inchcup said:
in a social game i dont mind a bit of banter about anything any everything,but in a comp i would not expect to have 18 holes of drivel,yes polite comment on a good shot or putt,but apart from that i like to concentrate on the game and i have told people this in the past when playing in county knock out comps.
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Even in between shots when walking together or waiting on the tee ?
 
Retread61 said:
You nailed it Gil!! I am assuming it was some sort of tactic, or even if not, your chatter would irritate the hell out of them.
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To be honest it would probably put me off just as much as them, but I would just get so bored not talking for 3-4 hrs. It's hobby, not a profession for me (and you even see Tour Pro's chatting when walking down fairways some of the time - Tiger included), so let's enjoy it.

If told not to talk, like with post # 10, I couldn't help myself but to get the odd chat going...and I'm a quiet & reserved type of guy!
Not necessarily for gamesmanship, just because I'd think the other person was a bit of a tool!
 
Welcome to my world - seems the more competitive the golf the more players feel the need to "focus" aka "be rude". Just polite conversation is all I ask - not their life story but something other than stony silence for 18 holes. Puts me right off that "level" of golf and think some suffer from delusions of grandeur!
 
Im sure we all take it seriously enough whilst playing a golf shot but in between surely you need to have a bit of chat just to pass the time & help you relax etc? Even if its minimal because your a quiet person the odd little comment here and there to each other makes the time much more enjoyable.

Maybe in the OP situation he should have just had a chat with himself?

"Weather been nice this week hasn't it?"
(different accent) "Yeah its lovely, lets hope it lasts"
"You been out playing much?"
(different accent) "Not as much as usual, work has been very busy"
 
AmandaJR said:
Welcome to my world - seems the more competitive the golf the more players feel the need to "focus" aka "be rude". Just polite conversation is all I ask - not their life story but something other than stony silence for 18 holes. Puts me right off that "level" of golf and think some suffer from delusions of grandeur!
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That can't be right surly..... two women not talking?????? not posible:rofl:;)
 
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